The advantages of dating multiple women when you are trying to improve your pickup, dating and relationship skills, as well as helping you overcome any fearful, weak, needy, neurotic or desperate tendencies that have caused you to sabotage your success with women in the past.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who shares a success story of how dating multiple women has helped prevent him from becoming attached to any one particular woman, enabled him to quickly and dramatically improve his attraction skills and to create a social life full of abundance and choice with women. He shares how calm he is when a woman doesn’t immediately respond to him or appears to be less than enthusiastic to see him. I previously have answered three emails of his in video newsletters titled, “Dating: Less Is Really More,” “She Stood Me Up!,” and “The Ultimate 1st Date,” so you can see how he has progressed over the past year in his thinking and in his actions.
My life has kept changing and improving little by little. I can feel the improvement since your first response, “Dating: Less Is Really More,” going through to the painful, “She Stood Me Up!,” and the resilient “The Ultimate 1st Date.” We also had a great Skype conversation.
Since I went on my “ultimate first date,” I kept dating other girls, and it has been really helpful. Multiple dating has helped me to let go quickly when things don’t work out well. (Rejection breeds obsession, but when you have an abundance of choices, it makes rejection manageable.) The girl I mentioned on the email, “The Ultimate 1st Date” was a bit cold the weeks after we met. Since the Christmas holidays were in between those weeks, I stayed calm and quiet. (This is because he had plenty of other women to occupy his time. The best medicine is nothing, radio silence.) I asked her out only once when the new year started, and she replied, “Hey, I’m quite busy these days. I’ll give a shout once I’m free.” I didn’t pursue her and kept my distance, letting her have space. Only a few months ago I would have committed the mistake of texting and chasing her. Guess what? Yes, you know it already — after three weeks of no contact, she contacted me asking, “Hey, how have you been? I’d like to go for a drink next week, if you’re still up for it!” (Most women won’t suggest a date. That’s awesome and makes things pretty easy for him.)
How did I also manage to stay calm and with no contact for three weeks? Easy: dating other girls! I can confirm again that following the fundamentals you teach in your book really works! (Read the book 10-15 times if you haven’t already done so, and learn the fundamentals.) I’m currently enjoying and dating three girls from different nationalities. I wont go into detail on all of them. I’m just saying that this applies to all three of them, regardless of their ethnic background! (What creates attraction is universal for any woman, anywhere.)
I’ve read your book 8 times so far, so in average I’m reading it twice a month since I got it. I have no questions for you today, just a thank you message and a testimonial of your great work! (Success breeds results. Results breeds confidence.)
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“In business, in life and in love, you will always be in a superior position if you have an abundance of choices. When you have lots of choices and lots of options, you can be very selective with the kind of people you work with or for, the kind of lovers you date, and the kind of lifestyle you want to live. When you don’t have many choices, this will put you into a scarcity mindset. When you are in a scarcity mindset, your tendencies will be to settle for careers, jobs, businesses, life circumstances, lovers, friends, customers/clients, etc., that are less than what you deserve. As the old saying goes, one is no choice, two is a dilemma, and three is a choice. If you truly want the best for yourself, then you will always set yourself up in every area of your life to have an abundance of high quality choices. The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the amount of high quality choices that you design, build and attract into your life and lifestyle.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne