Cheating, Forgiveness & Moving On

Mar 25, 2012 by Coach Corey Wayne

How to get your girlfriend to forgive you and move on after you cheated on her so she can start trusting you again. It’s never a good idea when you are in a relationship with a woman to cheat on her with other women because you think you can get away with it. It destroys trust and intimacy, as well as causing her to question and doubt your masculine core. So if you’ve been stupid enough to cheat and lose her trust, you must start over. You must start dating and courting her just like you did when you first started dating her. The biggest mistake most men make in long term relationships, is that after they think they own her heart, they think the courtship is over. They become lazy and complacent. They stop doing the things that caused her to fall in love with them in the first place. If you stop dating and courting your girl, she will think that you no longer love her, or that you may be cheating on her with someone else. The following is an e-mail from a reader who has totally taken his girlfriend for granted. He’s been dishonest and has cheated on her numerous times. She’s finally gotten tired of his BS and he can feel her slowly slipping away. Not only that, but he is suspicious that she is cheating on him now! My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Hi Corey,

Well, me and my girlfriend have been together for a while. We never expected to fall in love. We just messed around in the beginning, but we caught feelings and started going out seriously. She was so happy and so was I, but I was still flirting with other girls on facebook and stuff like that. So she saw that and it completely broke her heart because she had already given me a chance before. (Not a smart thing to do on your part.) We eventually got over it, but still our relationship wasn’t the same. (You got over it, but she obviously did not. You destroyed trust by lying and continuing to not be congruent with your words and actions. She does not trust your masculine core.) I would call her a bitch because I would get mad. (That’s pretty weak. Men who understand women don’t call them a bitch when she reacts in a way that is not what they want or expect. Real men who understand women communicate with them in a loving and mature manner.) She let me see her phone, but I didn’t let her see mine. (You’re surprised she doesn’t trust you? SMDH) She would call me a lot. We would talk non-stop on the phone. Whenever I tried to leave, she stopped me; she would cry for me. (She had high interest in you.) So, I realized that I was being stupid and that I actually had a good girl in my life who I took for granted. (Sounds like it. Most guys don’t care until they realize she’s tolerating their inept/dysfunctional behavior less and less.) I would do everything I could to gain her trust back, and I did, but now she’s always quick to walk away. (You have conditioned her to not trust you because you rarely say what you mean and mean what you say.) We can never have our time like we used to. She always gives up so easily for every little argument, (Again, men who understand women NEVER ARGUE WITH THEM, EVER!!!!) instead of talking it out. She doesn’t call me like she used to. She only shows me she loves me sometimes. I tried testing her by walking away to see if she’ll stop me, but no, she was quick to let me go. (She has low interest and does not trust you. She’s giving up on you.) Now I feel like our relationship is doomed, but I really love her and will do anything to make it work. (Great, read my book 10-15 times to the point you know it so well you could give a seminar on the topic. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) She acts so different now. She acts like she doesn’t care even though she tells me she does. She just doesn’t do the things she used to anymore and it hurts. (Now you are starting to feel the pain you have been causing her. You only care about her when you are faced with the possibility of losing her. This is not a successful strategy to employ if you want to keep women who love you in love with you.) I feel like it wouldn’t bother her if we weren’t together. I also feel like there’s someone else involved. I feel like there’s another guy that shes hanging out with when she was ignoring my calls. Right now, I don’t know what to think? What do you think I should do? (Start taking her out on dates again. In your mind it should be as if you are re-starting the courtship all over again. Take her out on dates like I discuss in my book. THE COURTSHIP NEVER ENDS!!! Get her to talk as I discuss in my book regarding communication and getting her to open up by asking questions so she does 80% of the talking. STOP ARGUING WITH HER!!! Keep arguing with her and she will leave you for another guy, probably sooner rather than later. You should also book a phone coaching session with me personally ASAP by CLICKING HERE.)

Tom

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Published on March 25, 2012

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  1. Corey, spot on as always. I have been romancing my wife of 14 years opening doors reading up on all the great ways of pleasuring her on top of using the tools of your videos and book, I refuse to argue with her only want to communicate but she gets so defensive and i am an open book i never lie to her always answer every question and how i feel but do not get the same in return, she sees me when hurt or need incouragement but will not engauge like holding something back. I know she loves me you can tell and feel and spot on Corey with the wettness you know the difference. Dont understand ??

  2. Dear Corey
    Ur the best I should have read ur stuff ,2 ,1\2 years ago.i was with my husband for almost twenty years and to be abandoned by him for another woman because he was into BDSM and she became his Mistress Lisa oh well he has abused me in everyway a man can.and moved to my friends home for ,8 months till I moved into a GREAT 2 bedroom apartment with a GREAT big pool exercise room and sauna and excellent security.i was a registered healthcare professional for over 35 years and since I allowed myself to be used financially by my ex with more lies I allowed myself to be used for 46000 in personally bankruptcy ouch.u were right I allowed myself to be used.but how do I get financing for opening a franchise for a nursing agency the nurse next door.in Canada bankruptcy court is ,2 years and will be discharged.ouch I would like to return to my professional career but I sustained a back injury saving a patient but I could do my work since I would be the supervisor.but i am having heart issues an inoperable brain tumor it is stable but my health is????I need to get that back I am stubborn and everything I have done I did myself.i enjoy my peace and know what some of my true friends R.so I have gone thru feeling my pain grief and let myself really feel.i do not trust any man now but I had my old boyfriend who still loves me we were to be married but he cheated but since he asked for forgiveness.right now I do not think I will ever trust another man ever but I am no prude in the bedroom none of my lovers ever complained about that.i like ur attitude and read how some bashed u on the internet and I said that u would not give a s…t ok.so i would like to return to work but the nurse next door franchisee is 150000.,,how do I do this.I won awards for being a patient advocate I miss my passion.i know it is a one step at a time I am a new but have lost over 220 pounds and am now 200 pounds but I have great kegs ass and boobs and look pretty good for. A ,,,,,57 year old I have a baby face I have been told I l9k like in my forty’s.but again I should have left him ,16 years ago hind site.I truely loved him but u do not hurt another badly and keep blame them and put them into victim mode so this my story.zjust keep moving health then my finances then maybe my dreams??

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