Attraction, Seeking Approval & Dishonest Friendships

Why it’s always a bad idea to tell a woman you are ok with being friends under any circumstances when you really want to date her. Why men need to be authentic with their sexual desires and not enter into phony friendships in hopes that they can later convert them into a sexual relationship.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss five different emails from five different viewers. One of them actually told a girl he was trying to date that they were going out only as friends. He wonders why he’s still stuck in friends zone. Another was in a rush to seduce a woman he could have hooked up with to the point that they were both naked in bed together, but his impatience, lack of standing up for what he wanted, being direct and clear in his intent, has landed him in friends zone.

Most of the emails are situations in which the guys agreed to be friends only and suppress their feelings and desires in hopes that they could change the women’s mind. In all of these situations there is an abundance of approval seeking behavior that is not helping their pursuit of success. Needless to say, they are not having success getting out of friends zone. I tell them all what they can do to turn things around on a case by case basis.

“True alpha males are clear in their intent and sexual desire from the moment they realize they have a sexual interest in a woman. Only beta males mask their sexual desire, intentions, and enter into phony friendships under false pretenses in hopes that they can later convert the friendship into a relationship. Men who perceive themselves as a catch will never stick around agreeing to be friends first when a woman puts them in friends zone. Men who mask their sexual desire and enter into fake friendships with women who they desire sexually is simply approval seeking and weak behavior. It is an attempt by beta males to mask a lack of confidence, abundance of fear, desire to avoid rejection and feelings of weakness and insecurity. A true alpha male goes for what he wants without apologizing and in spite of his fear of undesirable consequences. Alpha males accept any outcome without attachments because they know that at least showing up and taking action, is what they owe themselves, women and the world as a demonstration of their strength and masculinity.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne