Why you should be happy for your ex when you find out that they have moved on, met someone new or gotten married, and how this can finally help you to let go the past and find someone better who is ideally suited to you.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who got the shock of his life recently. After he got dumped by his ex-girlfriend last year, he begged and pleaded for her to take him back. She obviously did not want to get back together again. He finally stopped contacting her about nine months ago. He secretly had hoped she would reach out to him again even though she basically blew him off for another guy she already had lined up who was waiting in the background.
Recently, one of his guy friends came over and said he needed to tell him something. He was thinking his friend broke up with his girlfriend or something. He was shocked to find out it was not about his friend, but his own ex-girlfriend who he had been hoping would eventually reach out to him and want him back. Instead his friend informed him that his ex-girlfriend married the guy who she left him for. He was devastated.
“Most people tend to stay in relationships that no longer serve them or offer them any more opportunity for growth way longer than they should. If your lover dumps you, they obviously have done you a great favor. Why? They simply recognized before you did that it was time for it to end. If you are truly honest with yourself, on some level you know this to be true. It’s never easy to move on from a breakup. It does not matter whether or not you were the dumper, or the dumpee. In life, relationships, careers, friendships, partnerships, circumstances, etc., dissolve when it’s time to give birth to something grander and more suited to the next chapter of your life. Your ability to recover, move on and see the gift and value in things falling apart, will determine how long it takes for someone new or better suited for you to come into your life. Before you can attract someone new, you must first be ready, willing, able and open to attracting someone new. The more resistance you offer to moving on and letting go of the past, the more you will suffer and hinder the manifestation of someone better coming into your life.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne