How to create an abundance of choice with women.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email success story from a twenty-year-old viewer who shares how he used what my first book, How To Be A 3% Man, teaches to create an abundance of choice and options for himself while he was on vacation recently.
He and his friends were barhopping and meeting random groups of single women who were also out to have fun and maybe find a little summer romance. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.
Women love men who are competent, competent at getting what they want, making themselves happy and making their dreams a reality. So obviously, when you give off that kind of a vibe where you’re relaxed, you’re in no rush, like my favorite Rumi quote, “Slow and steady, like the river that never grows stale. No hurry, no rush,” I always think of the analogy of a turtle winning the race — taking your time, infinite patience. All is well. All will be well. All will work out exactly like it’s supposed to.
I’ve sent you an email before and have decided to write a few more to you to recap some of my successes and failures in my 3% journey.
To start things off, I am 20 years old and have read your book 11 times and watched almost every video you have out. The past year, my buddy who is also my business partner and I have been making the best of covid and travelling the US thanks to cheap airfare and online classes. I want to tell you about a story in Nashville that I think you will like.
Actually, it’s a good story.
I went to Nashville with a few buddies on their 21st birthday in February. I’m 20, so I was on a fake ID.
Of course, I never did anything like that when I was your age. Totally innocent.
We were focused on nothing but having a great time and meeting some Southern girls.
Nothing like a little female Southern hospitality.
The first night we met some girls from Georgia and long story short, I got real familiar with one Georgia peach, (a story for another success email).
The second night, my buddy knew a few girls from NC, so we had them meet us out at the bars. They roll up and we’re just pouring beers into girls’ mouths off of the balcony of this bar just having a great time.
Obviously, it sounds like you’re practicing your bartending skills.
There was one girl that caught my eye specifically, an absolute dime piece. I could tell she was into me, and I started the date right there. Shortly after, we were making out and decided to go to this other bar when she saw one of my friends that I came with.
So, this is kind of an interesting story where the abundance mentality comes in. Because when you’re interacting, whether it’s a date, or in this case he’s looking to hook up, but when you see behavior that causes you to go, “I think this girl belongs to the streets,” then you might second guess yourself. You might decide, “I don’t know if I really want to be hooking up with this girl who belongs to the streets.” And so, typically, guys in this situation get a little upset, they get a little focused on the particular girl that they want, and something goes awry like it’s about to, how would you handle it?
She goes, “You know that guy?” and I said “Yeah, I do.” She then said she met him the night before and says, “One second, I need to go do something.” So, she goes up to him, and when I turn around I see her kiss my buddy on the lips.
See, he’s thinking, “Oh man, she’s an absolute dime piece. This is going to be amazing,” and then she goes and kisses his friend.
The first thought that came to my mind was SHE BELONGS TO THE STREETS!!! Now, my buddy had no clue that I had brought her there, so he didn’t know any better.
So, maybe she hooked up with his friend. We don’t know.
I didn’t freak out, I just played it cool like James Bond. Meanwhile, my phone is getting blown up from Georgia girl and another girl from Knoxville that I had met earlier. It pays to have abundance.
So, he’s keeping his options open because he’s like, hey, he’s just test driving cars. He doesn’t know which one he wants to buy, if he wants to buy any of them. So he’s just checking things out. He’s like, “Wow, look at all the options in this car lot here. I think I’m going to test drive a bunch of them.”
She walks back and acts like nothing happened. So, I tell her I’m going to the restroom and I just split.
You’re a savage dude. But hey, if she goes up and kisses your buddy, you don’t really want to cause any drama between you and your friend, especially if you’re showing up with the girl. So, it’s better to dip on out. Because why? Life is a drama free zone, or it should be a drama free zone, and these are the kinds of things that bring unnecessary drama into your life.
It’s best just to dip out, because there’s another bus every fifteen minutes. And this guy’s been playing his cards right in case something like this happens, in case one girl, he thinks, “Hey, something good could happen here.” And then he finds out, “I think she hooked up with my friend last night.”
I grabbed the Knoxville girl from the line outside and we went to another bar. About thirty minutes later, my phone starts getting blown up by NC girl and she’s saying things like, “I can’t believe you left me. No guy has ever done that. Let’s just go back to my place,” etc.
Boy, that really changed her attitude.
I wasn’t biting Coach. I have more self-respect than that and too many options to settle for someone like that even for a night.
Yeah, she’s a sex playmate, a one night stand. That’s about it. And on top of that, she had some kind of interaction with your buddy. And he dipped out, which quite frankly, strategically, that was probably a good idea, because he had the other women waiting. He’s like, “I don’t want to bring a girl that’s going to bring drama into my life, so I’ll just go where there is no drama.”
Long story short, I had a great time with Knoxville girl that night and the next day heard that after I left NC girl, she had gone looking for me all night. Now, here’s the cherry on top. Fast forward to Sunday night, and I’m getting back on the plane to go home. Out of nowhere I get this Snapchat from NC girl. It’s a nude with the caption “Come get it,” completely unprovoked.
Hmm, I wonder if there was a missing father figure in her life. What do you guys think about that? Something to think about, something to contemplate on.
I just laughed and left her on read. Just goes to show what these girls do when you don’t put up with their bullshit and act like a real man. Moral of the story, perceive yourself as the catch and that’s what you will be perceived as.
Thanks for all of your help coach,
Good job. What a great little trip, being 20 years old, being able to have these kinds of memories. Back when I was his age I was fumbling around, I had no clue. And I see guys doing and pulling off things like he did, and I had friends that were pulling things off like this, but I didn’t know what was going on at the time. I didn’t know enough.
It’s cool for me at fifty-one to get emails like this from a guy that’s been following me for several years, basically grew up with me, and now he’s out in the real world rocking out with his cock out, bing, bang, boom, as my friend Bobby likes to say.
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