Am I Fighting A Losing Battle?

How to determine if your woman is good relationship material, if she will ever change or if you are simply fighting a losing battle hoping a drama filled relationship can become a healthy loving effortless relationship.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss two different emails from two different viewers. The first email is from a viewer who has been dating a woman for five years. For the last two years they have not been exclusive or had the boyfriend/girlfriend label. They act like a couple and have all the benefits of being a couple, without the labels. This bothers him. His woman has dumped him numerous times and constantly throws things in his face that he did wrong in the past. This confuses him as he thought those issues were resolved long ago. He feels like she does not appreciate all the things he has done right in the past. He wonders if he is fighting a losing battle or if things can be turned around. She has most recently told him it is over for good. Despite his best efforts to fix things, he is getting nowhere.

The second email is from a viewer who has become infatuated with a married woman who comes to his workplace. He said at first he did not realize she was flirting and seemed to be interested in him. He recently ran into her while she was with her family after not seeing her for a while. They both ignored each other. The next day she stopped by his work and never mentioned the encounter. She then said she was going to visit him again in a few days, but she never showed up and he has not seen her since. He asks what this means.

“When it comes to lovers, it is not your job to fix someone. You are not responsible for their wounds, shortcomings, flaws, faults, failures or their inability to love openly, freely and communicate like an adult. They were like this before you met them, and will continue to be this way when they are no longer in your life. People who are addicted to drama, expect drama or believe arguments and drama are normal in relationships, will tend to attract and stay in relationships with people who are incapable of healthy loving effortless relationships. Once you learn to love and accept yourself unconditionally and resolve to communicate lovingly, freely and openly, you will no longer tolerate friends or lovers who constantly ruin your peace and happiness with their never ending drama, problems, immaturity or hostile argumentative nature. Some people are simply toxic and emotionally conditioned to expect and seek out strife. They are incapable of living any other way because ease, delight, effortlessness, serenity and peace, simply do not feel comfortable, natural or bearable to them.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne