Why you should always remain open to new possibilities, new adventures and meeting new people wherever you go in order to create the life and lifestyle you’ve always wanted, with the kind of lovers you really deserve.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who shares a recent success story. He originally had planned a trip to Bali with his ex-girlfriend in hopes that they could rekindle their romance. However, she made it clear that they would only be going as friends. She even brought her new boyfriend along with her. Things were kind of weird and awkward on the plane ride to Bali, but he chatted and flirted with other women on the flight. Once they arrived, he did not see them or spend any time with them at all. He decided to enjoy himself and open himself up to meeting new people. He met a woman from India who was traveling with some of her co-workers. They hung out, had fun and hooked up while they enjoyed their vacation. Everything was easy and effortless and the trip turned out better than he expected. They are now seeing each other long distance and she plans to visit him in Canada. She also is now getting many job offers to work in Canada. It’s another great success story of how simply opening yourself up to new possibilities after a breakup is the best way to move on and meet someone new. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email:
How’s it going? I’ve got a success story I’d like to share with you, and hopefully some guys out there can relate. First off, I owe a lot of this to your work after taking action and really implementing what you teach out there. I have gotten myself to a great place and feel so grateful and happy about myself, so thank you for that good sir. (You’re welcome. Thank you for applying it.)
I sent you an email a month ago explaining about my situation with going to Bali with my ex and how she wanted to go as friends, but my only intention was to get back together. That still stood, and I ended up going to Bali, but doing my own thing, and she went with her new-found boyfriend who, funny enough, has the same name as me. It was awkward when we were in the same plane and even talked to each other a few times, but I managed to flirt with a few girls on the flight to keep my mind off of it and ease my mind. Anyway, upon landing we parted ways, and that was the last I saw of her for the three weeks that I was there. After that Corey, I felt so happy and so free! It was the best feeling to wake up and just do whatever you want without having to check in with anyone or coordinate with someone. (You should be your own wing man. Be a free agent.) Not only that, but the amount and kind of girls I hooked up with was almost astonishing, as well as the self-discovery along the way. I would say that anyone and everyone should travel alone at least once in their life. It’s such a life altering experience altogether. I met the most amazing girl who was traveling with her coworkers from India. We were only able to hang out for four nights, but it was honestly like hanging out with myself. We had so much in common and connected on so many levels so soon. Everything felt so right, I could tell how much she was into me without even showing it, and I was definitely into her. It felt like I met my right person at the time, and it still does. (You totally changed your attitude. You were open to whatever happened, and you met a great girl.)
We’ve been talking over the phone almost every day as she is back in India, and I’m back in Canada. It’s great because, although we both are very much attracted to each other, we don’t ask for much or don’t get butt hurt when we are too busy with our schedules. She’s very understanding and not at all high maintenance. She hates texting and voicemails, as do I, so all of our communication has been through phone calls. (You should be doing Skype video dates or Facetime so you can read her body language.) We’ve been planning on taking a trip together to Southeast Asia in December, and it seems like every career opportunity she gets is in Canada. Could it mean something a lot more? (You have to look at it as a possibility.) I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason, and that what we put out in the universe has a huge effect on our lives. I’ve completely forgotten about my ex clearly, but I don’t wish any ill on her. I’ve met her new boyfriend, and he’s a wonderful guy and someone she deserves in her life. (She’s his problem now.) I am truly at peace with everything that has transpired and so happy with where things are at.
My only minor concern is with this girl from India. Clearly, there’s something developing. I mean, we hooked up while in Bali, and it was truly amazing the way we connected and gelled. I’ve never had that with anyone else before. My concern is with the whole long distance thing. I’ve never done this before, and right now I’m only living in the moment and not thinking about the future, but it’s hard not to when I’m falling for her. (Slow down dude. At some point, somebody has to travel. You have to consider how many days she has off a year.) I know it’s going to be hard, and I’ll be asking myself, do I want to keep going at this, but I also believe that there’s always a way to make things work in the end, and that I’ll find a way to do it. (You have to make sure she’s making the mutual effort as well.) Maybe I answered my own question with that, ha-ha.
Anyway, thanks for reading this, and your thoughts are more than welcome! (I would keep the possibility open, but at the end of the day she’s in India. I wouldn’t wait until December to see her. You should be dating other women. You don’t want to put your life on hold. You need to keep your options open.)
Thanks Corey for all of your hard work,
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“A great positive affirmation to use when you want to make changes in your life is to say to yourself, “Wouldn’t be nice if…” and fill in the end of that sentence with whatever positive outcome you would like to achieve. This will help your brain focus on, expand and look for people and circumstances that match your positive affirmation. This is a superior approach to telling yourself an affirmation that your brain knows is a lie such as, “I am rich!” when you are broke, or “I have a beautiful girlfriend!” when you are single, etc. These instead become, “Wouldn’t be nice if I eventually became rich?” or “Wouldn’t be nice if I met a beautiful woman who would be happy to become my girlfriend?” Your brain can agree with these statements and would focus on seeking and searching for the right people, circumstances and actions to take to make them a reality.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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