In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who has been following my work over the past year. He shares his success story of how he has applied what I teach to his businesses, friendships, life and his dating game with great results. He talks about how his focus has shifted from being busy to being productive, and how becoming totally aligned with his mission and purpose has made every area of his life become better, including his personal life.
He says women often approach him and offer their number without him even asking after chatting for only a few minutes. It’s another great real-world example of how you can dramatically change your life for the better by changing your focus and applying the simple principles my book teaches. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email.
My name is Bob and I’m from London. I’ve been following your work for a year or so. I bought your book and watch all your new videos, and I wanted to share my success story with you, because your work has helped me massively in focusing on my own purpose. It’s one of the most important concepts I’ve ever put into action. Since reading your book multiple times and watching your videos daily, I began to focus on developing and refining my own purpose, making it stronger and stronger over time, and the results have been amazing. I have always been determined, but lacked focus on developing my own purpose. I am 32, have built a small real estate portfolio of 4 properties, and do freelance work as a system designer and programmer. I have built my own home gym to stay fit, and I do an MBA part-time, whilst overseeing a small side business importing goods, which is mostly outsourced. I also have Spanish lessons every week. It sounds like a lot, but my time management has improved by getting rid of busy tasks and replacing them with tasks that actually have results in the real world. (It goes back to being productive rather than being busy. It’s important to be doing the things that will bring you tangible results.) I still feel like I have a lot of free time. I have less possessions than I’ve ever had, and save more than I’ve ever saved, which gives me a lot of freedom to make choices and act in ways consistent with my overall purpose and future goals. (You’re being very efficient and doing what’s essential to achieving your goals.)
In the past, I have given too much of my time to people that are not like-minded, wasting time trying to motivate them as well as myself. (If you’re a growth oriented person, those people will just get in your way.) After following your work, I am much more guarded with my time, and I choose a lot more carefully who is worthy of a gift of my time — in your words. (At the end of the day, the greatest gift you can give somebody is the gift of your time.) In the old days, I would have snatched at any old muff, but now I associate with people that are also focused on building their purpose, so that we can encourage each other. Due to the confidence gained from adding value to myself and concentrating on my purpose, whenever I enter into conversation with another person, I do not act any differently and do not get intimidated, regardless of what sex they are or what level of attraction I have to them physically. (That’s why I say, treat everyone the same. You will keep everybody on a level playing field.) In the course of normal conversation, I am able to subtly communicate my interests, my passion for my work and for learning and improving, and my future plans, without doing it in a boastful way. (It comes off as very matter of fact, and you really only talk about yourself when people ask you.) I do this whilst having genuine interest in their plans and ambitions, hopefully giving off the impression that I am a catch. As I am never after anything, they seem to feel completely at ease, and as a result, I have much greater success with women than I used to when I was chasing skirts around clubs. (That’s why I teach men to focus on their purpose and mission in life and being awesome. Women notice that and will find you attractive.)
I am now very lucky to have several great women in my life, because I am focused on my own purpose and helping other like-minded people find and fulfill their purpose. I have never had this level of success before with women. I am frequently approached, and after talking for a while, I am often given numbers without doing anything spectacular or out of the ordinary. (You don’t need a routine to impress people.) I watch your videos every day and constantly revisit the principles in your book, because it keeps me on track. I know there are many areas I need to improve upon and ideas that I need to learn, however, I no longer act from a scarcity viewpoint when it comes to women, and I have complete confidence in the direction I’m heading. Your work continues to reinforce the message inside me of focusing on developing my own purpose, and is the key to building a rich life. Success with women comes naturally as an added bonus. (When you apply the things I teach, you will meet women as a consequence of living an awesome life.)
I have recommended your work to a lot of my friends, and it really has made a huge difference to my life. Thank you for producing such great work. (Thank you for applying this stuff and being awesome. Not only are you impacting your life but the life of everyone you encounter.)
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“Being successful is the result of focusing on your outcomes and taking action based upon them. You must also focus on being productive, instead of simply being busy. When you spend your time doing things that directly move you towards your grandest goals and dreams in as few steps as possible, you become increasingly balanced and efficient. Living your life based around your outcomes also causes you to only spend your time with like-minded people and potential lovers who nurture, support and encourage achieving them. By focusing on emotionally compelling outcomes, taking action, learning from your mistakes, refining your approach and constantly trying to learn and get better, over time you will reach critical mass, and your goals will become an eventual and inevitable reality.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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