In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who shares his success progression of how he went from a painful breakup to discovering my work, starting to date the kind of women he’s always wanted and how he is now dating a woman who totally knocks his socks off. Over the course of the past year and a half, he has relentlessly focused on becoming a better version of himself and becoming a better dater.
He says he has read my book seventeen times now. He is experiencing, for the first time in his life, what it is like to date the kind of woman all men and women can’t help but notice and take their eyes off of. He shares some of the things she says to him that continue to build his self-confidence and certainty. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email.
I hope you’re doing well. I see you live in the West Palm area; I live up in Jensen Beach. Isn’t the weather this time a year fucking perfect? Anyway, I’m writing you because I have another success story I would like you to share if you’d like. (I love great success stories. They are rewarding to me.) I’ve read the book now 17 times. I discovered your work during my last break up in my last relationship. Lets just say, I was one of the 97%, and that was about a year and half ago when I found you. (The things I teach are not a quick fix. People will do more to avoid pain than they’ll do to gain pleasure. When you’re outside of your comfort zone, you are afraid of the unknown. The only way you’re going to get better in life is if you persevere. Things fall apart so something better can come into your life, but these things take time.)
Here is my one of my many success stories. Keep in mind, since I’ve discovered your work I’ve been on several successful dates with some “pearls,” beautiful ass women, and with most have closed the dates by competing in the indoor Olympics!! (Hang out, have fun and hook up. A man’s job is to create an opportunity for sex to happen. It’s that simple. Just focus on the present moment, asking questions and enjoying the experience.) My intentions are good. Like you’ve said, the more you date, the closer you’ll come to finding someone who just “knocks your fucking socks off,” and until recently I have found someone who does!! (All of the women you dated before prepared you to meet this one that knocked your socks off. You needed to find your emotional center, have emotional self-control, be congruent with your purpose, and develop good dating skills.)
I’ve been dating this drop dead gorgeous, beautiful brunette lately, No labels. I’ll let her decide when to bring that topic up. I’m just having fun, enjoying the ride. However, this girl is the type of girl that when she goes out in public, men with their wives have to do a “double take.” (That’s so great for your confidence. It makes you feel like Superman.) It’s amazing! Since the time we’ve been dating, we’ve been having the best times, no drama, no games whatsoever, just enjoying each other’s company, having fun all the time. (Hang out, have fun and hook up. It’s a simple formula, but most people don’t get that, because they’re focused on things that get in the way of living in the moment.) It’s like were becoming best friends!! (Asking questions is the best way to build rapport with other human beings. It really makes them feel like you care about them.) Until yesterday, she told me something that just made me want to yell yippy fuckin’ kaiyyaa! She told me, “There’s just something different about you Tom. I don’t know what it is, but I love it!” (It’s a scientific fact that women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear. If she’s doing most of the talking, she has to work to get to know you.) I wanted to say “It’s because I’m James Bond baby,” so badly. The reason why is because I’ve read your book 17 times, and I watch your videos, and what you teach is truly priceless — tools I’ll use for the rest of my life, so thank you sooo much! (This is your birthright. This is the way it’s supposed to be. It’s supposed to be spectacular, and you made that happen by applying the knowledge you found in my work. You were prepared, because you read the book 17 times.)
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“The most satisfying way to get over a breakup is to focus on becoming a better version of yourself and eventually date someone who is totally superior to your ex. When you become a better quality person and a person of higher value, you naturally will attract someone who matches and mirrors your improved self. What separates successful people from unsuccessful people is simply the acquisition and application of superior knowledge. Unsuccessful people don’t persevere when life becomes hard or full of challenges. They typically look for an illusive or non-existent quick fix to get back into their comfort zone. Successful people know failure is simply an opportunity to begin again more intelligently, by learning from one’s mistakes and stretching beyond one’s comfort zone.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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