Be Mindful Of Your Thoughts

Here’s how to be mindful of your limiting thoughts, beliefs & her tests so you don’t blow your chances of getting laid! One of the biggest obstacles to a guy succeeding with women is the limiting thoughts and beliefs of his mind. When a guy becomes fearful that he may not get what he wants, it causes him to start holding back. To not try as hard because the outcome or end result is in doubt. You should learn to think from the end when it comes to seducing women. Just put it in the back your mind that by the end of the evening, you are going to be deep inside of her. Therefore, relax… it’s in the bag! All you have to do is focus on making her laugh, and having a good time. When she starts touching you and initiating contact when she feels more comfortable as the evening progresses, then you reciprocate touching and affection slowly. When she backs away, let her go, she’ll be back in a few minutes. Plus, it is a subtle test to make sure you are not a stalker. Stalkers will chase which ruins attraction. Sometimes women will playfully say the opposite of what they mean hoping you figure out what they’re really saying. This keeps things interesting and from getting dull, boring or stagnant in your romance. However, as a man, it is your job to guide the evening so it ends up in the bedroom later on. The following is an e-mail from a reader who has been sleeping with one of his coworkers who lives with her boyfriend. Her boyfriend has recently become aware of the affair, but he has told her he wants her to be happy. So, she continues the affair but changes things up a little bit this time when she contacts him to meet up secretly. She meets up with him for drinks after telling him no sex tonight. He is confused by her no sex comment. The evening does not go like he wanted it to, and now he is scratching his head. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Hi Corey,

It’s me again. I’m the office affair guy. Well, quick update. I was at work yesterday… Saturday… I know! and hadn’t communicated with her since Tuesday. So around 5pm, she IMs me outta the blue asking me a couple questions. (Translation: “I’m horny and want to see you again. I hope you will create a fun filled opportunity for sex to happen like you always do. So I’m gonna just contact you now hoping you get my hint and what I want, and seduce me because you know what to do. I don’t want to think about anything. I just want to show up and be swept off my feet because you’ve got all the details handled. Don’t ask me what I want to do, invite me to do something you’ve got planned out; but don’t tell me what’s going to happen. I’d rather discover it slowly over the course of the evening what you have planned for us.”)

Then, she asks me “Do you want to meet up for drinks tonight? Without craziness of course.” (Translation: “With craziness of course.”) “Craziness” is our little secret word for going back to my place… (She brought it up. She wants you to seduce her so she can blame you for it. She declared she did not want it: therefore, if you end up having sex… IT’S YOUR FAULT and she won’t have to feel guilty… she bullshits herself. Guilty pleasure. This is how she tries to keep herself from feeling guilty about having an affair. As long as you keep it drama free, fun and fulfilling, she’ll keep coming back again and again for the catnip.)

If you recall, we had a rough patch since her boyfriend found out about us, and she became distant. In our last get together, last Monday 13th, she also mentioned she didn’t want to go turn up super late at her place. She lives about an hr away from me using public transportation. So, to her advances I replied, “without craziness of course?”. She replies “Yes, because I won’t go back to your place, even though maybe I wasn’t invited; with a wink smiley at the end… ;)” (Translation: “I hope you get my sexual innuendo that I want you to take me back to your place and fuck my brains out!!!! I’m hot for you, but I am bluffing to test your strength. I want you to penetrate me with your strength and break thru my token resistance and barriers to you.” You fucked up by not recognizing the fact she altered her approach a little bit. It was a test you failed. James Bond would have none of that shit. He would have said, “I got ya, you want me to take you back to my place later and fuck your brains out.” Even if she would have replied, “No seriously, I don’t want to have sex tonight.” Him: “Whatever, we’re going to be fucking later and you’re going to be screaming in ecstasy because it’s going to be so good and so hot! Her: “Whatever!” Him: “I might not always be right, but I’m never wrong.” with his naughty little boy look. She knows that he knows that she wants him bad. It’s all part of her game. This is romance to her. Will it happen tonight or won’t it? She called him after all. James Bond does not chase women. They come to him. Khaled, this girl is still chasing you. She just changed her approach a little bit to mix things up and make it interesting. Instead you got confused and held back; therefore, you were responsible for your own happy finish later. Be direct. It ALWAYS ends up in bed later. Why? Because this is what always happens when chicks contact you and you meet up. You create a romantic fun-filled opportunity for sex to happen. Rinse. Recycle. Repeat. THEY CALL YOU BECAUSE THEY WANT YOU!!!! You need to step up your game homie.)

I go on with “Come on, you do whatever you feel like! 😉 8pm at X is good?” She agrees, and we meet up later. By the way, her BF and friends went to a concert, which she was invited to but decided to pass… So we spent the first part of the evening, until 10pm, getting drinks. We saw her brother who I hadn’t met before. She seemed a bit flustered since her bro knows her BF really well. (Yea, but blood’s thicker than water. He just wants his baby/big sister to be happy.) Then we keep having a good time laughing and flirting, but she keeps saying “Wow, I can’t believe you met my bro.” with a smile. (She’s pulling you into her world. She probably told her brother you are the potential replacement for her boyfriend. He obviously does not make her feel the way you do. That is why she chases you.) She also mentions several times that I was acting “different,” more distant. (Translation: “You have changed your approach and I am no longer so sure of where I stand with you. I like this because it makes me want you more.” Women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear.) She then asks “so this is your new strategy now?” WOW, I answered back “what strategy? (Good job!!! Women do this to men all the time. Love is playful and fun, not serious. Always have a better comeback. Always diffuse with humor.) I told YOU to contact me when YOU were starting to miss me, silly girl!” She took it well. (Great comeback! Good job!)

Then, we go to a restaurant up until 11:30 pm, where it’s good. Lots of great eye contact. We leave and end up making out for 45 minutes in various spots. Very heated as per usual. We then take different subways home at midnight and the night’s done. (You got SOLD!!! She sold you on why you two shouldn’t have had sex. Instead of you selling her on why you should have.) She initiated the “date” and we had a good time. Didn’t kiss at the bar nor the restaurant. But lots of and very heated making out at the end before leaving. In fact, I would say it was one of the most heating make out sessions in a while, short of sex of course. (Yea, but an unnecessary case of blue balls is not erased by a little kissy-poo. Deep down she wanted you to have the confidence to seduce her anyways.)

My question to you is, what did she mean by “no craziness of course” (Craziness OF COURSE!!!! It’s a game. Can you figure it out? That’s just one of the ways a woman makes love playful and fun. It simply built sexual tension for the next time. Do nothing. Meet some other women dude! Practice, practice, practice. Repetition is the mother of skill.) when she initiated the date? Is she taking the time to warm up to me again or was it a test, when she really DID want to go back to my place? (Duh! It was a test, which… you failed miserably. That’s why you didn’t get laid. You were too afraid and too timid to go for the close.)

I guess don’t understand why she ruled out sex from the start, even though the night was just as flirtatious and heated as those nights that we went back to my place. I can assure you that! (You were impotent in purpose. Too afraid to take what was offered to you. Next time she calls, don’t hold back. Go for what you want when it gets heated when you are together. Be the man. You’re the one with the penis. Feminine energy is submissive. Not masculine energy. She threw out a bogus meme for the evening, which you promptly absorbed as your own thinking and acted accordingly. Mr. nice guy came back. See? Your tests are getting harder. Pay attention! Be mindful of your thoughts padawan. You thought you weren’t getting laid, so you did not even try. Self fulfilling prophecy.) We haven’t gone back to my place in two weeks, ever since her BF found out. Maybe she’s trying to restrain from sex with her “lover” until things get clearer in her mind? (No, just until your balls drop back down, and you go for it next time she offers herself to you. She puts herself in your orbit so you will do what a man is supposed to do. Create an opportunity for sex to happen. You are the king of your castle. She contacted you to come to your castle. You became submissive to her ideas. You sold her and yourself on no sex.) I don’t know man. Also, she knew that if she’d gone home with me, she would have gotten back to her place no earlier than 2am. That’s when her BF would have been back already. That’s my theory at least. (He said he did not care what she did. He wanted her to be happy. She called you to make her happy. You had a great time together, but it simply did not end the way it could have. You set the vision for your life. So create it! You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)

Thanks

Khaled

“We will act consistently with our view of who we truly are, whether that view is accurate or not.” ~ Tony Robbins