Are We Good For Each Other?

We tend to attract lovers into our lives who have similar goals, values and interests and despite whether or not that person is a good match for us. How to determine what you need to change and understand about yourself so you can attract better quality lovers into your life.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss four emails from four different viewers. The first email is from a woman who has been on and off with a guy who has a drinking problem. When he’s not drinking, he dumps her. When he starts drinking again he wants her back. The second email is from a guy who is driving a woman away with his over pursuing, stalkerish and needy behavior. She should be in love with him by now, but due to his behavior she’s pretty distant and not too excited to see him.

The third email is from a guy who has been dating a woman for a year who he caught cheating on him with another guy. He’s acting like a doormat. The fourth email is from a guy in his 60’s who lives in a small town, and seems to keep attracting women who he dates for many years, but once they breakup with him these women go out of their way to sabotage his chances with the new women he’s trying to date. He definitely needs to learn how to spot the nutty women before he gets too involved with them.

“Like tends to attract like. People who like the same things tend to like each other. If there is a part of us that is wounded, needs to be healed, that we deny or are ashamed of, we first need to learn to fully accept and love ourselves as we are so we can allow others to come into our lives to love us. If we don’t do the work that we need to do to accept and love ourselves completely, this will create problems in future relationships, because we won’t allow another to love the parts of ourselves that we have not yet accepted or learned to love. If you believe that you are unworthy in some way, shape or form, then no matter what anyone else does or says to the contrary, you simply will not accept this, believe them or allow them into your heart. We therefore will often stay with people who are a bad match for us because they validate what we feel or believe is wrong with us. People will always act consistently with who they view themselves to be, it does not matter whether that view is accurate or not.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne