2 Women Are In Love With Me. How Do I Decide Which One To Choose?

What you should do if 2 women love you but you can’t decide which to choose.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who has 2 women in love with him. The hot one who is bipolar and difficult and one who treats him like a king, but isn’t that attractive. He’s read 3% Man several times, but just can’t make up his mind and asks my opinion. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Members Only Newsletter is, “2 Women Are In Love With Me. How Do I Decide Which One To Choose?”

Well, as the old saying goes, “One is no choice. Two is a dilemma.” Which this guy has and three is a proper choice. So the reality is, is if you’re going to date and you’re going to apply what’s in The Book, and this guy says he’s read it countless times. So he’s got two girls. He says one’s really hot, but she’s bipolar, and got a kid, acts kind of wacky, which he’s not happy about, but she’s hot. And another one who’s not that attractive, but she’s amazing. Treats him like a king, easygoing, easy to get along with, just a great girl.

And so he says both of them are in love with him, but he’s like, “Ah. Who do I choose?” So if you’re dating two girls and you’re like, eh, you need a third one. The title of The Book is, “Winning the Heart of the Woman of Your Dreams, How To Be A 3% Man.” Winning the Heart of the Woman of Your Dreams. Not a girl. Or two girls. You’re like, eh. You want a hell yeah! Oh, my God, she’s the hottest thing I’ve ever seen. She’s the hottest woman on the planet. I fucking love her. I love being with her. I love being around her. I love hearing the sound of her voice.

I love the way she smells. I love the softness of her skin. I love her body. I love the way her mind works. She’s a great cook. She takes care of me. Whatever it happens to be, that’s what you want. You don’t want. Well, this chick is really hot, but she’s bipolar and kind of crazy. And this other one is amazing. But she’s a butterface. Everything’s nice, but her face. I’m sure you guys have heard that before. So let’s see what’s going on here.

Viewer Email:

Hello Coach,

I hope you’re doing perfect today. I’m from France.

Viva la France!

And I’ve got an issue.

Well, France has a lot of issues. And if they don’t start kicking out all those people that have come into their country that hate their country and their culture and want to destroy it and subvert it, France is going to cease to exist in a few more decades. You guys got fucking problems. Hopefully the collective men of France stand up and jump up and down really hard, and their balls finally drop and they kick these fucking animals out of their country. But we kind of have the same problem.

It’s pretty much endemic in the West. And I think it all comes from the World Economic Forum and the rest of those Marxist jerkoffs. But that’s a story for another time. I did see some video from the World Economic Forum, the Davos thing that’s going on right now. And the Prime Minister of Germany, Olaf Schwarz or whatever. Schwatz, whatever his fucking name is. You guys who speak German know what Schwatz means, that’s basically what he is.

He’s speaking and like a lot of chairs are empty. A lot of people aren’t going to those things anymore because the woke ideology and bullshit and Trudeau stepping down. Chrystia Freeland. That bitch is out. I think she’s trying to run for Prime Minister now. Oh, what an insufferable cunt she is. She’s like the ultimate worst Karen ever. Anyways, I digress. Let me get back to this regularly scheduled email here.

I’ve came across your work after a situationship and still couldn’t do the right thing to turn it all around as she was definitely my kryptonite.

Well, you need to encounter a few more women that are your Kryptonite and continue to read The Book and apply it again. If you have three, four or more different women when you’re learning this, it makes it way easier because what’s going to happen is you want to kind of treat dating like the NFL does with the practice squads. So for those of you guys that are from Europe, like this guy is from France. So each NFL team has a practice squad. And the way the practice squad works is these are people that are not on the active roster, but they’re still part of the team. So they practice with the team.

But on game day they don’t dress and oftentimes they don’t even travel with the team. But I think it’s a team choice. But if you’re on the practice squad, you’re basically on what’s called on the bubble. In other words, you’re almost good enough to make the active roster, but there’s too many people ahead of you on the active roster that are better than you. And so if you’re on the practice squad, another team can come along and sign you to their active roster and basically steal you away. And if they find other people to put on the practice squad that are better than you, then you can get dropped from the practice squad.

So if you’re dating and you’re going, hey, this chick’s bipolar and this other one’s like a butterface and you’re not really excited about either one. It’s like if you take qualities from each one and put them together, it’d be the perfect girl, but, that’s a Frankenstein girlfriend project, and you don’t want to do that. So you want a woman that knocks your socks off. Your dream woman, so to speak. And so if you’re kind of stuck in the middle like that, then that means you really haven’t attracted the kind of woman that you really want. Other than the one that you lost. And if you have a hard time dealing with your emotions and your feelings and exercising emotional self control, when you’re with a woman who is your Kryptonite, it’s very helpful if you’re reading The Book 10 to 15 times.

And on top of that, you got multiple choices and multiple options, and you’re constantly churning your practice squad. And so during the season, the NFL teams some got injuries. And so you know like say you got first, second and third string. And then your fourth string is person is on the practice squad. Well if the first string guy gets injured and he gets put on injured reserve, then you become third string. And so you get signed from the practice squad to the active roster. In other words, you spend more time with the team, or they spend more time in your rotation and then the butterfaces, you just stop hanging out with them because you attract other girls that are prettier or that you jive with or you like more.

Because the goal when you have multiple women while you’re learning this stuff is to help you grow your confidence, have an abundance mentality and a mindset, and to see it and experience it. And it’s much easier when the smoke show comes along, that’s your Kryptonite, and you got 2 or 3 other chicks on your practice squad. But if you don’t have anything else going on and you got a girl, that’s your Kryptonite. Man, it’s really hard to do more things right than wrong, because you’re still learning to deal with your fears and punching through that wall of fear that we all have to deal with, and getting to the sweet spot between pursuing too much and being too much of a cold fish and not pursuing enough.

And so it takes time. It takes repetition to go out on dates, to seduce women, to meet women, to approach women, to get numbers, to make dates, to go on multiple dates, to get from the first date to the second date to the third date, getting to the bedroom. And getting to the bedroom over and over. Being good in bed. There’s just a lot of shit you got to learn. Everybody starts out as a novice. So you got to fill in your knowledge gaps and you got to practice. Because the more you practice and the more you have women in your life that knock your socks off. Eventually when you spend enough time with the girl at your Kryptonite and she loves you no matter what, as long as you’re acting attractive the way it is in The Book.

Eventually, with enough time, you overcome it and you realize, “Ha. It was all in my head to begin with. It was just a mind fuck.” That’s what I realized, is that everything that kept me from the women that I wanted and who wanted me, and I kept fucking it up with them, was the shit that was going on between my two ears. The stories that I was telling myself, the things that drove me from a place of fear, and then learning to get to that place where you’re just not attached. You take two steps forward. You encounter resistance. You take one step back. Dating is like tennis. You hit the ball over the net. If she’s not hitting it back, you just go play with somebody else.

And eventually, as her interest goes up, you’ll start to see everything I talk about in The Book happening in your own life. And that’s what builds you the confidence and swagger. Because when you have enough experience with this, you realize, man, women are as predictable as the Sun coming up in the East and setting in the West. But you got to learn the material and you got to apply it, and you gotta practice it with enough different women.

So when you’re churning your practice squad and the hottest woman on the planet gets signed to your practice squad, you still got other girls to fall back on. That can help you keep your confidence up long enough to get her to the point where she falls in love, and you get to see how easy and effortless it is. And the stuff that I talk about in The Book is showing up in your life. Because again, one is no choice. Two is a dilemma. Three is a proper choice.

It’s been a year and a half now, read the book countless times and I can see things much better and have no trouble using what’s in it for me.

Except when he’s with a girl that’s his Kryptonite. Which obviously neither of these two girls are.

However, right now, I have followed your book 100% and have two women completely in love with me.

Well, again, you need a third or a fourth one as well. Your practice squad is too small, dude.

The one I have the most attraction towards is beautiful as hell, but is bipolar (taking meds right now and I wouldn’t even see it if I didn’t know). She has a kid and wants me by her sides, always. She told me she wasn’t even going to ask me to raise the kid with her if I didn’t want to since I don’t have any, but she’s open to have more and keeps trying to make me mad since I said no to her being with me after not even a month of seeing each other.

I’ve known her for more than a year but she came back to her ex etc. in between and then started to fuck around when she broke up with him before calling me when she was really low, wanting me to save her. Personality wise, she’s all good, supports me, seems to have more future. But she’s pretty self centered sometimes I think. A few things here and there I don’t like but she’s willing to work on it. Or so she says.

