What the causes are and how to prevent performance anxiety. Why learning to relax and practice infinite patience when it comes to making love will help you overcome performance anxiety and ensure your member will give her something to remember.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who botched his first attempt at having sex with a woman he had been dating for about a month. It’s a great email to analyze because he goes into extensive detail into what he was thinking, saying and doing that lead to his inability to get a boner to have sex.
His email gives clues as to his model of the world, his fears, limiting beliefs and unresourceful thinking that impacted his performance… or shall I say lack thereof.
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“When men are in a fearful state, worry about or become fearful that they won’t be able to perform sexually when it appears that hanging out and having fun are leading to sexual intimacy, they actually prevent themselves from relaxing and prevent blood from flowing to their member so they can give their women an experience to remember. If you find yourself feeling fearful about performing sexually once both of you are naked together, give her an all over body massage with oil for about 45 minutes and let her give you one before you slowly escalate to the actual act of bumping uglies. By taking your time, relaxing, focusing on your internal breathing, becoming comfortable just being naked together and exploring/caressing each others bodies, your fear will slowly dissipate and the sense of urgency will evaporate. A natural erection comes from relaxing, enjoying the sensations of your lovers body on yours, stimulation of the Generals head and letting sex and your orgasm happen instead of trying to force it to happen.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne