Attraction Is Not A Choice

Here is a question from a client who sounds like he is very analytical. He feels like he is unattractive to women.

Thank you Mr. Wayne,

I really do appreciate the help you’re offering. I did take an informal assessment of my qualities by surveying various women in my age range. It has been determined after analyzing the feedback that I do have a lot of husbandry qualities. However, I do lack qualities for that initial attraction.

Tom

Here is my response:

Hi Tom,

Nice to hear from you. When it comes to how women feel about attraction towards men, attraction is not a choice. They either like you romantically, or they don’t. Their interest level in you is either 51% and higher, or it’s not. If it’s 51% and higher, you can raise it. If its 50% or lower, you don’t have a chance. The opinion from these women was based on how they were feeling towards you in those moments. That was then, this is now. The more you can be happy in life in general, the more women will find you attractive. The more successful you can become in your career and life purpose, the better and more confident you will feel and thus, the more women will feel attracted to you. The better you can do you, the more women will find you attractive. When you are happy, enjoying life, your career is going great, you’re making good money, taking care of your body, exercising, eating healthy, etc. the more women will find you attractive. When a guy’s life is banging on all cylinders, he radiates confidence, peace, well being, authenticity, happiness and is just pleasant and uplifting to be around. Women want to do him, and men want to hang with him. He is a leader. The word “lead” means to go first. Follow your heart’s desires, and allow and encourage everyone around you to be themselves. Women will be more feminine, attractive and playful around you because you will love and accept them however they show up in your life. Find something to be really excited about, and pursue it relentlessly until your life matches your dreams. No matter how long it takes to accomplish. Create a compelling vision for what your life could be, and focus on enjoying the journey as you build it over time.

“A person can succeed at almost anything for which they have unlimited enthusiasm.” ~ Charles M. Schwab

To be successful, you must decide exactly what you want to accomplish, then resolve to pay the price to get it. I have a friend who used to work for a defense contractor. He is an electrical engineer. One day while he was at a bar contemplating being more successful with women, he had a stroke of genius. It was just a matter of numbers. All he contemplated he needed to do was just ask enough girls out. He is an analytical kind of guy, as you can imagine. You know what his line was? He went up to every single woman in the bar and asked, “would you like to have a date with me?” Keep in mind, he was not the most handsome guy, kind of dorky and nerdy. He was an engineer after all, a weird, quirky and “out there” kind of guy. Well, as he is going up to all of these women, he hears one “no” after another, until the very last chick he goes up to says, “I’d like to have a date with you.” They’ve been together for about 30 years. They are weird, crazy freaks, but cool people. No matter how weird, unattractive, strange, etc. you think you are, there are millions of women who are attractive, but feel the same way about themselves that you do. Everyone is weird in some way. It’s a numbers game. Someone will say yes. You just have to go through the process to find one good one… and then…a second one…and then…a third one…and then…you get the idea.

Read my book if you have not already. Commit to improving yourself a little bit each day. Over the course of a year those little bits add up to a greater grander expression of who you are. Light yourself up, and you will light up more women.

Try it out and let me know what happens.

Corey Wayne