But at the end of the day, he’s not going, oh, yeah. God, this woman’s amazing. She’s the love of my life. He’s kind of like, yeah, she’s really hot, but a little crazy. Kind of annoys me sometimes. She’s a little self-centered. So again, does that sound like somebody that he considers the woman of his dreams? No. He’s basically debating on whether or not he should settle with this girl. Again, if she was knocking his socks off, we’d be having a different conversation. But she clearly isn’t.

The other ones is everything I would look for in a woman, except for the smoking which she’s stopping little by little. She even started working out because of me, even though she said when I first met her that she was never going to, and I’ve never pressured her for anything.

This is what women do when they love you. They will talk like you. They will use your expressions. If you’re into health and physical fitness, you’ll start working out more.

She’s the one telling me “Hey I worked out!” And asking me questions about it. The issue is, she’s banal at most, could even be considered ugly for some. I have never complimented her but she never said anything about it either. She’s quite down to earth too which I like, and is willing to participate in everything I like. If I want to see a movie, she’s down. If I tell her to read something, she’s doing it.

Basically, she’s definitely in love too, but she never told me so. It’s been 4 months we saw each other, but a year that we talk through phone. The thing is, she talked about me to her family and friends, and keeps coming and coming.

Well that’s good. Happy finishes are a good thing. If you make her cum over and over and you’re good in bed, she’ll like the dick and she’ll keep coming back for it. Even if she’s not that into you. She’ll like the good dick.

I’m only the second guy she is with ever, so I’m not even sure she will pop the question, and I’m not sure I want it just because of her physical appearance.

Again, he’s like, “Eh.” That’s not a woman of your dreams. She’s got a lot of the characteristics that you want, but her face.

I’m so torn right now as I feel the second one could be one hell of a partner, but so is the first one. The thing is, the beautiful one have more than 50 of body count so she was kind of the town bicycle, while the normal looking woman has 2 including me.

Well, if you think about the average girl starts having sex in high school, usually with her boyfriend. I mean, when I was in middle school, girls were having sex with their boyfriends, you know, seventh, eighth grade. So some girls start even before that. But if you just take the average girl dates, two, maybe three guys a year, because what I saw when I was in high school, it’s like most of the romances don’t last all year long. They last a semester. Then something happens, they break up. And then the second half of the year, they’re dating somebody else. So beginning of the year they’re dating one guy. They go to football homecoming with them.

And then at some point in the new year they break up. And then when basketball homecoming comes along in the spring, there was somebody else. And then at the end of the year, sometimes the relationships break up and then they’re dating somebody over the summer. So if you think about the average woman from starting from high school to the time she graduates college, if she’s dating, sleeping with 2 or 3 guys a year, which is not really a lot. Say she sleeps with three a year over the course of eight years. That’s 24 dudes. It’s not a lot. It adds up pretty quick. Just a couple a year. Two, three a year, maybe a fourth, maybe a one night stand. Or maybe she dates a guy for a few weeks.

I mean, if you watch any of the Podcast with The Girls, it’s like most men are good for about three weeks. So when they meet a guy they really like, they’re hanging out, having fun, hooking up. (The Girls on the Podcast DO NOT SLEEP with all men they date.) They’re like, oh, this is gonna be my next boyfriend. This is great. Everything’s going well. And then about week three, week four, when the guy really starts to get his emotions engaged, he can’t handle it anymore. Then he starts doing and saying things that are really unattractive, and it just causes the girls interest to plummet. And they’ve already been intimate (No, Corey just thinks that’s how women are.

Most women do not sleep with all men they date. High quality women sleep with men that are their boyfriends) with them at that point, because at first they were carried away in their emotions. They thought, this is we’re going to get serious. This is going to be my boyfriend. I met the perfect guy. But most guys are decent out of the chute. But 3 to 4 weeks in, they’re turning her off and then they get rejected. That’s why it’s really not I mean, it adds up quick. I know guys that are all in the Red Pill Community are obsessed over this, but the guys that obsess over that are just they’re not getting laid. Dudes that are constantly complaining about other people and how often they have sex are not getting laid. That’s the bottom line.

