In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email success story from a guy who has been following my work for one year. He says it is hands down, the best, most practically useful and healthy approach to pickup, dating and relationships he has found in over two solid years of searching. He says he as grown more in the past two years as a man than in the previous twenty. He’d been single for twenty years, was overweight and hated himself. He was closed off from everyone. He details how my work helped him to finally get a great woman in his life and experience many others before meeting her over the past year. He lost ninety pounds, improved his peer group, social skills, got some new hobbies and is physically fit. He’s loving life and inspiring others around him to do the same. He’s finally living his full potential, after twenty years of majoring in minor things. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email.
Hey Coach Corey,
Your work has helped me reprogram myself to where I am now doing more things right than wrong. (At the end of the day, it’s really about applying better success principles than the average person. Most people tend to major in minor things, which means they’re really not going anywhere because they’re not doing anything to take action to get themselves from where they are to where they want to be. You of course, are different. You got to a place in your life where you just said, I’ve fucking had enough. I’m tired of living a life of quiet desperation.)Two years ago, I fell into a needy, clingy, addictive love with a female “friend” of mine and was completely rejected, not the first time this has happened. This pain and rejection was the greatest gift I have ever received; I have grown more in the past 2 years than I have in the previous 20. (That’s the beauty of pain and suffering. It’s life’s way of saying, what you’re doing is obviously not the best way to go about it, and you should probably look at modifying or changing your approach. In other words, hitting rock bottom is when you get to a place where you say, this has to change. I just can’t continue on like this.)
At the time, I was 39, single and alone for over 20 years, overweight, miserable and pretty much hated myself and the world; I was closed off to most everything and everybody. I was programmed with a dysfunctional view of myself, women, attraction, dating, relationships and love. These programs were causing me to behave in ways that guaranteed failure. (So basically what happens is, we go through childhood and take on all the belief systems of the people around us, and in a way, we spend the rest of our lives trying to overcome what happens to us in childhood. When we’re kids and things happen to us that we don’t understand, we start looking for a story to justify why our world is the way it is. And without realizing it, we paint ourselves into this little box and we spend the rest of our lives living in that box because of our own self perceptions.
As Tony Robbins said, “People will act consistently with how they view themselves to be, whether the view is accurate or not.” You had a lot of beliefs about yourself that were simply wrong and false. But because you didn’t realize it at the time, you acted and behaved in ways that were consistent with that.)I needed better programming, a better map, a better playbook if you will. I immediately consumed every molecule of information I could on these subjects. A year ago, I found your work and let me say: it is hands down, the best, most practically useful and healthy approach to pickup, dating and relationships I have found in over 2 solid years of searching. (Well, that’s the beauty of what I teach. If you apply what I teach, you’ll get the results, even if you can’t stand me. Just take the information and apply it, and you’ll get the same results over time.)
Here is how I turned myself around and attracted the woman of my dreams: I started exercising, I have lost 90 pounds and am now very fit. (Dude, that is fucking awesome. Congratulations. That’s definitely something to be proud of.)
I practiced my social skills, have exciting new hobbies and upgraded my friends. (Well, “The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the quality of the people you consistently spend your time with,” and “The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the expectations of your peer group.” Those are two more great quotes from Tony Robbins. I would say, out of everybody that I’ve learned from in my life, Tony Robbins gives the most dense, jam-packed list of tools and self-help wisdom, in a compact form, out of anybody that I’ve ever studied.)
I improved my psychology, got my own place, bought a car, cell phone, joined social media, create YouTube videos, have been meditating, approaching and dating women and have been saying “yes” to opportunities when they present themselves. (That’s the beauty. Opportunities are always coming into everyone’s life. If you’re not open to it, you’re not ready, you’re not willing, you’re not able, it’s just not going to happen. You’re going to put out the vibe that’s going to cause the other person to close down.)The crucial key has been relentless exposure to your book and videos. Despite constant, painful and overwhelming desire to fall back into my weak and needy behavior, (After all, that is your comfort zone, and you spent many decades living in that place. It’s like putting on an old pair of shoes. It’s going to be very comfortable and easy to fall into those old patterns. They key is to be aware of how you used to think and how you used to be.
Obviously now, you look in the mirror and the way you’re body looks is completely different than the way it was. The way you look now is a reflection of your thoughts about yourself. People who take care of themselves and eat right, are healthy, go to the gym, exercise and do weights and cardio do it because they love themselves. They want to look good, and they want to feel good. They tend to be happier, and the happier somebody is, the more successful they are, the better they’re going to take care of their body, and the ladies tend to notice you more.), I make myself follow the wisdom of your work.
This has not been easy; every fiber of my being wants to be a weak, needy bitch. (It takes time, but the beauty of it is, the more you apply this and you get the results and the success, that starts to emotionally anchor you to living in a way that’s effortless. Then that becomes your natural state. The things I teach help you act in ways that are aligned with your true nature. That’s why it feels so easy once you get on a roll. It feels effortless, it feels natural, and things just flow.) I continue to fuck up, but I IMMEDIATELY consult your book and videos to correct my behavior.I have read your book over 15 times and watch your videos daily. I am no longer alone; I now have a wonderful woman in my life. Your work continually course corrects me as I navigate my way through this relationship. Your work has helped me find a deeper love and respect for myself and others. Now, every time I find myself not knowing what to do in a given situation, I ask myself the most important question you work has taught me: What would a person who loves and respects themselves do? (That’s a great, empowering question. You can’t help but give yourself a positive, empowering answer.)
What would Coach Corey Wayne do? (I would keep grinding and trying to get a little better each day. That’s what the best in the world do. All the best athletes in every sport that exists are always trying to get an edge. They’re trying to watch a little bit more film, trying to eat a little healthier, trying to exercise a little bit more, trying to study the playbook a little bit more, get plenty of sleep, hang out with other like-minded people who are going to push them and encourage them higher, and learn from those who have maybe done it all before.)
I have so much further to go and so much more to do, but you have helped me get onto the right path. You have lifted me up dude, thank you from the bottom of my heart. Thank you. (Thank you for that great success story.)
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“Success equals progress. Happiness is the result of making progress towards your grandest goals and dreams. Goals and dreams are accomplished by disciplining yourself to take action every day on the small daily goals that eventually result in the achievement of your big, long-term goals. Goal achievement is a long process of usually decades that only happens after you develop your talent and passions into valuable skills that enable you to add value to others through a useful product or service. Modeling the success of others and being mentored by or working for those who have achieved what you want is the key to speeding up your success and learning how to do it from those who already have done it.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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