Being Direct & Decisive Turns Women On. Being Passive Turns Them Off

The importance of being direct & decisive with women to create attraction.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who’s being way too passive and beta with a girl he likes at church. He made a first date, but because he was so passive, it turned into a group date that went nowhere. Then he asked her to lunch and she made it another group date. He got her to ditch the other guy, but he keeps acting platonic and spinning his wheels.

My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “Being Direct & Decisive Turns Women On. Being Passive Turns Them Off”.

So I’ve got an email here from a guy who met a girl at church that he likes. And he’s clearly being way too passive. He says he made a first date to have dinner, but it was like right after, I guess their church function or Bible study or whatever it was. And so the girl he was supposed to take out on a date was there, and a bunch of other people from the church were there. I don’t know, maybe the restaurant’s like right across the street or whatever.

He didn’t do a good job of logistics, and he’s not really following what I teach in the book. He’s acting too beta, he’s too soft, and he’s not being really direct and decisive. So his first date, everybody just kind of follows him and the girl over to the restaurant, and they all sit down together. So it ends up being a group date. So meanwhile, a few days later, a week later, he makes another date with her for lunch because again, he’s too passive, he’s too soft. He’s not being direct.

He’s not being decisive. He’s not following what the book teaches. He’s just being too much of a nice guy, kind of acting like a platonic friend, kind of hiding his interest. And so the girl invites some other dude who turns out the other dude is kind of hitting on her and is interested in her, obviously, which he noticed. And so he gets her to basically tell the other guy that he’s no longer invited, but he still is kind of sheepishly hiding his interest and she kind of is getting it.

She’s like, so you just want to get to know me better or, oh, we’ll just work better together or communicate better in the church. And he’s just not saying what, he’s not being clear in his intent. He’s being vague. And when you act beta like this, I mean, girls know if you’re interested, but when you’re too sheepish and too shy and too beta to be direct and decisive. And you do lunch dates and you end up, you don’t do very good logistical planning the way the book suggests you end up where this guy.

So he basically he did end up going to lunch with her. He said it was really great, but he didn’t make a move or do anything. And again, women know you like them, but if you’re too soft to make a move, they’re gonna slide you over into friend zone to Harry Honda zone, and you’re not going to get anywhere. So it’s just a good email that just shows that despite the fact he’s been reading the book, I assume, and follow my work, he’s just not courageous and brave enough to actually implement it.

So he tends to hide his intention. He tends to basically, in essence, lie to the girl when she presses him on, like, what’s he doing? What’s he interested in? And so if you give a woman the impression that you just want to be pals or friends, she’s maybe just going to think you’re gay or something. Or if you’re either gay or you don’t have the balls to go for what you want. And women, the number one strength characteristic they love in men is confidence.

And if you don’t have the confidence to be direct and decisive and be honest that you’re inviting her on a date when she asks you and you kind of make it sound like you’re just cool with being buddies and pals, especially again, you go to lunch instead of an evening date for dinner. Then she’s just gonna only think of you as a friend, and you’re going to friend zone yourself, when you probably had a chance to date and seduce her.

But it is a good email to learn what not to do and why the book is laid out the way it is. You don’t do lunch dates. And this is exactly case in point why you don’t do lunch dates. Because it communicates a platonic vibe. And if you’re not confident enough to be direct and decisive and ask a girl out, and if she asks you, if it’s a date. “Oh, Well, that’s what I get to know. I like her, I like hanging out.” It’s like, of course it’s a date.

Just be direct, be honest. Speak from the heart without fear. If you hesitate, you will masturbate. I say it all the time. So now this guy’s got blue balls. And on top of that, the other guy is being a little more confident and he’ll probably end up seducing her and not the dude that wrote the email, because he’s just being too fucking passive. And again, doesn’t take much.

You interact with a girl enough like this, then you’re just going to get stuck in friend zone. It’s going to get really hard to get out of it. And then you’ve got to go to church all the time and see the girl, and she’s with the other guy because he was brave and courageous. And you were weak, beta and cowardly. Women don’t like cowards.

Viewer Email:

Dear Corey,

I wrote to you last year for advice to turn my relationship with my girlfriend around, and you gave me some brutally honest and tough criticism.

Well, I’m not here to blow sunshine up your ass. I’m gonna tell you like it is. Sometimes it’s gonna be tough love. Sometimes I’m gonna have to torture your ass. If you’re acting really disgustingly weak, I’m gonna tell you. Because it’s not a message just for you. It’s for everybody else that’s watching it, that’s thinking or is doing the same thing. Because when I use shocking language, it’s what’s called a pattern interrupt.

And so when I interrupt your pattern, it helps to rewire your brain to do things that are more brave and courageous and masculine. Instead of being beta, I associate negative things with acting beta and positive things with acting alpha. Because when you take into account what’s in the culture and TV and movies, everything is very beta. Be soft, act like a girl. Speak about your feelings, hide your intentions, be your buddy or pal and she’ll really like you for it. A bunch of nonsense.

Since then, I have been really motivated to improve my life. I ended up breaking up with that girlfriend because I decided I would rather find a different girl than continue a relationship I no longer wanted to be in.

Well, the whole point is, woman of your dreams. Not settle for some mediocre girl you’re not really into.

I am living abroad and in my mid-20s, was recently accepted into graduate school on a full scholarship, belong to multiple organizations related to my hobbies, lift weights three times per week, am a leader in my church’s youth group, and, importantly, I have read How to Be a 3% Man more than 20 times.

Well, it’s great that you read it 20 times. When you constantly do the opposite of it, you should not be surprised that you’re sending me another email that, quite frankly, it makes you look weak and pathetic the way you’re behaving. So probably some of the same behavior that I was torching your ass a year ago about you’re still doing.

Just because you go to church doesn’t mean you’re supposed to be a fucking nice guy. You could be a gentleman in the streets, but you’ve got to be a fucking Chad Thunder Cock in the sheets dude. I mean, because at the end of the day, you like this girl and you want to fuck her. You’re not like, “oh, let’s do some cookie recipes. Let’s exchange some yoga routines.”

I’ve since dated a few girls after breaking up with my ex-girlfriend, and I feel that I’ve been improving my skills each time thanks to your advice. Thank you for the help and motivation.

Well, that’s what I’m here for. Even when I’m harsh. There’s a method to my madness. Sometimes I see people in the comments. They get butt hurt. You’re being mean. You shouldn’t talk to them like that. It’s like they don’t understand what I’m doing. And I’m not gonna explain it to some fucking beta that wants to question it, because they got their feelings and their panties all in a wad. I don’t care. I’m not the “oh, it’s gonna be okay. Just be yourself.” I don’t give bullshit advice like that.

It’s completely useless. I tell you what works. And if you got the balls to apply it, you’ll be like all those thousands and thousands of other dudes that post all the great reviews in my book over the years, because they get the results and also in the YouTube comments. I’m constantly reading success stories. If you apply it, it’s going to work for you. If you read the book 20 times, then you do the opposite of it. You’re going to be like this guy.

However, my current situation confuses me and I’d like some help.

Well, again, the only reason you’re confused is you’re not following the book. You don’t get a participation trophy because you read the book 20 times. You get your trophy and your gold medal in the Indoor Olympics because you actually applied it. Knowledge is only potential power. It only becomes power when you apply it.

I met a girl last year at a church event and I instantly felt drawn to her. I quickly got her Instagram.

Why would you get her fucking Instagram? Get her phone number. That again tells me that you’re two beta and too cowardly to be direct and decisive when you act. When you want a girl’s Instagram, you’re like, “oh, can I be one of your fans?” It’s like, come on, dude, you got to be a man. You’re old enough that you shouldn’t be acting like a fucking teenager.

I quickly got her Instagram and exchanged a few DMs with her before letting things settle because I had just broken up and wasn’t totally convinced I wanted to pursue her. Time passed and I routinely saw her at my church events, and I felt we were getting closer.

Again, when you just keep hanging out as a friend, you get your information and you behave the way you’re behaving. She thinks you’re either gay or you’ve got no courage. And women like confidence. They don’t like betas. They don’t feel safe with a beta. A beta can’t fucking lead them. You’re supposed to be stronger and have more masculinity than the woman. And quite frankly, you’re acting like a little girl.

A few months ago I sent her a text asking if she wanted to get dinner, and she reciprocated and even made the reservation after saying yes to my invitation. However, on the day of the dinner, we were both volunteering at a church event and when it was time to leave.

So one thing I want to say before I finish this the sentence is that if you’re going to go on a date. I mean, if you’ve been doing a church event and maybe you’re outside, you’re getting a little sweaty. I mean, think about it. Common fucking sense. You go out on a date, you want to be clean shaven. You want to brush your fucking teeth, you want to brush your tongue. You want to clean your butt. You want to clean your balls. You want to take a shower.

You want to smell good. You want to look good. You want to have clean clothes. You don’t be working and doing all this stuff, and then go out on a first date and then go to kiss a girl and you have fucking dragon breath, because she’s not going to want to date you again if you’ve got fucking dragon breath and you’re not taking care of yourself. So right off the bat, that’s kind of fucking stupid.

So you should be making a date, not figuring, oh, we’re going to do this church thing for a few hours and then go on a date, because again, you’re gonna have stinky dragon breath. It’s like, what are you fucking thinking? I mean, you act and you think like an amateur. I know I’m being harsh, but quite frankly, you deserve it.

Several of our friends started following us to the restaurant.

Well, again, it’s like, that’s not very James Bond like. So it almost sounds like you walked across the street. How could they follow you to the restaurant? Did you tell them where you were going? Like that doesn’t make a lot of sense.

We hadn’t invited them, but I didn’t do enough to make sure we actually left alone.

I can think about how that’s going to look. If you have a date with the girl, and then you got a group of people, you’re trying to be discreet. You don’t want the whole fucking church knowing that you’re going on a date with the girl. It’s like, dude, have some common sense. There’s zero operational security on your part. It’s like you’re not even thinking. So, I mean, this is like, really this is awful. This is terrible. I can’t believe you read the book 20 times. And you thought this was a good idea.

We hadn’t invited them, but I didn’t do enough to make sure we actually left alone. So what was supposed to be one-on-one ended up becoming a group outing.

Well, that’s a you problem. Because what should have happened is you should have had a date set up when you’re not doing shit at church and you can bathe properly and brush your teeth. So when you go over and see her and you hug her, you smell good and you’ve got nice clean breath. You go out on your date, you go to three places like the book says, instead of just going to dinner.

If you’re not sure, maybe you went to dinner because you knew this girl a little bit better than somebody, maybe ran randomly met on a dating app, or barely met on the street for five minutes. That’s understandable. But when you know this girl, you should be getting her number and going to pick her up at her house. But again, you’re probably too beta and too cowardly to do that. And so you kind of act like, “oh, I’m just kind of like a friend.”

I realize now that I probably should have handled that situation more assertively.

Yeah, definitely dude. That’s just terrible. So I assume you made a date for a restaurant that’s like right across the street so you could walk there, which again, is dumb. If you’ve been hanging out of the church and you’re doing church things. I mean, just think about what’s your breath smell like? You think it’s gonna be nice? It’s like, come on, man. Not only do you want to brush your teeth, but you want a water pick as well because food gets stuck in your gum and stuff like that. And after it sits there for a few hours. It starts to rot and stink. So have some common sense, dude, you’ve got to have good hygiene.

Afterward, she and I talked on the train together and said we should go out to dinner again following the original plan. However, before we could do that, I became exclusive with another girl and it didn’t happen.

It’s like what?

I’ve since broken up with that girlfriend, and I decided to reach back out to this girl. She accepted my invitation, found the restaurant for us to go to, and everything seemed positive.

So again, it just sounds like you’re just turning things over to her and let her lead. You’re supposed to be the one driving the fun bus and inviting her. “Hey, we should get together for dinner. All right. I’d love to take you to dinner sometime and catch up.”

This time, I decided to meet her for lunch.

Why? Why? If you’re interested in sex and romance, why are you planning a lunch date? Come on, man. It’s right out of the book. This what you’re constantly communicating is you have no courage. You’re not confident. And now you’re going to lunch and you’re acting like the gay male girlfriend. And remember, you wrote in, you said, “I’m confused about this situation.” It’s like if you followed the book, you wouldn’t be confused. But you’re giving this girl mixed signals and communicating that you’ve got no balls and you’ve got no confidence.

I understand that lunch isn’t ideal, but we were both volunteering at the same event afterward.

Again same issue. So you go to lunch and then you’re going to go to a church thing. It’s like, how is that a date? The purpose of a date is to create an opportunity for sex. I get you’re in the church and everything, but you don’t want to be her buddy or her pal. You want to fuck. That’s the bottom line. Whether you fuck on the wedding night or you fuck after a few weeks, it’s like, give me a break, dude.

It was the only time I was free in my schedule, and I wanted to avoid another situation where our friends might inadvertently end up joining us.

Maybe he doesn’t drive and maybe he doesn’t have a car. You can take an Uber. It’s like, figure it out, dude. You’re a fucking adult. Now it’s time to grow the fuck up and stop acting like a little baby and a teenager. Again, I know I’m being harsh, but it’s like, this is just pathetic.

I didn’t text her between making the plans and the date, except when she reached out to me once or twice. We exchanged a few messages and I naturally ended the conversations.

“Hey, I’m looking forward to seeing you. Hey, I gotta run. I look forward to seeing you.” But again, you shouldn’t be making a lunch date and then have, because there’s no seduction. Nothing’s going to happen. You go to lunch and what do you think’s gonna happen? You’re gonna hug each other, then go go to the church event. It’s like, come on, man, you’re acting like a friend. You’re acting like a Harry Honda.

You’re acting like a guy that has no confidence. And this is how you friend zone yourself. You’re doing it to yourself. Because probably what’s going on is, he likes this girl, but he’s going out and settling for other girls he’s not that into. And he probably does more things right than wrong with them. But this girl he likes, he just acts like a total beta.

The day before the date, she came up to me at another church event. She told me she was looking forward to our lunch and then told me that our mutual friend, another guy, would be joining us. Before I could properly respond, she was called away to help with something at the event.

I would have just said, “no, this is you and me. You’re gonna have to cancel on that guy. I invited you and me to get together.” But again, fucking lunch, it’s like, come on, dude, what are you thinking?

We don’t speak English together, so I was also processing what she had said more slowly than I would have in English.

Oh that’s right. He’s like in a different country. So I assume they speak Spanish or something like that there. So he’s not from there and he has a hard time communicating.

I texted her later that night and she confirmed that she had invited the other guy. I told her that I wasn’t interested in going if it was going to be a three-person outing and said I’d see her at the volunteer event instead.

“Hey, I’d like to be your gay male girlfriend instead.” That’s what you’re telling her, dude.

She seemed genuinely surprised and repeatedly tried to convince me to still go with the three of us.

Well, at this point, it kind of looks like she’s already slid you into friend zone, and she’s inviting a third person because she can tell you like her, but your game sucks and she can tell you don’t know what you’re doing. You’re acting kind of weird and creepy, to be honest with you. Because she can tell you like her, but the way you go about things is like you act like a total fucking beta male. That doesn’t make women feel safe. When you act like you’re like a dudes trying to fly under the radar.

She also asked whether I had hoped it would just be the two of us. I told her that I had thought it was going to be a two-person outing. She asked again about making it a three-person outing, but I again told her I wasn’t interested. She then canceled the invitation to the other guy and said that since she had originally made the plan with me, it should just be the two of us.

See, this is part of like testing your strength as well. Because she’s already kind of decided you’re a beta and a bitch. And that’s why she wants to bring this other guy. Because as you’ll see, it looks like the other guy’s interested, and she’s open to something happening with the other guy. That’s why she invited him. So you may have already just kind of screwed the pooch on this one.

At that point, I was honestly pretty disappointed and considered canceling the lunch. However, I ultimately decided to still go. On the day of the date, she texted me that she was going to be late. I suggested that we could do it another time when she wasn’t so busy, and she responded that she would rush to make it on time.

So he did the takeaway and she’s like, no, no, I really want to go. So that’s a good sign.

When we actually met, I had a great time.

What about her? Did she have a good time?

It was one of the most fun first dates I’ve had in the past year. There was a lot of mutual teasing, she talked for probably 80% of the time, and the conversation felt very natural. However, I realize I may have been too passive during the date.

You think.

I did not make a physical move or attempt to kiss her.

Again, this is why you don’t do fucking lunch dates before you go to a church event. As the book says, you go to three places. Most women sleep with a guy by the second or third date. So you go maybe to a wine bar first, then maybe dinner if that goes well. And after dinner, some kind of physical activity miniature golf, bowling, throwing, darts, shooting pool, playing video games like a Dave and Busters or maybe a Top Golf or something like that. Something that facilitates physical interaction as the third event. Again, you read the book 20 fucking times, and the way you behave is like a total fucking amateur. Like this is the first date you’ve ever been in, been on in your life. It’s like, come on, man, this is pretty pathetic.

I did not make a physical move or attempt to kiss her. We are both very religious, so I wasn’t sure what would have been appropriate in that context, especially given how ambiguous the situation already was.

Well, girls like sex just as much as you. And I assume you’re probably not a virgin. You were fucking your other girlfriends in the past. And so you’re like, “oh, I met her at church. I’m gonna keep my hands to myself.” It’s like, come on, man.

At the same time, I know you often say that attraction tends to cut through everything, so I’m wondering whether I was simply being too cautious.

You were just acting like a total fucking beta male dude. You weren’t acting like a man at all. I mean, making lunch dates, and then you got a church function right after. It’s like, what are you thinking?

Or whether her lack of clear romantic interest (she invited another guy before I even had a chance to make a move) made a physical move inappropriate.

Well again, the whole purpose of a date is to create an opportunity for sex to happen. And as the book says, if you’re not sure, you go for the kiss because if you get the cheek, then you know she’s not interested. And then it doesn’t matter after that. But again, you’re just acting. You’re acting beta. Women like courageous guys. She’ll respect you more if you go for the date and she gives you the cheek, if you just sit there and act like your gay male girlfriend all the time.

I also never explicitly said, “I thought this was a date.”

Again, this is why you don’t do lunch plans. This is why you don’t do group dates. This is why you don’t walk across the street to a restaurant and have half the church follow you over there. It’s like, come on, dude. What the fuck are you thinking?

I had assumed that asking her to lunch one-on-one and making plans with her would communicate my intentions.

This is completely the opposite of what the book teaches.

Especially because every other woman I’ve asked to go to lunch or dinner with has understood it as a date. But I now realize that I may have been making assumptions.

You’ve just got no game at all. You may have read the book 20 times, but you act like a guy that’s never read it.

At one point she again asked why I wanted it to be just the two of us.

That tells you she doesn’t like. What the fuck do you want? This is what happens. You acting like a beta.

I smiled and said, “I wanted to get to know you better, just the two of us.”

I wouldn’t be like, well, I want to take you out on a date. Obviously, we had a dinner date set up and then it ended up turning into a whole group date. And then I got serious with another girl instead. And but I decided I didn’t like her that much. And now here I am with you. We weren’t compatible or whatever happened to be. But listen to the response. I wanted to get to know you better. Just the two of us.

She responded with something vague like, “Oh, so we could understand each other more clearly.”

Again, women, this is what they do. If you’re being vague and unclear in your intent, instead of direct and decisive, she’s going to give it right back to you.

I didn’t push the subject any further and continued with the date.

Bro. Come on. It’s like she’s not psychic, but this is part of her testing your strength. She’s probably sitting there going, this guy doesn’t even have the balls to tell me that this is a date. What a pussy. He can be my friend. He can be my Harry Honda. And then she’ll go fuck the other guy.

After lunch, we went to volunteer together.

Again that whole thing. That’s how a gay man was going to act when he wants to have a new girlfriend, a female girlfriend, he wants to be the gay male girlfriend. And again, she’s giving you the opportunity to just be direct and decisive. She’s like, what’s a fucking date? I think you’re cute. And I wanted to hang out. Just you and I. So I can get to know you a little better without all the rest of the church members around us knowing what we’re doing or, you know, listening to our conversation. But at this point, you’re just pretty much screwed the pooch.

The same guy she had originally tried to invite was there, and they were extremely close for essentially the entire evening.

Well, maybe she’s kind of seeing him because you hesitated and you’re going to probably masturbate.

They were together and talking for almost the entire volunteer event. He was clearly pursuing her (literally following her around), and she reciprocated that attention and closeness throughout the evening.

Again, that might be why she might be kind of seeing him, but she was open to potentially seeing you if you just had the balls to be honest with her and tell her it was a date, instead of going, I just would like to get to know you. And she’s like, oh, so we can communicate better. I didn’t push it. Come on man. Oh, this is like stomach churning to read this.

But in all fairness, I did stupid shit like this when I was like a teenager and early 20s. So I’ve been there, done that, got the t shirt. But again, you read the book 20 times and you’re like, oh, I’m confused, coach. Are you sure you read it 20 times? Were you high the whole time you were reading it? Were you reading? Did you put on the audiobook and go to sleep thinking you would absorb it that way?

It wasn’t simply that they talked a lot—he was essentially glued to her, and she was equally engaged with him for most of the night.

Well, again, it looks like that dude slid in there before you did. And she probably mentioned to him that she’s the one that invited him to go, probably because she wanted to see what happens when she gets two dudes there that both like her. But luckily at least stood up for yourself to get her to cancel with the other guy.

I was honestly very bothered by this, although I tried not to show it. I focused on the volunteer work and talked with everyone else, including other women. I didn’t approach her or try to compete for her attention. She came over to me several times and tried to joke around with me, and I kept those interactions light and fun before returning to what I was doing.

So you basically acted like a statue.

Eventually I left without saying goodbye to her because she was occupied with the other guy.

Yeah, it looks like you missed out, dude. If you hesitate, you will masturbate. I say it all the time, but you’re not listening.

I haven’t texted her since, and it has now been about a week. I really like this girl and genuinely admire her, but I don’t want to fool myself about the situation. At the same time, I don’t want to assume that her behavior means she isn’t interested when I may have made mistakes myself.

It’s like, dude, your game is like nonexistent. You look like a total fucking amateur.

So I’m trying to understand where I went wrong.

Dude, you’ve read the book 20 times and you’re confused as to where you went wrong. Maybe you were sleepwalking when you were reading the book. I had a roommate in college that would just sleep walk, walk around, have conversations, get up and walk around outside and never remember any of it the next day. So who knows? Maybe that’s possible.

Did she genuinely view our lunch as platonic from the beginning, or did she understand that I was interested and simply not reciprocate?

Well, she gave you the opportunity to come clean and be honest. But you were too much of a puss.

Was I too passive by never making a physical move, or was a physical move simply inappropriate given that we are both very religious and the ambiguous nature of the situation?

Again, you’re driving the fun bus, dude. You penetrate a woman with your strength. You can’t fuck a woman with a floppy cock. And you’re acting like a big floppy cock. So this doesn’t work, dude. This is how you get friend zoned and blue ball and cause all the other women and the church to think you’re gay, or you’d be a nice friend or a hairy Honda, but you wouldn’t come anywhere near their pussies.

I realize those are two very different possibilities, and I’m not sure which one I’m dealing with.

Well, that’s a you problem because you’re not following the book and you’re not acting like a man with her.

Was I wrong to assume that asking her to lunch one-on-one communicated romantic interest?

What is the book fucking say, dude I read it 20 times. Come on man.

When she asked why I wanted it to be just the two of us, should I have been more direct?

Yeah.

More importantly, what should I do now?

I’d wait about two weeks and then text her and invite her to do something in the evening. And a real proper date, have three places to go. But it may be too late. She may be with the other guy already by that point. But if you’re going to go out and act like the gay male girlfriend, it’s probably better to to move on to somebody else because you may get rejected. She may tell you that she’s seeing somebody and she can’t. And if that happens, just say, “hey, well, no problem. If it doesn’t work out, let me know. I’ll see you around at church.”

Should I contact her again and make my intentions more explicit, or should I leave the ball in her court and see whether she reaches out?

Well again, I would wait two full weeks and then I would call her or text her and invite her out, get her address, go pick her up and do what the book says. And if she balks at you picking her up, then more than likely you’ve already friend zone yourself and you’re not going to get anywhere. Probably best to move on to a new girl.

I would really appreciate your honest assessment, including anything you think I handled poorly. I want to understand what I should have done differently.

Well, you should have actually followed the book.

And what I should do from here.

Thanks again!

Bob

Again, just like I said, I’d wait two full weeks. I’d text her to try to set another date, but it’s got to be in the evening. And if she says, “is this a date? Or you just want to be friends or get to know each other?” It’s like, “no, I like you. I think you’re cute. I enjoy hanging out with you. And yeah, of course it’s a date.” So I’m gonna come pick you up, be a gentleman, open a car door, all those good things. But like I said, she may shoot you down because you’re just too much beta behavior.

Again, if she liked you in the beginning, what actually works to your advantage was that you went out with her once and that well, but it was a group date, and then you’ve got serious with somebody else and it never went anywhere. And then probably when you got around to asking her out again, she was kind of seeing this other guy. And that’s probably why she wanted to bring him. But it hadn’t really progressed that much either. So she was basically like, which guy has more balls? Who’s more masculine? You or the other guy?

And clearly the other guy is acting more masculine. So again, I’m just surprised you tell me that you read the book 20 times and you’re asking me these basic questions like you’re just shocked and surprised. But that’s why I do these emails, because you’re bullshitting yourself and you’re being a little delusional, and you’re living in like an alternate reality because you’re like, terrified that she finds out that you like her. So again, you got to have better operational security. I would not be making plans with her just because you’re going to be near the church that day.

Again, you want to brush your teeth, you have proper hygiene, water pick, the whole nine yards, brush your tongue, have some nice Cologne. Make sure you’re clean shaven, and wear some clean clothes. So if things get hot and heavy, you smell good and you don’t just smell like a sweaty ass pig with fucking dragon breath. It’s like, have some common sense, dude. So I hope you enjoyed this roasting. It was all in good intentions, but you need it dude.

I hope you never fucking do this shit again with another woman because it’s disgusting. It’s repulsive and it’s unbecoming of a man. Especially guys read the book fucking 20 times. I just find it hard to believe that you actually read it 20 times. That’s why I’m thinking maybe you put the audiobook on while you were sleeping and you were hoping to absorb it that way, and it clearly ain’t working for you.

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