But you also don’t want to be with. I mean, there’s the chick on, uh, it’s blowing up on Twitter and TikTok. She slept with a thousand guys in one night. I think each guy gets, like, a couple of minutes with her. It’s like, you know, do you want a girl like that? Obviously not. But if it’s a girl, I don’t know how old these this this guy is. And this girl is. I mean, maybe she’s in her 30s. So a body count of 50 by the time she’s in her 30s. If you think the average chick, if she’s sleeping with 2 or 3 guys a year, can easily rack up 25 bodies by the time she graduates college. She’s 22, then. Well, what happens by the time she’s 30? 50? I mean, it’s like it sounds like a lot, but it’s only a handful a year.

But over many years, it adds up. So is she just going out and having one night stands and doing drugs and going to the club and going home with a different guy every week? It’s, girls that are doing that, they have body counts in the hundreds. So this you know, you got to take it as a case by case basis. If they’re in relationships, where are they stable relationships. Did they cheat on their boyfriend? Were they cheated on? What you really want to know? Character is destiny. Because you got to vet everybody properly.

Does she keep her word? Is she loyal and faithful, or does she just fuck around and not care? Because if he just fucks around and doesn’t care, cheats on whoever doesn’t matter, has lots of guy friends. Those are chicks. You hang out, you have fun. You hook up with fuck buddy. Friends with benefits, sex playmate. But not a girlfriend or a wife. So again, you got to take it on a case by case basis. If she ended up with 50, what’s the context here? If this woman is 40 years old, she had a few relationships that lasted a few years. Maybe she was married for several years. It’s, again, it’s like, what’s the context? If she slept with 500 dudes, well, that’s somebody that probably rich just didn’t care. Went home with whoever. So again, what is the context? Character is destiny.

The beautiful one knows about the normal looking one too, and that’s why she was crazy about having to tell me really quickly she loved me and that we should be together. So the other one wouldn’t steal me. She specifically said it to me. The normal one However doesn’t know about the beautiful one and she might think I don’t see anyone else.

What should I be doing?

You should be turning your practice squad, my man, because I think it’s great you got two girls in love with you. You should be respectful. Don’t be breaking their heart or be a dick. Don’t screw it up for maybe the next guy that comes along. But they want you to be exclusive. Just say, “I think you’re awesome, but I’m not feeling it. I want to keep dating and see what else is out there. You’re a great girl, and I’ll understand. You know, that means I may lose you to another guy. And, you know, that’s the downside risk.

But I just am not in a place where I feel I want to be exclusive with you. And so I’ll understand if you don’t want to see me anymore. But I’m not ready to be exclusive. I’m not feeling it. I’m just not there. It may happen. It may, may never happen. I can’t promise you that. All I know is that when it feels right for me, then I’ll let you know.” And in the meantime, I mean, you should keep your options open too. That’s the right thing to say. If you love somebody, if you really care for them, you want them to be happy even if it’s not with you. It’s always better to be honest.

But it’s pretty obvious that neither one of these two girls are what you really want. And again, that’s why you need some more choices. You need some more options. You need to throw in another 2 or 3 girls. Keep dating, keep vetting for character, see what they’re like. And then may the best girl win. And when it when you know it’s the right girl, you want to be serious with her. You’ll just naturally end up spending more and more time with the girl. It’s perfect. So it’s great that you got two in your practice squad. But I would recommend in your case, especially with what happened with the first girl that you mentioned that was your Kryptonite and you just couldn’t turn it around.

If you meet another girl like that, you’re going to have the same problems and the same struggles. So having two girls like this, it’s helpful. But like I said, just constantly be churning it until eventually you find one that’s really doing it for you and checking all your boxes. Let her win you over. Follow what’s in The Book. She’ll be head over heels in love with you, asking you to be her boyfriend, and then you can have a conversation about boundaries and what your expectations are, if you agree to be exclusive with her. And as long as there’s a meeting of the minds, then you can be boyfriend and girlfriend and you can tell the other girls in your practice squad, “hey, you’re great, but I met somebody else and it’s getting serious, so it wouldn’t be right to continue seeing you.

And I wish you all the best. You’re just awesome. You’re amazing. And I really am grateful for our time together and wish them well. Hope they find somebody that will treat them good and be good to them.” So that’s the process you should be doing. And so if you end up with either one of these girls, then you’re kind of settling basically. So you’re looking to talk yourself into settling instead of the feeling you should have, which is, hell yeah. This is perfect. This is exactly the kind of girl I want for my girlfriend. And neither one of these girls are that. So you’re going to have to wait until you find somebody that does. You never want to settle because you’re not going to be happy.

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