How to find the right balance between being cocky & charming to create attraction in women you are flirting with, and being a dick that turns women off. How to maximize your seduction efficiency with women to shorten the time it takes you to take women from the barstool to the bedroom. When you understand what women are attracted to in men, how to interact with them and what signals to look for that indicate touching, kissing, affection, etc. is appropriate, you’ll realize that women make it really easy for guys who understand attraction to seduce them.
Women help you when they like you. The following is an e-mail from a reader. He recently went out for a night on the town with some friends to blow off some steam. Since he was focused on having a good time and not focused on trying to meet women, women were coming up to him and hitting on him all night long. He got several phone numbers, had women kissing on him and had women who were being hit on all night by other men, pull him aside to ask him for his phone number. The beauty of following what I teach is that for the most part, you won’t really have to do anything to cause women to start hitting on you even though several other guys are trying to hit on them. When you act like a man who is a catch, women will be naturally drawn to you as they ignore the competition. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
I just wanted to talk about some success I had on Saturday. Well, I will tell you this, I did party like a rockstar. I went pretty wild last weekend. We were at a cast party last weekend, and I was pretty excited about it. I got maybe a bit too drunk, but whatever, once in a while won’t hurt. So this weekend all I focused on was having a good time. I put my game face on and focused on positive affirmations about myself such as: “I am an alpha male and I am a leader of men.”
I repeated all the good qualities about me because in the past I had insecurities of not being good enough, and watching other, better looking guys take the women, but this weekend I had grown so much I didn’t give a fuck. It’s the first time I didn’t have this insecurity in a long while. (Good job! Affirmations are a great way to make yourself feel better and more confident.) Why should I? I am one of the top actors in Canada that will win the 5 lbs. of gold (He wants to win an Academy Award someday.) that will be in my fucking hand. I had my chin up. I stood up straight, and one thing that I did there was notice this really hot girl and naturally didn’t look away because my chin was up and naturally dead looked into her eyes before she looked away.
(She was submissive and deferred to your dominance. That is why you never break eye contact first with a woman or she will perceive you as a beta male.) She offered me a smoke and I said no. (That was her opening line to you. Women prefer to do the chasing. If you let them, they will choose you over guys who chase them always. Why?
Chasing women is submissive behavior.) The whole night, just because of this one action, she was all over me. (It is a scientific fact that women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear. If they have high interest/attraction for you to start, they will pursue you to try to find out where they stand with you as they ignore all other men who chase them.) Now I was too drunk to do anything about it, (You should never get that drunk, it fucks your game up.) but she was kissing me on the cheek several times.
When I was talking with other chicks, she was resting on my lap. However, I will contact her in a few days to go for drinks on Friday, before I go out to Toronto to sign with an agent. Well, if she rejects me, I don’t give a shit. I don’t have that stupid feeling of attachment anymore. It’s because I got my purpose. That’s all that matters. I didn’t put all my eggs in one basket that weekend. (Women love men who have ambition. Men who are chasing after their grandest goals and dreams.)
The girl that I was really interested in, she is just really smoking hot. Now there is this one dude on set that is into her and I new he was my biggest competition, (You have no competition. 97% of the worlds men do not know what you now know about women!) but my mindset was… fuck it, you either with me or against me. (I would rephrase it this way: you are either with me… or you’re missing out on me!) I am an alpha male academy award winning actor. (“The first step before anyone else in the world believes it is that you have to believe it.” ~ Will Smith.)
Now this chick, she brought a cock blocking girlfriend with her, (Create rapport with cock-blocking dudes and girls to win them over so they help you instead of cock-blocking you. Some chicks will cock-block you with their girlfriends because they want you themselves. How do you win them over? By talking to them and asking their opinions on things, what they do for a living, etc. It makes other human beings feel important, valued and appreciated when someone sincerely takes the time to ask them about themselves.) but during the night we briefly walked to this one part of the party. SHE ASKED ME FOR MY NUMBER AND ASKED ME WHEN I WILL BE IN HER CITY NEXT.
(Women are aggressive and will chase men who are indifferent and don’t pursue them like 97% of the men they meet. You simply acted like a guy who always gets what he wants and is successful with women. Therefore, you were perceived as a catch and she wanted to make you hers. You simply focused on having fun and therefore, women approached you first. You also demonstrated body language that attracts women to you like a magnet.)
She recently moved to my hometown. Then I playfully said, “I don’t know if I will keep the number though, when I wake up and see random numbers in the phone, I usually delete them.” She then sent me a text with her name. (Another indicator of high interest. She wanted to make sure you remembered her because she was afraid of you forgetting who she was later.) I teased her a bit, joked around a bit and she laughed at my jokes. (One of the ways that women help you when they like you. They want you to succeed with them, so they laugh at your stupid jokes that you know are not funny.)
Now she didn’t do any physical touching however, but she said I remind her of John Candy, and how she loves John Candy. (Women love men with a sense of humor. That’s always in a woman’s top 5 must have qualities in a man.) At this point, I left her alone and didn’t become attached. I just had fun at the party and let the one dude sit with her all day. Needless to say, they were sitting with each other the whole fucking party, lol, and he tried to go home with her, but then I see him return 30 minutes latter. (He also probably emptied his wallet buying her drinks all night long and was clueless that she already got the phone number of the man she really wanted… you! See how easy this shit is?)
She lives far away. The timing doesn’t make sense and she went home with her girlfriend. During the meantime, a girl that I talked to, that I am not willing to pursue because I am good friends with her boyfriend, was talking to me for the rest of the night. She was talking about what a good actor she thinks I am. (Compliments are a sign of interest. Pay attention!) She was talking about fitness and shit as she was touching my arm. (When a woman starts touching you, it means touching her is ok. It’s an invitation. Then you slowly reciprocate.) Making sure I had alcohol and everything.
She is hot, but out of integrity for my friendship, and well, bros before hoes. I’m not pursuing it. (It does not matter. Why? If she really likes you, she will pursue you.) She knows I am going to Toronto, to sign with an agent. She asked me to message her when I am in town again so we can hang out. (Translation: “Please call me when you are in town so we can get together and… hopefully… you’ll create an opportunity for sex to happen between us.”)
Needless to say I had a fun night. (You did good dude.) I could have got laid that night with the one chick who was kissing me and shit, but I was too drunk and stupid that night to figure it out. (Just try to get a little better the next time you party.) However, I really discovered my power when I kept my chin up, kept positive and had a positive mindset as an Alpha Male. I know I will take this to the next level when I go out next time. What I plan to do is follow up with the first two chicks. I haven’t contacted them yet since Saturday, and don’t plan to until like Thursday, because I am fucking busy. My needs, my goals, and my dreams come first. (Successful men are always focused on their purpose in life, regardless of what their women are doing.)
The one girl is in another city that I want to see. However, I don’t want to see her till next weekend because that’s really the only time I can see her, which is July 20th weekend. Should I message her next Monday? (Reach out to her and text this on Monday: “Hey, I’m gonna be in town this coming weekend. When are you free to meet up for some drinks?” Set a definite date or withdraw the offer. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)
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