Here’s the techniques and proper mindset you need to always be ready to flirt with women to create the sexual attraction that makes seduction possible. When it comes to flirting and being successful with women, you should remember that inaction breeds fear and doubt and action breeds confidence and courage. When I have days and moments where I don’t feel like being very talkative, I force myself to talk to strangers even if it seems and feels awkward at first. When I don’t feel like writing articles, but I have to get them done, I force myself to just start writing. The first few minutes I might be cursing at my computer because I’m working when I don’t feel like it, but then 10 min. go by and I realize I’ve gotten into the flow of things. I actually get into it then. It’s the same thing with women. You won’t feel like it at first, but when you give yourself permission to get rejected and fail, then it gets easier. The bottom line is most women are not going to like and want you, and the process of flirting helps reveal which women you have a chance with and which ones you don’t. This way when you finally ask for her phone number or to set a date, you’re pretty certain she’s going to say yes. The following is an e-mail from a phone coaching client. He’s become pretty good at flirting, but some days he’s just not feeling it and wants to know what he can do to get himself into the flow of flirting. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) after his e-mail:
I had a simple question for you. I like flirting and have become pretty proficient at it, but there are days where I just don’t feel it, like an athlete off his game. Did you have any special methods you use to get yourself in the game on an off day, or is that just something that happens? Examples are some days I just can’t seem to strike up a conversation where I normally would have no problem, or I don’t even make the attempt when I know I’m perfectly capable of approaching a girl.
(I have days when I don’t feel like talking to anyone. Since we are human beings with emotions that fluctuate on a daily and sometimes hourly basis, there are days where we feel off our game. There are also days where we just feel like shit for no reason other than experiencing the feeling of feeling like shit. The more you can authentically experience and be present with ALL of your emotions, the quicker you will move thru the unpleasant ones and feel better. You gotta feel it to heal it. You MUST honor ALL of your feelings and emotions. They are all equally important and part of your personality. Nothing to feel guilty for or about.
I have found however, if I am in line at a grocery store and a super hot chick gets in line behind me that takes my breath away, I HAVE to talk to her. That’s the power of a beautiful woman to enchant us and be our joy when we don’t feel so great. A woman like that can make all of your problems seem irrelevant as well as make you want to just play and have fun with her. Some days seem better than others. Its ok to have a whole day where you just feel like shit and don’t want to talk to anyone. If you can authentically embrace the unpleasant feelings, you will quickly move thru them and return to feeling like talkin to every hottie you see 🙂 Just do your best every day and try to get a little better. Repetition is the mother of skill. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)
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