I Don’t Understand Her Actions!

Why women who previously did not care about you will start chasing you once you walk away & start having feelings for you. It’s counterintuitive what I teach about women. By the time a little boy grows up and becomes a man by the time he is 18 to 20 years old, he has seen thousands of movies and TV programs that have conditioned him to believe he must act like a stalker to get the women he desires to love him. I talk to and answer e-mails from men who are located all over the world. TV and media has been brainwashing men all over the planet for decades with this dysfunctional behavior of acting needy and like a stalker to get the women they desire to love them. It is obvious to me that most of the people who write most movies and TV programs, are totally clueless and unsuccessful in their relationships. They are after all in the business of make-believe. Therefore, they create stories and scripts based upon the way they wish the world to be, instead of the way that it is. When you watch TV or a movie, you go into a trance like state where you just receive information. After thousands of hours of bad conditioning over several years or decades, you start to accept that what you see and hear in the world of make-believe, is reality. That’s why I don’t watch much TV at all. I can’t stand to watch garbage or to fill up my mind with nonsense. The following is an e-mail from a reader who walked away after a woman he was dating dumped him and told him she had no feelings for him whatsoever. He is shocked and stunned that a week ago she started texting him again and blowing up his phone. He followed what I teach to do when you get dumped by a girl you really like, but he’s totally confused as to why after a whole month of no contact, she’s enthusiastically contacting him and wanting to see him again. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Hi Corey,

My name is Ray, and I have something I want to ask you. I’m 22 years young, and I started dating my co-worker a few months ago. She’s 19. We were dating for three months, but then out of the blue she just cut me off. She said that there is no spark between us and she doesn’t have any feelings towards me whatsoever. (Translation: “You’ve turned me off with your weak behavior and therefore I’ve lost interest.”) She was just out of serious relationship, and her ex boyfriend was cheating on her with his friend. Although, I was putting a lot of effort into our dates and tried to keep her entertained and interested. Could it be that I was trying too hard? (Yes, you must give women the space and time to miss you and feel uncertain of where they stand with you. If you are smothering to them it will cause them to back away and break up with you. It’s the woman who is supposed to wonder where she stands and work to get your attention. Women love to wonder about the future of their relationship… will it work out or will it not work out?, etc. Science has proven women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear.) I do realize that if she has no feelings for me, there’s nothing I can do about it. So I accepted the situation as it is, and let her go; not like I had a choice. (True that! Good job for being man enough to accept this possibility and walk away.) I didn’t send a ton of messages, and I didn’t cry over the phone telling her how much I like her and how much I want her. (That never works anyways, it only confirms to the woman that they made the right choice in dumping you.) I did learn this trick from your videos! (Way to pay attention and take action! Knowledge is only potential power. Knowledge only becomes power when you apply what you know.) We didn’t contact each-other for a month or so. Only at work a little bit of a formal chat. Hi, bye, etc. Anyway, a week ago she started texting me again and I realized that she wants to date me again. So I clearly asked “Hey Lets try again!” (Easy, slow down with the dating/relationship/getting back together talk. You need to let her come to you at her own pace so you don’t ruin attraction again and cause her to reject and dump you a second time.) Sure we are dating now! (Slow down Mr. Eager Beaver! Relationship, dating, being exclusive, etc. is for the woman to bring up and discuss. If she’s not bringing it up, you should never suggest it. Why? Because if she wanted or was ready for a relationship, she would bring it up. Let women chase you!) And it seems that she puts a lot of effort into all of this to get it working! (That is a sign of high interest. Women make it obvious when they like you.) I just don’t understand her actions at all! If she didn’t have any feelings for me, where did they come from!? (You walked away like a man must when he gets dumped. It’s the only way to get her back. After she got hit on for a month by douche-bags and by men who don’t understand women, 97% of all men don’t understand women, she realized you were a pretty good catch. Plus, you didn’t run after her like a little pussy. Since you walked away, her interest in you went up. It’s counter-intuitive, but that’s how women work.) Or am I just her plan B? Or, did she really need a rest from the previous relationship, and now shes ready to move on? (She may have needed time to heal, but she bailed because you tried too hard to make it work and never gave her a chance to chase you and try to win you. Therefore, you weren’t a challenge and she got bored and disinterested.) I’m really confused! Please Corey Help me! (It’s awesome that you are confused! It means you are about to learn something. Your girl responded normally to your bad behavior. You need to clean up your game so you don’t blow this new chance you have with her. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)

Bob

“Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves.” ~ Albert Einstein