In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who totally lost sight of who he was and what was most important to focus on as a man. His girlfriend of four and a half years told him that she needed space and dumped him after putting up with his jealous, controlling, needy, desperate and weak behavior for several years. He became fearful of losing her and that he would lose her to another man. He also let himself go physically and gained a bunch of weight. He went from being a focused and successful man, to a fearful and totally unattractive beta male. Eventually his girlfriend had enough.
Since the breakup, he has focused on getting back to the man he was that she fell in love with. He’s lost fifteen pounds, is happy and focused on being his best self again. He now wants to know if pursuing her and chasing her to prove he has changed is the right course of action to win her back, because he fears he will never hear from her again. I explain why that approach is insane and a recipe for failure.
“Truth is self evident. It needs no explanation or justification. It simply is. If you truly believe you are amazing, talented, magnificent, sexy, desirable, intelligent, successful, etc., then take actions that are congruent with these beliefs. Move through the world with a purpose and with the expectation that you can and will become these things in the future, even if you are not them presently. Successful people believe in themselves, their potential and what they do not yet see. They have faith that through taking action, time, repetition and refinement of one’s approach, that they will eventually see what they have believed to be possible, become their reality. Excellence is achieved through time and repetition. Believe in your grandest dreams and goals and take consistent, relentless action to make them a reality. When you live your life this way, becoming your best self and reaching your full potential is inevitable.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne