Attraction, Indifference & Being Mysterious

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1. Sebastian says

   October 23, 2014 at 2:44 pm

   Hey Coach, first of all I want to thank you for your work, your techniques and observations are right on the spot. Your book is truly a great source of knowledge when it comes to women and succeeding in life in general.

   So I am 27, from South America working on getting my PhD in the US. I am good looking, centered, outgoing, and have never had any trouble approaching and hooking up with beautiful women, but before finding your material I always felt that I was doing something wrong when I would go out on a date with a girl and had a fantastic time, hook up sometimes, and then somehow I was never be able to see her again. I’ve had a couple of long-term relationships in the past but after a while I realized that those girls were not really what I wanted and decided to break up. By reading your book and watching your videos I’ve said to myself numerous times: “oh crap, so that’s where I screwed up!” and by applying what you teach I have been able to view life in a different way… not only when it comes to women.

   I just wanted to share with you a recent success that I had, which I think encompasses a lot of the concepts you teach. I met this gorgeous 22-yo girl a few weeks ago on a dating (more like a hooking-up) app called Tinder. The app is only based on looks, so I didn’t really have any expectations to find someone I could actually have a connection with. After we matched, I made sure not to send more than a couple texts and I asked her out for a date 4 days in advance. She was down for it with no hesitations. We met up for a few drinks on a Tuesday evening and had a fantastic time and great conversation. She works at an airport and is a really interesting person. She was actually as fascinated with me as I was with her… asking me questions all the time and wanting to know everything about me. I kept reading her body language and could tell that she was ready… so I remembered and said this line a friend taught me: “I think you should get those beautiful lips of your over here and kiss me”… I could tell she was shocked at first as she later confessed me that it is not very typical to encounter a guy that has the balls to say things like that. We had a fantastic make out session the whole night and the chemistry was great. When we were walking out of the bar I said to her: “let’s go back to my place for a glass of wine”… she gave me a look that said: “I want to… but not yet” and then said “I’m not that easy!” with a smile on her face… I said to myself “yeah, right”… I didn’t want to push it and I had to work early the next day and so I said good night after making out with her some more. I had the mentality of “I will get her soon anyways, so whatever”. The next day she texted me saying she had a great time and she hoped we could do it again. I took this as an opportunity to say: “I did too. When are you free to get together?”. It took her a couple of days to respond… now I believe she was trying to play hard to get but who knows? I was calmed because I knew I did everything right and I’m always too busy to be worrying about when she gets back to me. She has her phone always on hand so I know for sure she saw my text.
   Then we she replied we agreed on meeting up for happy hour last night, and same story… met for drinks and appetizers, made out, great conversation and chemistry… but this time I took her back to my place. When we got there we kept talking and dancing… I may have had too much to drink and Junior was having some technical difficulties getting ready for action. On the outside I was calmed, but on the inside I was saying “SHIT FUCK!!!!” She was teasing me about it and was cool with it saying “shit happens”. The naked make out session led to some good foreplay. I eventually regained my strength and the rest was AWESOME! I guess the whole thing eventually built more anticipation and worked in my favor. She stayed over and left this morning after breakfast. I said to her after walking her to the door: “Call me later”. She smiled and said playfully “maybe”. She sent me a text shortly after saying “Thank you for taking me out last night and having me over. I had fun. Sorry I didn’t get to shower, haha. But I enjoy spending time with you. Thank you!” to which I replied “I had fun too. How about if you come over again Tuesday night and we make dinner together?” now I don’t think this was weak because she was the one reaching out to me, but I am getting the feeling that she will again wait a couple of days to respond, which even though doesn’t bother me makes me wonder that she somehow feels the need to hold back to not appear too eager. What are your thoughts on this?

   During our date last night at some point she told me that she gets bored of guys very quickly because a lot of them are too predictable, dull and needy. It is exactly what you said; women want a guy who is a challenge and a mystery. Then she said: “You are cute, and you are different. It is great to have someone with whom I can actually have a conversation with”. She understands and appreciates the fact that I am successful and busy and I never blow up her phone like a needy little bitch. Anyways coach, I guess we’ll see where this goes. All I care about now is having fun and going with the flow. My plan is to ask her out on a date once a week and keep reading her attraction level as time goes by, until she proves to be worthy she is still on probation. I will make sure to make a donation in appreciation to your work. Let me know when you come over to Northern NV so I can buy you a drink as well. Thanks a lot man!

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