Are Some Dating Profile Pictures & Excessive Plastic Surgery Red Flags?

Some possible red flags in women with these dating profile pictures & plastic surgery.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who has had a lot of success dating women using the tools 3% Man provides. He says women who have breast implants and certain types of dating profile pictures are now red flags to him.

In his experience they tend to be a hot mess and he now avoids them. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

This particular email is from a viewer who has read 3% Man 10 times, and it looks like he’s been doing a lot of online dating, so he thought he would send in an email with some observations that he’s made, because obviously we speak a lot in these video newsletters about dating women for character.

So he’s noticed a couple of things that, at least in the women that he’s met online, that he wanted to share. So that was a good email to share with you guys, because I know a lot of you watching this do online dating, so it be interesting to see the comments and what you guys have experienced as well, if it’s something similar to this guy.

Viewer Email:

Hi Corey,

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

Well, ditto to you.

I love your work. I’ve read your book 10 times, and it flat-out works.

I say it all the time, even if you think I’m totally full of shit, if you apply what’s in 3% Man, you’re going to get better results than you were getting previously. If you’re new here and you haven’t read it yet, you can go to UnderstandingRelationships.com. Click the email sign-up box, which will pop up in the right hand corner of the website if you’re on a desktop or laptop. If you’re on a mobile device, it’ll be the first thing you see. Put your name, your first name, your email address, and create a password. As soon as you submit it, the book will open up right in your web browser, so you can read it and try it before you buy it. So you got nothing to lose. Nobody else does that. Nobody lets you learn all their best stuff for free. That should tell you something.

Got a couple of observations I’d like to share. First, the basic idea of planning a date that’s multiple “dates” in one. So, a while ago, I met a woman online, and although we lived some distance away from each other, we still clicked.

So as far as doing multiple dates in one night, that was something I learned from some of the guys in the pickup and seduction community, and that shit works like a charm, because the idea, and this is laid out in the book, is that what do most guys do, they make a date, they take a girl to dinner, or maybe they meet for drinks and then that’s it. They take her home or they go their separate ways if they drove separately. Whereas if you think about it, women typically in the west are going to sleep with a guy by the second or third date. When it comes to seduction, it usually takes about four or five hours from the time you start your date until physical affection happens.

So the idea is to stack the deck in your favor to help you get what you want. I’m a coach, my job is to help you get what you want. I’m not here to be your priest or your judge or whatever. I’m just going to give you unvarnished feedback. Sometimes I’m going to torch a guy if he needs it. Especially if he’s doing a lot of dumb, unattractive things, I’m going to torch him and to emotionally anchor him to move away from things that are going to cause him pain. Then emotionally anchor him to things that are going to create pleasure all just by me talking. It looks like I’m talking, but there actually is a method to my madness and it works really well.

So back to the three dates. Say if you’re on a budget, you don’t want to be taking girls out to expensive dinners. I get that, I totally understand, but you can basically take measured steps on a date to invest more in a woman if things go well. So if you’re unsure, if you met online, or maybe you just met quickly and met a girl in person, you only talk for a handful of minutes, a good place to meet is like a wine bar. You have a glass of wine, maybe an appetizer or two, and if she sucks or you don’t like the way she talks or she’s boring, you don’t feel like you click, you can excuse yourself and say, “Hey, it’s been really great meeting you. I gotta run. Have a great night.” You give her a hug and you’re on your way.

If it goes well, then you can have a second place to go. “Hey, why don’t we get on and go down the street? There’s a really great place we can go. Have a nice, quiet dinner.” So then you go and you have dinner. Conversation continues. Then the third place should be a place that can facilitate physical interaction. Something like miniature golf, maybe even a Topgolf, throwing axes, video games, go karts, shooting pool, bowling, video games, arcades, pinball, throwing darts, that kind of thing, because at the third place, after you spent three, four or five hours together and you noticed she’s playing with her hair and touching your arm, then you can make your move. You start making out. Making out leads to heavy petting. Then your hands start wandering. Then you can invite her with the trial close back to your place to see if she’s ready to go and be alone with you. If she’s not, she’ll usually say, “Well, let’s have another drink,” or “Let’s stay for a little while longer. Hey, let’s order another appetizer or something.”

So you do that. Maybe an hour later you try it again. You’ll get a much higher close rate on the first date versus spreading that out over three dates. So it’s just a technique. It works really well because if you’re getting in and out of your car or in and out of an Uber, a train, a bus or whatever, it’s like you’re going in three different places together, you’re out in public, you’re walking around, and it gives the woman the experience of being on three dates. So it’ll give you the best possible chances to get to the Promised Land as quickly as possible because again, that’s what us guys are. We’re visual creatures. We see a woman and we’re taken by her, and what are we thinking? We’re thinking impure thoughts. So it’s my job, as a coach, is to help you get there as quickly, as efficiently, and also for you guys on a budget, as inexpensively as possible.

We decided to meet halfway in a small college town. I planned an entire day date; first we biked a local trail…

Now, normally I don’t recommend going on day dates because guys get in the habit, especially guys that are too nice, they’re ultra nice guys, they start asking women on lunch dates and stuff like that. Then they have nothing planned afterwards. They go on a lunch date and then they see you later, and the more you do platonic things, especially if her interest is low, especially when you don’t make a move or try to kiss or escalate things, you end up going out on a bunch of lunch dates and it goes nowhere. Especially if you got a girl that doesn’t really like you, but a lunch date is, “Hey, that’s like a friendship thing. Free meal.” You don’t want your time wasted or your money, so an evening date is a romantic date.

If a woman is trying to avoid doing anything romantic with you, she’s going to suggest coffee dates or meeting on neutral ground in the middle of the day to do a lunch date, but doesn’t mean it’s set in stone. Like this guy, looks like they’re a little long-distance from each other. Personally, if I was doing online dating, I’d only want to be 10 to 15 minutes away, but you open your geographic area up, you’re just going to get more matches and more prospects, but for convenience sake, it’s much nicer to have a woman that’s only 10, 15 minutes away, especially if you start dating seriously, because driving an hour, hour-and-a-half to get to a girl or her to get to you becomes a drag, especially the longer you’re together.

…Then had lunch at a trendy local cafe, off to a wine tasting overlooking a river, a short tour of a local multi-media art museum, and then finally a casual dinner at the only real restaurant in the small town.

So he did all that research, I would imagine on Google, Google Maps, which that’s really great for planning things, especially if you’re not familiar with the area. There’s lots of cool little things in there. You can use the search feature to find you fun, inexpensive, interesting places to go.

A little light hand-holding along the way. So I walked her back to her car to part company, thanked her for coming and leaned in for a simple goodbye kiss. Kaboom! Instant tonsil hockey!

I have never heard tonsil hockey, so I might have to steal that one. Thanks for sharing tonsil hockey.

Just amazing to me how her interest was boiling over.

Yeah, because the other thing is you’re spending a lot of time together and you’re not really making a move physically. Then by the end of the date she’s like, “When is he gonna make a move? When is he going to try to kiss me?” Then you do and she sucks the tongue out of the back of your throat. It’s always nice when that happens.

Second, I’ve observed, through a number of dates and short relationships, that a big red flag for me is breast implants.

Well, being a connoisseur of breasts, I will say if a woman’s going to have breast implants, underneath the muscle feels natural, beautiful, love it, but outside the muscle, you get scar tissue, and it just doesn’t feel good. That’s my personal preference, but I’m just saying under the muscle is best. Quite frankly, if she’s got little A cups, if they’re natural, there’s nothing like natural boobies in your hands. I will say the more, especially living in South Florida, I think this is kind of everywhere, but you see so many women these days doing the fish lips, getting their face done, their cheeks and everything else, and their face doesn’t move and they look like a porcelain doll. They almost look like a joker. You ever see the original Batman movie with Jack Nicholson, the Joker, and he’s got that grin? It’s kind of the way these women look. They don’t look natural. They blow their lips up, and it just…

Then the other thing is, because I’ve dated women that have blown their lips up, it’s like they’re hard as a rock. Their lips don’t really even move. So kissing them is like sucking on a fucking garden hose or something. It’s just not very nice. Not a fan of it. I prefer el naturale. Like I said, you see that a lot. It’s like all the women, they look the same. Then you see how they look before they got the surgery and you’re like, “Oh God, she was so beautiful.” She destroyed her face with this shit. All these fucking injections. It’s just not attractive.

So typically, I mean common sense, is a woman’s doing that kind of plastic surgery, she doesn’t like the way she looks, she’s insecure about it. Maybe somebody made fun of her. Maybe she dated a guy and he’s like, “Your boobs are too small.” Treated her like shit, dumped her and blew her off, and she thinks, “Oh well, if I get my boobs done, then guys will really like me.” So I’ve known women that have gotten boob jobs because they were getting ripped on by the guys they were dating at the time. Then those relationships never work out. Then they got a rack that wasn’t really their idea. They did it to please somebody else, and the guy still didn’t stay with them.

So it is possible if a woman has a healthy body image, she’s going to love herself the way she is. She’s not going to want to go get a bunch of surgery. I mean, we look at, what’s her name? Ariana Grande. Such a beautiful girl. It’s like, she looks like she’s been taking Ozempic or something. She looks like a fucking skeleton now. She looks awful. She doesn’t look healthy at all, but that whole Hollywood culture? All those people are nutty. It’s like they all get surgery. They all get the injections in their face.

The thing is, when you get those, the shit in your cheeks like, I had a friend of mine who did that after about five or six years, it turns around sideways and you get a big bulge in your cheek, and then you got to go and get back under the knife and get that shit taken out. It’s just not worth it, but people do it. It’s a big industry. It just makes makes really attractive women look ugly and they all look the same. They all look like a bunch of fucking fish. As Rodney Dangerfield would have said, “Last time I saw a mouth like that, it had a hook in it.” So I’m not a fan. Don’t ruin your face, ladies, with the plastic surgery.

Every woman, and I mean EVERY woman, that I’ve known, met, or heard about who has had breast implant surgery, was a hot mess.

Well, you know, in my personal experience, some of them are, but not all of them are. Then again, he’s doing a lot of online dating. Again typically, if a woman has a full social life and it’s easy for her to meet great men, she’s not going to be on a dating app.

I’ve come to believe that there’s a direct connection to low self-esteem and that the surgery is an attempt to fix that.

Well again, this is his experience. So he’s doing a lot of online dating. So you got to think about it. It’s like fishing when you’re prospecting. So if you’re strictly doing online dating, you’re dealing with women that just aren’t meeting the kind of guys that they want in their normal everyday lives. Maybe they’re transfers, maybe they moved here for a job and they literally know nobody, but the majority of what you see on there is just women, for whatever reason, aren’t meeting the right guys, or they’re just fucking fruit loops.

Again, having been doing this 20 years, there’s so many emails that I’ve done over the years and it’s one of the reasons why I go through these so guys can learn from it and they don’t make the same mistakes because we typically learn more from failure than we do for success. If we’re arrogant, full of ourselves, we have a knowledge gap and we have a bunch of success, then we start to think we’re infallible. Then that’s when you get humbled. As Jocko says, “Be humble or you will be humbled.”

So you end up with women who typically are high body count flakes surrounded by a plethora of male orbiters.

Well, those are definitely women from broken homes. A good, family-oriented girl who was raised right, whose father wants to meet every guy she goes out with, shakes his hand, looks him in the eye, he’s going to give his opinion, and she’s going to trust his judgment because she loves her dad. These are relationships, good family relationships, where dad is the man of the house. He’s the alpha. The wife, the girlfriend, baby mama respects him and all the daughters respect daddy’s law. When daddy decides something, that’s it. There’s no talking back. There’s no nagging him for 90 days until he gives in and throws up his hands in frustration. He decides something and that’s it, and everybody’s like, “Yes, daddy.” She admires her dad. Respects her dad. She’ll say things like, “He’s my rock. My father is my rock.” Whenever they need advice, they got an issue or they’re having trouble with a guy, they’re going to talk to their dad, their dad’s going to tell them the way it is, they’re going to trust their dad, and they’re going to listen to them. A girl from a broken home doesn’t have that.

So you’re going to typically see lots of male orbiters. Even if they’re in a relationship, they’ll be giving out their phone number when they’re supposedly taken to other guys to basically give them the green light to hit on them. So again, when you see that, that’s why it’s always a good question to ask, especially when you first meet a girl or you’re on a date like, “Tell me about your family. Are you guys close? Do you love your dad?” And she’s like, “Oh, my dad’s a fucking narcissist. I hate him. I haven’t talked to him in 10 years. He’s terribly cheated on my mother. He cheated on his other wives.” You hear that, then that’s not good, because she’s gonna be jaded. “She’s not going to trust me.” She may even come out and say things like she hates men. She hates her father. She’ll probably hate men and hate you. Has nothing to do with you. It’s just that’s what happened. Dad fucked her up.

Fun for a while, but not relationship material.

Well, like I say often, there are women for fun and fucking, and then there are women for family and a relationship. Don’t confuse the two.

Last, online dating profiles. When I see a headline photo that’s a selfie shot from a high angle while wearing a low-cut dress.

In other words, showing off their boobs like, “Hey, look at my boobs!”

That’s an instant swipe left. That’s what you want a first impression to be? Show me a photo of you doing something active outdoors, and I’m interested. Show me a photo with a 10K race bib, skiing, or playing golf, and I’m hooked.

Bob

Just normal things. Girls that didn’t get attention from daddy would make sense that they’re going to say, “Hey, look at my titties!” Girls that were raised right, if their dads saw the profile they would be like, “Hey honey, your tits are out. Come on. That shouldn’t be the first picture in your profile. You’re sending the wrong signal. You’re going to send guys that are just looking for that. You want a guy that’s with you for you.” It’s like, “Oh, she’s a runner too. Oh, cool!” So I agree with what you’re saying there. It tells you a lot based upon the pictures, but obviously women know that us guys are visual creatures and they should have some pictures that you can tell what their body looks like. If everything is a head-shot or from the shoulders and up, then you know she’s probably fat. Not always, but most of the time it’s because they’re fat and they’re trying to hide the wide load. Trying to hide the fact that when they walk down the street, they cause a fucking eclipse. So that was his experience.

Like I said, the thing with the plastic surgery, I can kind of understand that boobs, only in my experience, like I’ve seen both both sides, I can’t say definitively in my own personal experience, one way or another, it is or it isn’t, because I’ve seen both. I’ve seen women that are totally natural that are screwballs, and women that have had breast implants that are great, and others that are total nut jobs and they sleep around. So it’s a case-by-case basis, but it is an interesting observation.

So my opinion, based on what he shared, is if you’re going to do online dating, it’s probably a good rule of thumb. Especially that’s an interesting observation. What’s the first picture that you’re going to see? The titties or her? Maybe she’s got her little bib with her number on and she’s in a nice pair of yoga pants or whatever. She’s not giving you a beaver shot or a picture of the camel toe or anything like that. They’re tastefully done. In other words, if dad saw that, he wouldn’t be like, “What are you doing?”

Lila was like, “Huh?” I say that to the dogs when they’re doing something they shouldn’t and I’m like, “What are you doing?” So as soon as I said that, she was like, “Huh?”

So what do you guys think? Post your comments below. It’d be interesting to see your feedback. Like I said, if you’re strictly doing online dating, I’d say pretty much this guy’s pretty spot on. If you’re meeting women in real life and they have a really good relationship with their dad, it’s not necessarily going to apply, but it’d be interesting to see what you guys have to say in the comments.

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