Be Her Rock, Her Mountain

How to handle situations where your new girlfriend is temporarily a long distance away from you or dealing with the loss of a close family member. How to keep her pursuing you and in love without becoming a cold fish and turning her off.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who was dating a woman he really liked for about a month and a half when she found out her father’s cancer had returned. During the next few weeks as he slowly passed away, she reached out to him to be her rock and her mountain to support her and open her up emotionally through this difficult time. Instead of communicating with her effectively by listening to her and supporting her, he retreated and acted like a cold fish.

After her father passed away and she returned to town, she dumped him saying the reason was because he was not there for her. He tried to use logic and reason to justify his actions to no avail. He asks what he could have done differently so he does not make the same mistake with the next woman. I discuss why you must also learn the relationship and communication skills I teach in my book instead of only focusing on pickup and dating skills, or you’ll get rejected for being a cold fish.

“A man must be his woman’s rock, her mountain when it comes to being away long distance or dealing with the death of a loved one. A man should always be his woman’s source of unbending masculine strength and safety. It is his job to open her up emotionally when she is closed down to him due to life challenges, her dark days or the pain of losing someone close. The worst thing a man can do when his woman is hurting and suffering is to run away and hide to give her space. All that will make her feel is that you don’t care about or love her. You must open her up by asking questions and encouraging her to share what she’s feeling so she can heal it and become her playful and loving self again.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne