Sneaking One Past The Goalie

Here is what to do if you find yourself in a situation where you are sleeping with a woman who is still hooking up with her on-again/off-again boyfriend, and you want her to choose you over him. The most important thing is to not try to force her to choose him or you. The guy who knows the most about women, and who demonstrates more dominant alpha male behavior is who she will choose in time. That is why it is important that you know what I teach in my book backwards and forwards. It will give you the upper hand over 97% of the men in this world. As you do more things right and he does more things wrong, she will spend more time with you and less time with him. Trying to force her to make a decision or to choose you, communicates that you fear not being chosen because you think the other guy is better. Therefore, she will agree with you and choose him. It’s always best to let her come to you. Especially if the other guy knows there is another guy in the picture she may end up choosing over him. Since most men don’t understand women, there is a very good chance that he will chase her which forces her to chase you and choose you over him, if, and only if, you hang back and let her come to you. If she has to work to get you, she will choose you. If you both chase her, she will choose the one who chases the least, or some other 3rd guy who doesn’t chase her at all. If you act like a dominant male, she can’t help but choose you. Women are naturally attracted to dominate male behavior. The following is an e-mail I got from a reader. It’s a doozy! He is involved in a love triangle with a woman who is sleeping with him and her ex-boyfriend who she recently moved back in with. On top of that, she is pregnant and unsure which one is the father! Therefore, she wants both of them in the delivery room when she gives birth. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Hey Corey,

I’m a Long time fan of yours. Haven’t gotten around to reading your book. (Why not? You are making things way harder on yourself than they need to be. It’s kind of hard to get to your destination if you don’t have a map: You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) Plan on doing that, while I wait for a response to this question. So, here goes. I used to work for Coca Cola, where I was a route sales / driver. I would take product into the store. This required me to meet new people. In one of the stores, I met, and developed a relationship with 2 girls. Both of which were friends. I began to date one of them, which didn’t lead to anything, as frankly, I was more interested in her friend, whom this story is about. The two of them are not friends anymore, and the girl I am having problems with, cheated on her boyfriend with me. She broke it off with him afterwards, and we were a couple for about 3 weeks. After that time, she went back to her previous boyfriend, who said he don’t care if she cheats on him. She is pregnant with either his or my baby, (Love triangle. That sounds fun.) and wants us both to be in the delivery room when she gives birth. Can you believe that? (I’ll call Jerry Springer!) Anyway, I care about her, so I am cool with that. (Different strokes for different folks. Whatever blows your skirt up dude. Whatever floats your boat.)

She is now living with him again, but still contacts me, (She can have her cake and eat it too. Her boyfriend don’t care, so she says. So she can hook up with you for the sex she likes, and stay with him for the stability she likes.) and even went to meet my mother last week. She says she can’t decide who she wants to be with, and that I should give her time. (She is with him now. She has no pressure to make a decision. If you try to force her to choose, she will just stay with him.) She has also said that the only reason her and I hooked up in the first place, was because of the first girl I was talking to. They were friends, and I guess they spoke about what kind of guy I am. We have had sex since she got back with her boyfriend, But about a week afterwards, we talked about it, and she said that it was great, but she feels guilty about cheating on her boyfriend now. So I told her I would not try to have a physical relationship with her, till she chooses to leave her boyfriend. I don’t want her to feel guilty, (Newsflash, her guilt does not bother her that much.) or lose respect for me, (She is the one cheating. You should date other women. This chick is only good open relationship material, or a good sex playmate. She sees nothing wrong with cheating on her boyfriend. Therefore, she would cheat on you just as easily if she became your girl.) because of the situation we are in. Respect is important, and I hope I made the right decision, that at the end of the day, would have her respect me the most. (She’s fucking him and keeping you on the side.) I really feel that if things were great between her boyfriend, that she would not have cheated on him. (Probably true, but she has no integrity. So it does not matter. She is still a cheater.) And I really care about this girl, especially if the kid is mine. (She’s not good girlfriend or wife material. I hope you understand that.) After giving it a lot of thought, I have decided she is worth fighting for. We text almost daily. (Make sure she always contacts you first. Only respond to her texts. She lives with another man. She’s a sex playmate, nothing more.) And she always tells me she loves me and misses me. (Keeps you on the hook. Always look at what a woman does, not what she says.) So contact is still there. I have made some mistakes, and shown high level of interest in her, and she knows that I will always be there for her when she wants something. Basically, giving her permission to kick me around. (Be a gentleman, not a doormat. If you are a doormat, women will walk all over you. They will not respect you. If they don’t respect you, they can never love you.) She sent me a text message last night, “would you have sex with me again?” I told her “If you and JJ wasn’t together I would.” She said, “well, ok.” I said, “well ok what?” and she said, “I will try again later.” (Translation: I am horny and want to fuck you. If you reject me now, I will just try again some other time because I know you really want me.)

I asked, “Try what again later?” She told me “I will ask you in person. 1 kiss is all it takes.” I told her “I don’t think you can make me compromise my morals. There is only 1 way to find out though.” Secretly I am very interested in her trying, cause, duh, I do want to. She said, “I think you want to. I know you miss having sex with me.” I told her she does too, but it’s gotta be done right this time, no boyfriend involved, she said something about buying handcuffs, and we exchanged this playful banter around, which surely raised sexual tension. (You are fooling yourself if you think getting her to dump him for you is going to change how she is. She is a cheater. Keep her only as a sex playmate.)

Yesterday, she texted me, after I told her that I wanted to have sex with her, and said several things: “U are like a woman when it comes to your feelings.” (Translation: First you told me you would not have sex with me if I was still with my boyfriend. Now you tell me you will. You change your mind like a woman. This is weak behavior and causes me to lose interest.) “Ur so sensitive, you get that from your mom”, “It’s ok to be like that, Don’t change yourself, It’s who I fell in love with.” What???? (Exactly, she loves you so much, she had to go back to her boyfriend.) She was supposed to come over today for a day of ‘having fun to create an opportunity for sex.’ But she did not show, and I don’t think she is busy, cause she told me she has the day off. (The day ain’t over yet. However, she is jerking you around. Why? Because you have trained her to treat you this way. She knows you will go along with anything she wants.) So I am guessing her interest level is either too low for some strange reason, (You are too easy and available. You push for her to resolve things. You need to adopt the same attitude as her boyfriend. Let her contact you first. Never initiate contact. Let her come to you. When she contacts you, invite her over.) or she is testing me to see if I will call her first. I should just wait till she calls me back, and let her know I will not stand for her breaking dates with me, and if she wants to see me, that she needs to see me, and keep the conversation short. (Do nothing. Walk away. She’ll contact you eventually. Just be patient. You have made this girl too sure of herself and where she stands with you. Therefore, she thinks she can get away with taking you for granted.) What are your thoughts? I just want to know what her thoughts are, if she has interest in me, or am I just fun for her? Either way, I am cool. But I want to have the right mind set, so I don’t get hurt. (You are just fun to her. When you create drama, try to force things or chase her, she gets flakey and blows you off. Wait for her to come to you, then set the next date. However, you should be meeting and dating other women who are not a drama head-case. Plus, you need to bury your nose in my book. You are making unnecessary mistakes until you do.)

Thanks

Tom

“Achievers tend to believe that no matter what happens, whether it’s good or bad, they created it. If they didn’t cause it by their physical actions, maybe they did it by the level and tenor of their thoughts… If you don’t believe that you’re creating your world, whether it be your successes or your failures, then you’re at the mercy of circumstances. Things just happen to you. You’re an object, not a subject.” ~ “Unlimited Power” by Tony Robbins, pages 75-76