Avoiding Friends-Zone & Rebounding

How to avoid the friends zone and being a rebound if you have gotten yourself involved with someone who hooks up with you only while they are temporarily broken up with their lover.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who got involved in a three way love triangle with one of his female co-workers. She also happened to be dating another male co-worker. They became friends and started hanging out even though she was dating another guy from his office. He developed feelings for her. Then she temporarily broke up with her boyfriend after he told her that her boyfriend had another woman and many other personal problems. She still got back together with him again shortly thereafter. Then she broke up with her boyfriend again.

He finally hooked up with her, but she still went back to her ex-boyfriend a few weeks later once again, and stuck him back in friends zone. He has since moved on to another job. After almost three months of no contact, she reached out to him a few days ago to tell him that she still thinks about him all the time. He asks my opinion on the situation and how he should handle things to avoid being the rebound and getting stuck in the friends zone.

“The ideal situation for starting a new love story with someone is if you both are single and available. However, many times in life you may encounter someone who is recently out of a relationship, or involved with someone who they are constantly making up and breaking up with. The reality of people in these situations is that they have not become strong enough to walk away when they know a relationship should end. If you choose to get involved with someone in this situation, you run a high risk of flakey behavior, being the rebound lover, getting hurt, getting friend zoned or being a backup. Therefore, if you choose to play with fire, you must be strong enough to walk and never look back if you get burned, instead of sticking around for less than what you want, or waiting and hoping that you won’t continue to get burned. The key is to realize that people who have yet to develop the strength or conviction to permanently leave their lovers when it’s time, are very likely to break, or continue breaking your heart. Proceed with caution, but have other romantic options so you don’t become attached and raked over the coals emotionally.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne