In this video coaching newsletter I discuss three different emails from three different viewers who are struggling with finding a balance between being infinitely patient, confident, direct, decisive and sexually aggressive. The first email is from a viewer who believes he is not acting needy and weak. However, it’s obvious from his text exchanges with a girl who was initially very hot for him and who has since started blowing him off, that his lack of being direct, decisive and confident is the root cause of her loss of interest and attraction for him. The second email is from a viewer who has been so focused on sleeping with a woman he really likes, that his impatience has caused him to go in pointless circles with her for many months without seducing her in the bedroom. He’s very frustrated and angry at the situation and with her. The third email is from a viewer who had a date with a woman he had been dating for about a month. They were seeing each other 1-2 times per week and having sex when they got together. As the weeks went by, she was reaching out to him more and more. She was calling him 80% of the time saying that she missed him and can’t wait to see him. Then one evening she simply did not show up for their date even though she had contacted him only a few hours before to say that she was at the grocery store getting supplies for the dinner they were going to cook together at his house in a few hours. He called her and sent her several texts when she did not show up that night and the next day. She still has not contacted him to explain why she stood him up. He knows she is OK because she has been posting on her Facebook consistently for past several days since she stood him up. He is a recovering nice guy who always over-pursued, acted needy and turned women off by trying to lock them down to a commitment. He had been expecting her to bring up the boyfriend/girlfriend & exclusivity talk soon, but instead she totally blew him off with no explanation at all. He’s very disappointed, dejected and discouraged.
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“Women like a man who will take his time. A man who has the proper balance between being patient, confident, direct, decisive and sexually aggressive at the appropriate moments. If a man has confidence, is direct, decisive and sexually aggressive, but comes on too strong and becomes impatient, he will get rejected. However, if he has a take it or leave it kind of infinitely patient attitude, where he makes his intentions clear and goes for what he wants, but notices if he is moving too fast and then backs off to respect a woman’s boundaries and comfort zone, she will feel safe and comfortable enough to open up to receive him, and let him have his way with her. If you hang back long enough, she will start touching you. If she stops touching you, then back off, stop touching her and wait for her to come back and start touching you again. Continue talking, laughing and having fun. She will start touching you again once she feels comfortable. If you think from the end like James Bond does, sex is inevitable. So RELAX, it’s in the bag. But if you become fearful, you will push too hard and she will totally shut down to you and reject you. It’s an art, not a science. Practice makes perfect the art of seduction.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne