What you should do if you are hanging out with your ex without romance while she dates and hooks up with other men. How to get out of being her backup and back into being her lover.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss two emails from two different viewers who both got friend zoned and have been allowing themselves to be treated as a backup plan.
In the first email I discuss the guy has been hanging out with his ex-girlfriend as a friend in hopes that it would lead to them getting back together. But all she really seems to do is talk about the men she is dating and hooking up with and talking about how he is the perfect man for her in the future. The second email is from a guy who finally woke up and said “fuck this!” and walked away.
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“When you hangout with an ex lover as a friend with no benefits when you want something more without standing up for yourself, you are enabling their behavior of using you as backup. It is demeaning and harmful to yourself and your self esteem to agree to go along with something that is not aligned with your hearts desire. Never agree to be someone’s backup while they explore other romantic possibilities. You’ll only frustrate, torture yourself and get blown off anyways once they find a suitable replacement. Have some self-love and self-respect and walk away from people who would use you as backup instead of loving you as a priority.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne