3% Man Success Story. Look At What Women Do. Not What They Say!

Why paying attention to what women do is more important than what they say.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email success story from a viewer from Croatia. He shares how a bad heartbreak led to him finding my work in 2019. He discusses the process 3% Man helped him to master to vet property, attract and keep his current girlfriend and relationship of several years. Years later she continues to confirm what women do is way more important than what they say. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “3% Man Success Story. Look At What Women Do. Not What They Say!”.

So this is a success story. That’s I guess about seven years in the making. This viewer is from Croatia. He’s been following me since 2019 after a bad heartbreak with his ex-girlfriend who just raked him over the coals. Doesn’t look like she was a very high character woman. Looks like she was a low character woman. So let’s go through his email and see how things have turned around.

Viewer Email:

Hey Coach,

To make a long story short, here’s a cute little success (life decision) story about how I managed to seal a greatest and most important deal in life of an average man – his choice of a life partner. As you know that decision can be your hell, or your heaven. It just depends on a fact how good is your vetting, experience and knowledge. 3% Man gives you all of that, and so it did to me – so let’s get into it.

I’ve started following you when I got my heart broken and stomped on in October 2019. I was dating this beautiful tall blonde girl which was at the time checking all of my boxes. Foxy, intelligent, flirty and fun. She was casual and not reserved, opened and with no restraints. Indoor Olympics were fun, and not boring.

Mind you, that is an eastern European type of woman – and you know what that means. At the time I didn’t know, and that was my doom. Or so I thought. In retrospective, it was a good thing that relationship broke, because I took it as a lesson which led me to meet my future wife. In advance, I’m writing you from Croatia so don’t take my broken English too much to heart.

Anyway, once I got to know her I started to make typical rookie mistakes. Being insecure, reaching too much, and getting flustered with her decisions – it drove her away. And of course it did, because she recognized it didn’t come from a place of caring, it came from a place of insecurity, and those type of women do not prefer weakness.

Yeah. It’s actually repulsive to women. The more feminine they are, the more a man acting weak is going to be repulsive and disgusting.

She actually really tried to help me, but after numerous mistakes from my end – she mopped the floor with me. Returned to her ex, came back 2 months after. Then kissed her “male best friend” right in front of me on a night out after our fight. And still after that, we were together until I asked her to come with me and my friends to my coastline beach house, where she kissed a rando and went home with him. 

Oh, damn. That’s brutal. If you act like a bitch, women will treat you like a bitch. And if you’re with a woman of low character she’ll rub another dude in your face and just go home with them. Obviously, in this case, in front of all of his friends.

Now that is what I call a proper beta/nice guy experience. And I’m not proud of it. Fast forward to the good thing. I’ve read your book. I’ve watched most of your videos. I’ve read it 5 times. I know, I know, 10 to 15 times. But it resonated with me. I actually have a similar character as you naturally, watching your videos and all of that – it just didn’t seem like alien talk to me but it really connected the dots and aligned it all perfectly. All superficial success stories aside in the meantime and there were plenty of them.

So he spent quite a bit of time hanging out, having fun, and hooking up with different women as he was learning to master the book until he met his future wife.

I’ve come across of a perfect match. And I couldn’t forgive myself if I were to fuck it all up. And I didn’t. All thanks to you. Cheers to that. I’ve met my dream girl. Took it easy, make her want more and switched the role of chasing to her. Didn’t waste time on phone. She insisted on texting but I just texted back relevant messages on meetups and occasional feedback on her messages so she doesn’t feel disregarded, at least in the first stages of talking.

So she obviously wanted to text more. He did a little bit, just not more. In other words, he did enough to not seem like he was being rude and blowing her off.

First meeting was superb. She did the talking and I just let her, with occasional teasing and back and forth banter. Then I switched it up with some intuitive feedback on her problems at work, but not too much. You don’t want to be her therapist and shift the tone of the date to a funeral. 

That’s so true. A lot of guys get in the habit, they get on a first date, and somehow they get on the topic of her ex’s and they. And then she just starts going on a rant, and then you spend an hour or talking about all the guys that dicked her over, and now she’s feeling those feelings about all the exes because that’s what you’re talking about. And whatever you make a woman feel when she’s with you is what she’s going to associate with being with you. That’s why you want to keep it positive, keep it fun, keep it light, and not dwell on negative subjects for very long.

She was burning with the desire, I could sense it all over the place. So we went back to my apartment and we had the hottest and meanest sex, let’s call it indoor Olympics again, keep it YouTube certified. After that I took my time, living casually – meeting up with her, not asking anything about what this is or where it is going up until she asked that question. And guess when it was? Second month in.

Damn boy, now that’s a textbook thing right there. So anyway, I was getting shit from her how my “lack of texting and essentially reaching out” was off-putting and how she didn’t know if she was going to be with me and after talking to her friends, they also suggested to let that go.

So she was bitching and complaining about it because it shows she cares because deep down she was afraid. What she’s really afraid of, is that he doesn’t care and he doesn’t reciprocate. That’s all. When a woman’s bitching, that you don’t text or call enough, all she’s really saying, “Don’t you care about me? Don’t you love me? Don’t you want me? It feels like you don’t.”

So just a little. A tiny little sliver of reassurance goes a long way. And even her girlfriends are like, you’re being ridiculous. Guys who don’t know any better would start blowing up her phone, sending good morning and good night texts, and then watch her slowly fade away and then go. There’s no chemistry, no spark.

She ended up with me. Not only that, it proves that you don’t listen what women say, you look what women do. And she ended up with me.

So she was bitching and complaining about it because it shows she cares because deep down she was afraid. What she’s really afraid of, is that he doesn’t care and he doesn’t reciprocate. That’s all. When a woman’s bitching, that you don’t text or call enough, all she’s really saying, “Don’t you care about me? Don’t you love me? Don’t you want me? It feels like you don’t.”

So just a little. A tiny little sliver of reassurance goes a long way. And even her girlfriends are like, you’re being ridiculous. Guys who don’t know any better would start blowing up her phone, sending good morning and good night texts, and then watch her slowly fade away and then go. There’s no chemistry, no spark.

To make that story even funnier, after years of us being together – she even confessed that if I were to not give her the space and letting her come to me, she would’ve felt suffocated and probably move on and lose feelings. Mind you, that is another Eastern European. And she connected the dots after meeting me and realizing what actually bothered her with other men. She wouldn’t give me up for anything today.

That’s my story, I bid my thanks and your work has made this possible.

Kind regards,

Bob

Well, congratulations, Bob. Thanks for the success story.

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