Characteristics Of The Self Reliant Alpha Male

Characteristics of the self reliant alpha male who is balanced & desired by women.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email update from a viewer whose previous email I answered in my Video Newsletter, Women Who Like You Make It Easy To See Them. Women Who Don’t Are Evasive. He shares some wisdom he saw in an Instagram post that aligns with what it means to be a 3% Man. It’s worth your time. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Members Only Newsletter is, “Characteristics Of The Self Reliant Alpha Male”.

So I had a viewer send this in. He saw this post on Instagram, the account that had it, I guess it was a video. It was called @Readthisdeeply. And he basically thought it was really lined up great with what’s in my book. And I read through it. I was like, I don’t know, like I said, I don’t know if it’s a video or it was something that was written, but, um, it’s really good. I thought it was a good Members Only post for a Friday.

So it just helps remind us of what’s important, some principles and some values that are very similar to what I teach. Maybe this guy has actually read my work. Wouldn’t surprise me, because so many people that do this kind of stuff for a living have.

So let’s go through his email.

Viewer Email:

Coach,

Hope all is well. You answered one of my emails a few weeks ago. I recently came across a post on Instagram, the account was called @readthisdeeply, and I immediately thought to myself, “this is what the book is saying.” Even though there are a lot of “rules” to follow in the book.

Well, it’s principles and guidelines and this is why I say you’ve got to read it 10 to 15 times, because you want to get all the information in your head, the flow of the story, the flow of the book. Because it takes you from Pickup Skills, transitioning then into Dating and Casual Dating Skills, and then from Casual Dating into a Relationship and then maintaining it Long Term (Relationship). And so you’ve got to understand the flow back and forth, because you all throughout the relationship, you’re going to need to have Pickup knowledge, Dating knowledge and Relationship knowledge.

Because you always got to date and court your girlfriend or your wife. And it’s not like you can do a bunch of stuff in the beginning, because one of the biggest complaints women have is guys are romantic at first, until they win them over and then they just get lazy and complacent and sit in the couch and drink beer and get fat, basically. And that’s just not a good way to go.

It was only after reading this that I finally saw the big picture, not just what the rules and principles are, but what the mindset truly is. You speak about it all the time in your videos, but I think this is an excellent read for anyone who is still on multiple reads of the book and needs to see it for more than just a series of dos and don’ts. I don’t know if you can do a video about it because it’s quoted from an Instagram account, but I think it could be helpful for those following your work.

Anyway, this is what the post said.

“You owe zero women a better life. Zero. Read that again.”

You owe zero women a better life. Zero.

“You weren’t born to be a female retirement plan. You weren’t sent here to fix her past. You’re not her therapist, savior, or father figure. You’re a man. Not a resource to drain.”

Character is destiny. You gotta evaluate the women you’re going to get involved with. And all too often in society, we see guys that just get carried away in their emotions and think life is some kind of Disney movie, and they make decisions based upon their emotions, and they lose all ability to be objective and evaluate the person’s character until it’s too late.

“Most men destroy themselves because they think being useful makes them valuable. It doesn’t. It makes you replaceable. The second she senses you’re desperate to “prove your worth,” she’ll test you, drain you, and discard you.”

That’s if you don’t turn things around. Women don’t like chinks in your armor. When they find it, they’re going to exploit it. And if you don’t get your shit together, eventually they will dip.

“Women don’t respect effort. They respect results. You don’t owe her your money. You don’t owe her your time. You don’t owe her an emotional safety net. You owe yourself discipline, direction, and purpose. Because once a man gives up his mission for a woman, he loses both – the mission and the woman.”

That is so true. “A man does what he must despite the consequences”, as John F. Kennedy said.

“Here’s the truth they’ll never say out loud: Most women want a finished product, not a man in progress.”

Well, they don’t want to teach you how to be a man. They want you to know what to do. You’re supposed to be competent and confident.

“They’ll cheer for you once you’ve won, not while you’re fighting.”

Well, that’s not necessarily true. The right woman will. You can grow a life together. That’s kind of a Red Pill Platitude. They also say, “Women only want to wait for you at the finish line.” The right woman will stick it out with you even when things are tough. As long as you’re in your masculine, as long as you have a goal and a mission and you’re excited about it, and you have positive expectation that you can make it happen. The right woman will be your biggest cheerleader and fan. The wrong woman will do everything she can to torpedo your success and sandbag it.

“You’re out here building her dream life while she’s secretly dreaming of another man’s frame.

They’ll say, “real men provide.” No. Real men build. And provision is a byproduct of building. If you build for yourself, you rise. If you build for her, you serve.

One creates kings. The other creates slaves. You don’t owe women comfort. You owe them clarity.

She should know: “Follow me and life gets structured. Disrespect me and you’re gone.”

That’s the quickest way for a guy to lose interest and lose his boner is to be disrespectful. Condescending and disrespectful to him directly, especially in front of other people. You need a woman that builds you up and is your biggest cheerleader and fan, and is your ally, not somebody that berates you and belittles you in front of other people and behind your back. You want a woman that builds you up even when you’re not around and sings your praises if somebody talks shit about you.

“That’s all. That’s masculine equilibrium, order, not obligation. You think chivalry means endless sacrifice? No. Chivalry meant protection of the loyal.”

And she’s got to earn your attention. And she’s got to earn your protection. She’s got to show that she’s a loyal teammate, not a backstabbing Judas goat.

“Not feeding the ungrateful.”

You don’t keep contributing to somebody that doesn’t contribute back and doesn’t appreciate your effort.

“Stop confusing masculine strength with servitude. Your kindness without boundaries becomes her leverage. When a man finally learns this law, everything changes. You stop explaining yourself. You stop negotiating your value. You stop bleeding energy for women who’d never bleed for you. You start acting like your time is sacred, because it is. Every man eventually learns: You can give a woman the world, and she’ll still leave if she doesn’t respect you.”

That is so true. If a woman doesn’t respect you, they can’t love you. If they don’t love you, they’re not going to stick around. Because what women care most about is how they feel about you.

“But the one who truly respects you? You won’t need to give her anything, she’ll build with you. You owe zero women a better life. You owe yourself one. And when you build it, the right woman will beg to join your empire, not demand it.”

Or feel entitled for that matter.

“That’s the difference between kings and court jesters. Cut entitlement. Lead yourself. Attract, don’t convince. She’s not your purpose. You are. Everything else aligns after that.”

Thanks again, for everything you do.

Well, thanks for sharing that post. I hope you guys enjoyed it.

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