How to know if you have codependent tendencies that are having a negative effect on your ability to attract and keep lovers you desire in your life willingly.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who has come to realize after doing some research on the internet, that due to his dysfunctional family and upbringing, he is co-dependent. After his ex dumped him he started to wonder why he acts the way he does around family, friends and lovers. He realized he was constantly attracting the same type of women and relationships. He always put his needs last, tolerated bad behavior and mistreatment, and never stood up for himself.
I discussed an email of his in a recent newsletter titled, “The Power of Learning To Saying “No.” He discusses what he has learned about co-dependency and how this is enabling him to take his power back and end this cycle of attracting toxic lovers and dysfunctional relationships.
“If you are constantly putting your needs last to the needs of everyone else around you, or tend to have or become involved in relationships that are one-sided, destructive or abusive, then you may be codependent. Dysfunctional families tend to ignore that problems exist. When this happens, family members learn to repress their own emotions and disregard their own needs. They don’t talk, touch, feel, confront or trust. Codependent people tend to have a low-self esteem and seek circumstances, events or people outside of themselves to be happy. When you look for happiness outside of yourself and depend upon the approval or love of others, you often will be disappointed and unhappy when people do not live up to your expectations. Loving yourself, putting your needs first and booting toxic or abusive people out of your life will help your overall sense of happiness and wellbeing. Professional counseling and therapy can also be tremendously beneficial and helpful to getting free of codependency and unhealthy tendencies for good.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne