In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who lives in a small town. He is dating several women, keeping his options open and trying to master the fundamentals of what my book teaches. He says he has realized the value and need to read it ten to fifteen times. He is concerned that since he lives in such a small town, and since he is also dating multiple women, eventually he will be on a date with a woman and run into another woman he is dating.
He asks my opinion on how I would handle it and if something similar has ever happened to me. It has, and I explain how I was able to use this to my advantage, and how this can actually increase attraction with both women should something similar ever happen to you. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email.
I just wanted to initially say thanks. I’ve worked my way through your book, I’m starting a second time now, and have noticed that you make a ton of very nuanced points, which explains the need to re-read it. (You need to know this stuff backwards and forwards. Repetition is the mother of skill. If you know the principles by reading the book 10-15 times, the answers will come right out.) I appreciate the work you’ve put into this and the thought behind how much information is in there.
The question I have is this: Have you ever been on a date with one girl and ran into another girl you’re also dating, and if so, how do you handle those kinds of situations? I live in a city that isn’t huge, and it’s not outside the realm of possibility for this to happen. I haven’t had this happen yet, but I would be really curious about what mind state or mentality to have ready in case this situation pops up.
Thanks again for your book, your site and your input. It’s totally changed how I’ve looked at love, dating and sex. (If you’re on a date with a girl and you run into another girl, just introduce them and let them figure it out. Women will create rapport on their own, and they will realize you are seeing both of them. You should have a non-attached attitude in case one of them leaves. Be happy and willing to lose both of them in order to get both of them.)
“Scarcity creates value. When someone or something is scarce and unique, it usually becomes very valuable. When it comes to sex and romance, if you focus on being and becoming a great catch, you will make yourself a very valuable, but scarce resource. When someone or something comes in a limited supply or with a limited time offer, other people will value what is limited even more than they normally would. Sellers, who have multiple offers for what they are selling, can get the best price and terms. The superior negotiating position in all of your personal and professional negotiations will always be to create a high demand and low supply for what you have to offer. Creating scarcity and competition for your time always works to your advantage.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne