How you can banish your inner beta, so you can attract and keep the kind of women you’ve always wanted and reach your full potential.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email success story from a 50-year-old cognitive therapist from New York who lost his wife of 25 years to diabetes. He found my work two years later, after getting dumped by a beautiful woman that was 10 years younger than him. He said he was in such pain, he read my book five times in two weeks.
He describes how amazing his relationship with his current girlfriend is, how she reacted and what she did when he got arrested while out on a date with her. He also shares several compliments she has given him about why she chose him over all other suitors, and several other behaviors he exhibits that she finds sexy and attractive, which are right out of what my book says will happen when it’s followed properly. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email.
I’m a 50-year-old cognitive therapist who lives in New York and who lost his wife of 25 years to diabetes. About two years after her death, I went online and met a beautiful girl 10 years younger than me. I was head over heels in love with this girl and eventually got dumped.
(That fucking stings, especially with it being the first relationship after you lost your wife of 25 years. It’s not an easy thing to get over. In essence, when a relationship ends with somebody you really love and care about, and especially when it’s not your own choice, it’s another death. It’s the death of that relationship.)
I was too embarrassed to address this with a therapist of my own, so I searched the Internet for some help. I ran across your work and got your book. I was in such pain that I read your book 5 times in the span of a two-week period.
(See, that’s somebody that’s really committed to learn and absorb this information.)
Retrospectively, by the end of my first reading I saw exactly the beta male mistakes that I continuously made throughout that relationship, but more hopefully, saw a roadmap to never repeat those missteps.
(The most successful people in life have the attitude of “Just fucking tell me what I need to do. Just give me the knowledge, the skills, the strategy, and I’ll fucking do it so I can get the results I want.)
As a compliant patient takes medication exactly as prescribed by their therapist, I followed your recommendations to the letter. I went out to the mall, I smiled at people, I started conversations, I revamped my image, and as my confidence begin to build, I began to attract exactly the kind of women that I had described in my pros and cons list, as well as my love letter.
(He’s probably talking about my video, “Improving Your Social Skills.” It gives you a protocol, some steps to follow. Each little step is kind of like climbing a staircase. Each step is a little bit bolder, a little bit more risk than the last one, until you get to the point where you’re literally setting dates on the spot. But the good news is, you work up to it. If you do the work, you’ll get the results.)
Eventually, I met a woman who seemed to come straight from the page of my love letter and list. This woman is a ballerina, television and movie actor, and model. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think that this kind of woman would be attracted to me. But as I continuously use your technology as a buffer to resist behaving with Neolithic incompetence, it seems that I am doing everything right, and here is the evidence.
(You are a great fucking student. Obviously being a therapist, and understanding from your perspective, you can apply self-care. Having coached a lot of therapists, psychologists and counselors over the years, they’re very growth oriented people. They want to understand how to get better. Like Vince Lombardi said, “They call it coaching, but it’s teaching.” It’s about teaching successful negotiation strategy in your personal life and your professional life.)
By about our eighth or ninth date, she says to me, “Sweetheart, I have to tell you what really set you apart from all the other guys that I was dating is the fact that you didn’t blow up my phone, and you didn’t pressure me for sex on the first date.
(The Title of the Book is “How To Be A 3% Man,” because 97% of the guys don’t fucking get it. When you exhibit these behaviors, woman are so excited and grateful that you’re showing up this way, because they see it so rarely. She’s complimenting you because you’re acting like a man is supposed to act, so good job dude. I’m very proud of you.)
And when I didn’t hear from you five days after our first date, I was intrigued.”
(You were calling her one day per week. You’re busy and you’ve got other things going on. You’re taking your time and in no rush, unlike other guys she’s going to encounter who are blowing up her phone, are just focused on sex and don’t understand the seduction process.)
She went on to say so many other things, and the remarkable thing about what she was saying was that it was almost verbatim from your book.
(A lot of things women say to guys when they’re happy or they’re feeling a certain way, they’re written right in the book. You’ll often hear women you’re dating say the same things to you.)
It’s like all the mistakes that I avoided making, she completely recognized as things that set me apart from the other 97%.
More evidence of how totally in love this woman is with me is the fact that on about our sixth date, I got pulled over by the cops for making an illegal turn, when I learned that my registration was expired. My car was impounded, and I got arrested. Not only did my lady keep her cool the entire time, partially because I kept my cool as well, but I gave her a few dollars and I said, “I want you to take the train home.”
(Women are going to respond to you in direct proportion to how you’re personally showing up yourself.)
She looked at me and said, “Fuck that. I’m not leaving my man up here!”
(That’s somebody who’s on your fucking team.)
Not only did she stick around, but she bailed me out and said, ”Sweetheart if you want to go home, I totally understand.” To which I replied, “Hell no. I waited all week to see you, and we are going on our date!”
(You’re direct, decisive and get right to the fucking point. You’re accomplishing your mission, no matter what.)
We went to a nice restaurant, had a great meal and sat there for hours having a great conversation with a few kisses here and there. We took a taxi back to her house. She not only made me a snack, but we had an awesome episode of the indoor Olympics.
I want you to know that as an expression of my gratitude, I pledge not only to never go back to being a beta male, but will spread the gospel of the 3%.
(Referrals are always appreciated, and I’m honored. The highest compliment anybody can give me is to refer their friends and family to my videos, my book and my website, so thank you.)
I have already shared this with friends and colleagues and even total strangers I see arguing with their girlfriends out on the street.
I will close by congratulating you for being my 2017 person of the year, awarded to the individual who has had the most impactful effect on my quality-of-life.
(I’m honored. Thank you dude.)
Anytime you are in the New York area you have a friend.
(Thanks for the great success story, and congratulations on all of your success.)
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