Some things to consider when you get involved romantically with someone who just broke up with their significant other so you give yourself the best possible chance that they stick around, instead of blowing you off to go back to their ex.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who got involved in a week long rebound relationship with a woman who had broken up with her long term boyfriend only a week before they met. They had sex on their first date and were together almost every day. She did almost all of the pursuing. It looked like the beginning of a beautiful love story. Her ex boyfriend had cheated on her which had led to their breakup.
The viewer did everything right on their first date and right up until she brought up the fact that her ex boyfriend had called telling her that he missed her. Due to his own irrational fears, he literally dumped himself and pushed her right back into the arms of her ex.
“If you get involved with someone romantically who is on the rebound, the most important thing you must do is to make sure you maintain their sense of freedom. In most cases their feelings and emotions will be raw and they will be hot for you one minute, and then indecisive about you the next. They will have a stronger emotional bond with their ex because of the time they have spent together. If you try to force them to choose, they almost always will choose their ex over you. But if you have a take it or leave it kind of attitude and are simply grateful for your time together, you will give yourself the best possible chance that they eventually choose you. The only thing you can do is to be their best option, have fun and let them go back to their ex if they want, but leave the door open for them to return if things don’t work out with their ex. If it did not work the first time around with their ex, it most likely will not work the second time around.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne