Why you must have a compelling vision and mission for your life, and how a lack thereof will cause you to become lazy, lethargic, disinterested, indifferent and have a general lack of enthusiasm for living and appreciating the gift that life is.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who I have coached in the past to help him get real with some of his internal bullshit to help him overcome his neediness and insecurity, and finally become comfortable in his own skin. He says he now is in exceptional physical shape, and he doesn’t get angry or reactant to stress like he used to. He is very successful with women now to the point that sometimes, he has lost interest in sex right in the middle of the act. He says he has a hard time feeling anything for anyone, and he often loses interest in the women he’s dating really quickly. He says he seems to be missing the fire that he once had in his belly to be successful.
I discuss the fact that obviously, at one time, he believed that meeting and dating the kind of women he’s always wanted would make him happy. Now that he has success with the kind of women that he’s always dreamed of, he’s kind of in a lethargic state and often wondering, “Is this all there is?” His real problem is that he obviously is lacking a compelling vision and mission for his life. I tell him what he needs to focus on in order to get the fire in his belly back about living, enjoying his life and enjoying the women he spends his time with.
You helped me a while back to get real with some of my internal bullshit, and I wanted to say thanks. Since then, I’ve read your book 10 times and watch your videos regularly. I have overcome the neediness and insecurity I had before and have become very comfortable in my own skin. I’m now completely balanced mentally, in exceptional physical shape, and I don’t get angry or reactive to stress. However, I feel like I’m completely tranquil and indifferent to everything to the point where I’ve lost my edge, my take it or leave it attitude has gone too far, and the fire has been taken out of my belly. I say this because my body language is excellent, I never break eye contact with anyone first, and I get a lot of looks from both guys and girls when I’m going about my day just from the way I carry myself. I’ve even been complimented on this numerous times by random hot chicks, and I don’t have a problem getting numbers or dates. I often don’t text people back for weeks though, and I struggle to feel anything towards anyone other than a fleeting thing, and I lose interest really quickly, even to the point where I stopped mid-fuck because I wasn’t that into sex and haven’t been for a while. (He found the success he thought would make him happy, but he realized he’s just going through the motions rather than carrying out a life mission or purpose. Look long and hard at every area of your life. What are the things you really love and enjoy in life that you are not doing in your business or career?)
The fire in my belly before made me go after things and was untamed and unrefined. It caused me to have foot-in-mouth moments too, and as a result, I’d screw up in my relationships and career. Now it isn’t there at all, and I’ve lost my edge. I’m just a bit meh about opportunities. How can I balance the two? If you take the fire out of the man, you lose the man and every good attribute that goes with him, no? (If you’re not excited about your life, you won’t have enthusiasm in your relationships. You can’t give away what you don’t have for yourself. Dig deeper and find out what you love, so you can get the fire in your bellly back. You’ve got to have a purpose, a reason to wake up in the morning, or it will have a negative effect on your relationships.)
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“Every human being needs to have a compelling vision and mission for their lives. That means we all need to have a compelling reason to get up and out of bed in the morning to enthusiastically look forward to our daily tasks and activities. If you are not excited about your life and do not have a compelling reason to get out of bed in the morning, then it’s going to be almost impossible to enjoy your life, do the things you know you need to do, have great and high quality relationships, and reach your full potential. It could be something as simple as being a great mom or dad. The important thing is that, until you find out what your passion is, you must keep searching, exploring and trying new things until you find something that excites you and makes you feel totally alive.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne