Another How To Be A 3% Man Success Story

How to meet and attract the woman of your dreams.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email success story from a viewer who says he recently met the woman of his dreams. He shares his journey and the mindset that enabled him to become the type of man he needed to be in order to attract the kind of woman he’s always dreamed of. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “Another How To Be A 3% Man Success Story.”

Well, this particular email is from a viewer. He says he recently met the woman of his dreams. And he kind of shares his journey and the mindset that he took from 3% Man, that has enabled him to become the kind of man that could attract the kind of woman that he wanted. In other words, one of the things I talk about in the Book is you got to become what you want to attract. And so this guy has done that, and he’s met this new woman. He’s like, “finally! The right girl.” He became the right man, and now he’s attracted to the right woman. So let’s see what he did.

Viewer Email:

Hey Coach,

I’m a long-time follower on YouTube and 3% Man. I am writing to thank you for your consistent guidance to all men who seek a more fulfilling life. Like so many men who have lived less fortunate lives, I was raised with a passive father figure who couldn’t protect, provide, or show me how to be a man.

Yeah, that’s like an epidemic in our society. It’s just it’s unfortunate. It’s the way it was. I know, like my grandfather, my dad’s dad, the way things worked back then was the woman stayed at home, raised the kids. The man went out and earned the bacon. When he came home at night, if the kids were acting up, he had to beat the kids, beat him into submission, get him to behave a certain way. But other than that, it’s just they weren’t too involved. There was no I love yous. I’m proud of you. Good job son, not those kind of things. It was just a different kind of generation. Not everybody was like that. But unfortunately, a large percentage of the population was raised by people that just, quite frankly, weren’t the greatest parents that they could have been.

They did the best they could with where they were at. But, you know, you guys have read my books and, you know, my work. It’s like, I love my dad. But he didn’t know any better. He was just taught by his father and my grandmother. My dad’s mother, her mother died, I think she was 12. And her father, everybody called him the Colonel. He was in the army. And so he was gone a lot. And so he’s got several kids. His wife passes away when my mom is like 12 and he’s in the army. If there’s a war or something, something happens to him. His kids needed to be able to support themselves. And so when my grandmother was 12 years old, she had to work. She had to go and have a job, a part time job.

She had to pay my great grandfather rent, she had to pay the colonel rent, and she had to do all the cooking, the cleaning, the laundry, all that stuff for the house. And his mindset and his thinking, because he’s always in the army was that if something happens to him, my kids have, even at 12 years old, have got to be able to take care of themselves because there’s not going to be anybody else. And so what it taught her was, I mean, the world’s a harsh place, especially back then in the, you know, the turn of the century, the early 1900s.

It’s like if both parents are gone and your kids don’t know how to take care of themselves, they’re going to end up beggars in the street, basically, or worse, dead or in jail or or something bad. And so my grandmother was that’s what she learned when she was. Life was harsh. Her mother died when she was really young, not really even old enough to take care of herself. But my great grandfather made sure that he, in essence, treated her like an adult, even though she was still a child. And so she kind of had to fend for herself.

And so that’s kind of, you know, you grow up in a cold, emotionless environment. That’s how you’re going to parent because that’s how you were taught. And so that’s what my dad was taught, and that’s how he raised my brother and I. And you know, when I was younger, I was pretty pissed off about it. But by the time I got to about 30, 33, 32 years old, I was just like, I forgave my parents because I realized, hey, man, they just did the best they could with where they were at. They didn’t know any better.

And, you know, my dad and I have a great relationship. My mom passed away 20 years ago at this point. And, you know, you guys have read Mastering Yourself. You know, about the mental health issues that my mother had. It’s like, that’s just life. You know, life is harsh. It’s nasty. It’s dangerous. You got to learn to take care of yourself and be self-reliant because nobody’s coming to save you. You must do that yourself. You must participate in your own rescue.

But because the world is so hard and difficult, that’s why Marxist The socialist Leninist ideas are very appealing to the masses because it basically says, “hey, you can’t get laid, that’s not your fault. Hey, your broke ass bitch, that’s not your fault. The rich people are hogging all the money.” It’s always somebody else. And so it sure feels good for somebody to come along and convince you that your lot in life, or your shitty lot in life, is not really your fault.

The system is rigged against you. And we got to tear this whole system down and rebuild something new in order for things to be equitable and fair and all you really end up with when you buy into that bullshit is you end up with a mafia elite you can’t get rid of. Just look at China, look at Russia, look at Venezuela now, Maduro. It’s like I was talking to a friend of mine from Venezuela the other day, and you know, he’s been over here 5 or 6 years. I was like, bro, your country’s gone, man. It’s not coming back. Hugo Chavez disarmed everybody in 2012. He outlawed private gun ownership in 2012.

And now, if you don’t comply with what the government wants, they just send people out and murder you. There’s nothing you can do. That’s why everybody’s fleeing. That’s why a big portion of the population is left Venezuela and coming to the United States, or gone to other countries. People with money left. And, you know, it’s it’s not coming back. And they’re complaining that Maduro rigged the election. It was like, that’s what happens. You got a mafia elite running the country that you don’t get socialism or communism. You get a mafia lead. Every time it’s been tried. It’s been tried in over 100 countries.

That’s what happens. So true self-reliant people want to be in control of their own lives. But unfortunately, 50% to 60% of the people that were surrounded by just want to be told what to do. They want the government to be their mommy, and they’ll go along with pretty much whatever it is. I mean, when you look at the history of the United States only 3% of the American colonists fought in, supported, and financed the Revolutionary War. Most of the people in the colonies, like they didn’t want to be bothered. They didn’t. They didn’t risk anything. They didn’t get involved.

But once the, you know, country became the United States, like they all benefited. But when you look at the Founding Fathers and the ones that that got involved and fought and put their fortunes at risk, it’s like they lost so many of them, lost everything. They lost their fortunes, they lost their farms, they lost their lives. They lost their families, their families got murdered. Their kids got murdered. All of their possessions were taken from them, and many of them died broke and penniless.

After all that happened, after they had basically put everything that they had into birthing this great country of ours, and they didn’t, you know, things didn’t work out for them in the end. But that’s just what you know how it is. That’s why the title of my book is 3% Man. It was only about 3% of the people really have the lives that most other people dream of. It’s because very few people are willing to participate in their own rescue and do what they need to do in order to accomplish their grandest goals and dreams.

And if you’re watching this video, obviously you’re one of those few people that is. It’s like Wayne Dyer said, “Self-actualizing people must be what they can be.” And so you’re here because it’s a must for you to reach your full potential. So back to our email.

This obviously caused many struggles, not only in relationships but in guiding my own life. I wasn’t taught the importance of self-improvement and consistency in devoting time to my purpose.

Yeah, back in the day, I mean, it’s you guys that are watching this have access to the internet. But when I was growing up, if I wanted to learn something, I had to go to the library, whether it was at school or the public library. And check out books or read books while I was there. Or I would go to like, Borders Bookstore or Barnes and Noble Bookstore, like the self-improvement section in any of the major bookstores was probably 20ft long. I don’t know, what five, six feet high and both sides of it. That was it. Books on relationships, dating. I mean, 95% of them were written for women because women did most of the reading on those things.

There weren’t books like mine in the bookshelf that taught you the things that I teach about women and life. There was you had Tony Robbins, you had Zig Ziglar, you had Tom Hopkins, Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill, How to Win Friends and Influence People. Dale Carnegie, you had had that. I mean, there was a very small section for those kind of books. And then maybe you catch an infomercial with Tony Robbins on TV late at night when the flowbee thing was, it was like, you attach it to your vacuum cleaner and it spins like a blade inside that sucks your hair in and cuts it to like, the perfect length, and then sucks the hair into the vacuum so you don’t have hair everywhere. You know, that was it.

That was that. Or if you knew somebody that was rich and successful, you could talk to them or interview them or work for them or get mentored by them. We didn’t have the internet to where somebody like me can publish all these things that he’s learned over the course of his life, and have you learn them just by sitting on your ass and watching some videos or listening to the videos, and then you get to go out and apply it. I literally had to get in my car and drive like I remember when I was 19, 20 years old and I was away at college for the first time.

And you know, when I had an hour and a half, two hour break in between classes, I would just go to the library and read. I’d read about UFOs. I’d read biographies of famous, successful people. I had to dig to find these nuggets of wisdom that you guys just, in essence, sit on your ass and it comes through the speakers and screen. So you should be grateful for for where you’re at, because there was a lot harder to accumulate this knowledge, you know, just 20, 30 years ago. And so but if you want to learn these things, you still have to make the effort, even despite the fact that all this information is out there.

You still got 50, 60% of the population that are just like, I’ll just do it. Just as long as you pay my bills or you give me what I need, or you give me the government assistance or or the food stamps or whatever, it’s just I just want to be told what to do. I don’t want to think for myself. I don’t want responsibility for my own life. It’s somebody else’s fault. It’s too hard. That’s why Marxist, socialist, Leninist ideals sound really good to people that don’t want to work very hard or are lazy. Oh, I could just sit and do poetry my whole life, huh? I don’t have to work unless I want to work. Is that how it works in the real world. You end up with a mafia elite, and then you get lined up against the wall and shot, or you end up in the Gulag. You ever read The Gulag Archipelago? Oh, man. Uh, Alexander Solzhenitsyn. Holy shit. You got to read that.

There is something profound about the devotion to self-improvement and the development of habits, especially those geared towards health and focusing on your passions. Every habit we build is like casting a vote for the person we aspire to be.

That’s a really good way to put it, I like that. I might have to steal that.

These small, consistent actions accumulate over time, transforming our identity and how we perceive ourselves. People begin to notice these changes. The serendipity of aligning your life with positive habits often brings new opportunities and relationships into your life.

Well, it’s like Jocko Willink says. And Jade, if you’re doing a riel in this Willink is w I l l I n k not willing get it right. Sorry. I keep seeing some of those videos that Jade does. It’s like she keeps spilling Jocko Willink name wrong. Kind of irritating. Anyways, so Jocko Willink says “discipline equals freedom.” And it’s true. It’s like you have to discipline yourself to do things even when you don’t feel like it. Because in order to get from where you are to where you want to be, there’s a lot of unpleasant things that you have to do. It’s like when I was running this morning, I really didn’t feel like running, and especially like those last five minutes of the run.

I just wanted to stop and sit down. I was sweating my ass off. It’s like I was like, I got to finish the run. I never quit running, but I sure felt like I wanted to quit. But I kept doing it. I just kept being disciplined even though it was unpleasant and I didn’t want to finish it. I still did it because I had a video to do. And quite frankly, when I run two miles, take a shower, shit, shower, shave, I feel like the videos are much better and I’m much sharper and I think they do better. And so I’m doing it because I’m being disciplined, even though I didn’t feel physically like I wanted to complete my run. It’s like the monkey jumped on my back and it’s like, oh, just take, uh, just take. Do half the run today.

Corey it’s no big deal. It’s like. But I thought about how I’m going to feel once I’m done. And the fact that I just don’t quit on the runs, even though I feel like it, I still keep moving forward. I just have to. It’s a must because quitting and giving up sucks. And then I’ll be feeling like shit all day. Come on man, I only did half my run or I stopped 15 minutes into it. And so the pain of not doing what I know I need to do was greater than the pleasure of being lazy. And so even though it was unpleasant, I finished it and I felt great about myself. And then physically, I felt great. And mentally I felt great.

And so you do that over and over and over again. It gets easier, but mentally it’s still the same battle every day. And it’s the same battle I’ve been, you know, dealing with since I was a kid. It’s you either take the action that you know you need to take today, or you make excuses and you talk yourself out of it. And so something as simple as just making sure you complete your 20 minute run, it’s just you have to do it because you’ve always done it. You’ve always finished it. You’ve been doing it for decades. You’ve just got to keep doing it. Why quit when you’ve been doing it for decades. Even though you still feel like you want to quit like I did when I was in my 20s. You got to keep moving forward. You just have to keep moving forward.

As you grow, you start attracting individuals and circumstances that resonate with your higher ways of living. This alignment creates a powerful momentum, making the journey of self-improvement not just a solitary endeavor but a communal uplift.

Yeah, exactly. So when you go to achieve something or become greater than what you are. What you’re going to notice is a lot of the people around you, especially as you start doing well. Some of them that you thought were on your team are going to start attacking you and talking shit. And what you really have to realize is it’s not that they hate you or hating on you because they hate you. What it really is, is they hate themselves and they want to be you, and you’re a reflection to them of how they’re bitching out on themselves and their lives and their dreams.

And so they really hope that they can get you to quit. But really, deep down, if you don’t quit, you inspire them. The fact that you succeed and you make it and you kept moving forward and you didn’t quit, you didn’t give up on your 20 minute run or whatever in the morning. The fact that you did it and you achieved it gives them confidence. Like, if that fucking schmuck can do it, if that fucking schmuck, Corey Wayne, that shaved head bastard can do it, I can definitely do it. If that dude can accomplish these things, and he gives all his knowledge away and lets us read his books for free, I can do it. I can handle it too.

So each one of us that does things that most people consider to be amazing or difficult or hard, or achieves things that are really worthy, it’s the more of us that do it. It’s more evidence for everybody around us to go, wow, if that guy could do it, I can definitely do it. Come on. And that’s part of the beauty of it. A leader leads by example. Your example, your individual example gives other people around you the courage to go for their dreams and goals.

I recently found the love of my life, and by practicing the ideas in 3% Man, I have opened up my lover to fully submit to me. This has deepened our connection and made our relationship incredibly fulfilling. I’ve fully embodied what it means to be a 3% Man. This woman is completely in her feminine and is open to me in ways I’ve never experienced. One interesting observation I’ve had over the last couple of years of dating is not only being logical and intentional, but also paying attention to how that makes you feel when meeting women.

I’ve dated women where receiving their call would be a chore or picking out a birthday present felt daunting. I cultivated a beautiful relationship where none of these things feel forced. When she calls, I want to greet her with love, and when I’m about my day, I want to pick her up a gift. I guess what I’m saying is that being precise in vetting and being in alignment with your higher self will open you up to receive great love.

Well. Love is allowing, after all. And the whole purpose of all relationships is you go there to give. If you made a good choice, a girl who’s easygoing, easy to get along with and who’s nice to you and sweet to you and kind to you, and communicates like an adult and treats you good. Makes it easy. Like when you see your name pop up and you’re like, oh, I’m so glad she’s calling. I love seeing her name in my phone. I mean, you pick it up. You. It’s just magic to hear her voice versus a girl. When you see her calling, you’re like, oh fuck, what’s going on with her now? Oh, Jesus. There’s probably some drama or some shit going on. I think I’ll answer that call later.

It’s like a night and day difference, and there’s a lot of people in our world that are like, when they see the name pop on their phone, like, “oh, fuck her again. Oh, Jesus.” You want to be in a relationship and be like, “oh, my baby’s calling. Hey, baby. Hey, honey, I miss you, I miss you. Get your fucking cute little ass over here. I’m going to do naughty things to you later.” That’s what you want. Because life is hard enough. Make sure you choose a good woman who’s good to you, good for you, good for your soul. Easy going, Easygoing, easy to get along with. Not a boss girl fucking pain in the ass that’s constantly wanting to argue and give you a hard time.

Thank you for being a beacon of guidance and for helping men like me realize that we can shape our destinies through the habits we cultivate. Your teachings have been invaluable, and I am deeply grateful for the positive impact you’ve had on my life.

Warm regards,

Bob

Well, Bob, thanks for sharing. Congratulations on all your success. Congratulations on meeting your new lady and I wish you both many happy endings and happy finishes.

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