Always Be Positive, Playful & Charming

Why you should always be positive, playful, charming and expect to get what you want from your lover, instead of being fearful, angry, assuming the worst or looking for a confrontation.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a woman who has been dating and hooking up with a new guy. She originally wrote me several months back after her boyfriend moved out and ended their relationship. I discussed her first email in the video newsletter titled, “Are Men Intimidated By Successful Women?“

She obviously wants to get serious with this new guy, however, she ignores the fact that he said after they first slept together that he was only interested in a sexual relationship. She gets mad and upset that he blows hot and cold. He got drunk recently and asked her to be exclusive, but she said she would only do that if he was sober when he asked her. He has not brought up exclusivity since. She asks my opinion on his behavior. She also mentions that he is always flirting with and talking to other women. I tell her what this means.

“If you seek, you will find. When it comes to a relationship, you should always be seeking the highest form of the expression of love. See and expect the best in the other person and act accordingly. If you expect that things will always work out in your favor in the long run, then they usually will. If you expect the worst, that you are being lied to, that you won’t be loved or that things won’t work out, you will focus on making happen exactly what you are trying to avoid. Decide ahead of time that you will be happy and grateful no matter how the other person shows up. After all, the purpose of all relationships is that you go there to give. That way you will create a space that they may give you their best. However, if they give you their worst despite your open heart, you can walk away with peace of mind that you did everything you could to love them unconditionally, but that they simply weren’t capable of giving you what you wanted and deserved.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne