The key to successfully bantering female friends and acquaintances into bed, is to be a charming James Bond 90% of the time, and a naughty boy who flushes an M-80 down the toilet at school 10% of the time. 90% of the time you are a gentleman who is asking questions of his date because he is sincerely interested and fascinated by her. 10% of the time you are going to say slightly outrageous and humorous things using sexual innuendo and other playful teasing banter. 10% of the time you treat your date like your bratty little sister.
Women who like to play, who are sexually open and who have at least 51% romantic level of interest in you or more, will tease back just as playfully which communicates they are open to letting you seduce them; providing you don’t talk them out of it. Single women would love more than anything to have amazing chemistry with a guy who knows exactly what to do to facilitate having a good time that ultimately leads to incredible sex in the bedroom she can tell all of her girlfriends about in the morning.
So next time you are hanging out with some hot female friends or acquaintances of yours, throw out some sexual innuendo related to something they are saying and then playing it off as if their mind is in the gutter. You tease her with sexual innuendo based upon something she was doing with her food, hands or body. If she orders a hot dog, you can say to the waiter, “she likes putting big long things in her mouth.” Or as she is eating a hot dog, you can say, “Damn honey! You sure handle that Wiener like a pro! Are you trying to tell me something? Are you sexually frustrated? If you are, and you play your cards right, maybe you’ll get lucky later.”
Love is playful and fun, not serious. The perfect dates are dates where you laugh your ass off and are fascinated by the other person. Things just flow naturally and feel easy. You’ve got to be willing to get rejected and shot down; its going to happen and there is nothing you can do about it. Not every woman is going to like you romantically who you like. The following is an e-mail from a reader. He’s got a woman who he is good friends with, but she has a boyfriend. She gives him signs that she has romantic interest in him, but he does not know what to do to let her know he is open to hooking up. My comments and some good bantering suggestions are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
I hope things are moving well on your side. I have a situation of which I see to be a sign of a confused woman even though I am not a relationship expert like you.
There’s a very beautiful girl I like and I can comfortably say that my interest level in her is more than 51%. (If you’re talking to me about her, then I know you like her.) I have been feeling this about for 3 years now. However, I cannot tell of her interest level in me but maybe you can tell if I tell you what she does.
Firstly, at times, she tells me I am a man she wouldn’t hesitate to be with. (When she says that say, “Great! So what time are you coming over to get naked in my bed?”) At some point, she had to write me, “I feel so good when I am with you. I am so free at your house as if I am at my own parent’s residence.” (Say, “Let’s be naughty then! We should have sex right now, but you know what? We’ll hide it from your parents!”) However, she also tells me she feels uncomfortable to hug me for so long because she feels like she’s cheating her man. (Say, “That’s ok baby. He can keep you busy when you’re not with me. I don’t get jealous. I’m totally cool with sharing.”)
Secondly, she does my shopping almost every month. She told me never to do any shopping because she will be there to do it. (She does your shopping, but no happy finish for you? Bummer)
Thirdly, she says unusual stuff. “I miss your house so much. (Well come on over! We can chase each other naked around the house all day. Maybe a little naked twister, some wine, chocolate, whip cream, strawberries, Indoor Olympics, etc.”) I wanted to ask you to tell your houseboy that I would be there to relax, watching TV.” (“I don’t mind the naughty things you do to your body while laying naked on my couch waiting for me to come home. As long as you are naked, horny and ready to jump my bones the minute I come home and walk in the door.”) she never says that she misses me unless I say that I miss her even though it is not always the case. (Stop saying it. Besides, she has a boyfriend. Let her call and pursue you. Use sexual innuendo when you are around her in a playful way. If she feels the same why she will banter back and escalate things with you. If she ever dumps the boyfriend and has romantic interest in you, you’ll get your shot. But at this point you have become her male girlfriend. You should focus your time on meeting and dating women who are single and available. Become successful meeting, dating and sleeping with other women. That will give you SWAGGER that will cause your friend to work to catch you if you let her do all the pursuing and calling in your friendship if she decides to end things with her boyfriend. However, for now she is unavailable. That is why you need to get busy and spend your time with women who are single and ready to mingle!)
She is seeing a University finalist who is 2 years her junior and she had to tell me this about their relationship, “everything between us is OK, but I always know for a fact that he’s younger than me. The way I know him, it will take him 4 to 5 years to settle down because he’s only 21 years old… I want to settle down in 2years time.” (That is the honest state of her level of interest in her boyfriend. Maybe 70%-80% interest level in him. Not high enough to fall in love, not low enough for her to want to dump him.) In addition, she seems to suspect him of cheating even though she doesn’t have enough proof. (She obviously knows she does not fully have his heart, love and presence.)
I love this girl. (Easy bubba, slow down there. She has not done anything to earn your love.) Can you decipher what all this means? Do you think that there’s a chance to have this girl with her man around? What should I do to get her. (The best thing you can do to get her? Focus on applying what I teach in my book on other women. Become more successful with other women and you will raise your status romantically to all women. Stop calling, texting and pursuing this girl. Only respond to her texts and emails. Only invite her over when she brings up seeing you. If she does not, talk for a few minutes and then tell her you got to run, but keep in touch. She will feel that you are focusing your energy elsewhere. If she cares, she will try to get you to spend more time with her. If she does not, you won’t hear from her very much. You can get this girl as a side-effect of becoming successful with other women. Success with women breeds confidence. That will make it easier to always do the right thing with your girl “friend” and other women. Forget about the relationship stuff. That’s the woman’s department. So unless the woman brings up exclusivity labels, etc. then there’s nothing to talk about. Love is playful and fun, not serious. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn the basics of approaching, dating & understanding what women really want in a man.)
Here is the second e-mail I want to share with you. This particular reader is in college and has befriended a lovely lady he has interest in. He’s just like I was at his age. Spending time with girls he likes, but not knowing where or when to ask for a date, a kiss, etc. I know exactly how he feels. Awkward and unsure of what to do or say without screwing things up. My comments (are in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
Bro, my name is Tom. I’ve been reading your articles and I’ve learned a lot from them. I met a girl at the university. I just don’t know if she wants me as her boyfriend, or just like a friend… or friend with benefits.
I realized that she feels comfortable being with me. Because when we talk she looks me directly into the eyes, sometimes she takes my arm (Say, “Why don’t you stop torturing yourself and kiss me?” as you look into her eyes, and then at her lips, and then back into her eyes again. If she feels like kissing you, she will look at your lips when you are doing this. If she does, then go for the kiss. Then you know she likes you romantically. If she does not look at your lips, then it means she’s not ready to be kissed.) or, once, I remember, while talking she played with my hand. She gave me little gifts such as candy’s, lol. (Say, “Gifts? My favorite kinds of gifts are sweet kisses! You got any of those for me?”)
I don’t know if she has boyfriend. I haven’t asked if she has a boyfriend, but I suspect that, if she is in a relationship, she’s unhappy with the relationship. (Based upon what? How can you possibly make any judgements about her relationship if you don’t even know if she’s in one? I think you are projecting your own high level of interest onto her.)
As you know, Valentine’s Day is near. I don’t know if I should give her a gift. (What for? You’re not her boyfriend or even someone she is dating.) Or Should I give her a gift on her birthday? Her birthday is also near. (no)
I want to date her, but I just don’t know how to date her; which words to say? I’ve got her e-mail and her number. (Bury your face in my book so you can start to learn what to look for in a woman to determine if you’ve got a shot with her. Right now you are flying blind. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn the basics of approaching, dating & understanding what women really want in a man.)
That’s it, Corey. Your advices really help.
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