How you can improve your confidence in your pickup, dating and relationship game, so you can have multiple choices with women.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email success story from a guy in his forties who has been a long-time fan of my work since he first found me about five years ago. He has read my book fifteen times and listens to my audio book every week to stay on top of his game. He originally found me after his seventeen-year marriage ended.
He shares details of how he uses my work to date about four women simultaneously, in between girlfriends. He has been in several long-term relationships. He shares how he easily dates women who most other people think are out of his league. He explains his mindset, and how he handles meeting and dating multiple women at the same time. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email.
Long-time fan of your work. Not only have I read the book at least 15 times, I listen to the audio version weekly to keep the lessons burned in my mind. If people follow your game plan, they will get the success with women they desire.
(The best success stories are always guys that read it 10, 15, 20 times. You get to know the book so well, you can teach it. When you’re in a situation, you know how to react. It’s not about being a robot, following everything to the fucking letter of what’s in the book. It’s understanding the philosophy, the mindset, the principles, the fundamentals, so you can read between the lines and be instinctual. You did so well, because you know the information. It’s instinctual at this point.)
Quick background, I’m in my 40’s, an average looking dude with a professional career. Six years ago, I got out of a marriage where I was with one woman for 17 years. I was back in the dating pool for the first time since pagers were how we communicated. I needed help in a bad way.
Luckily, a month in I found your work. I applied your techniques, and before I knew it I was able to date 4-5 women at a time, and these women were very attractive. I was the perfect example of a man who would be out with a lady and people must have said, “What is up with that guy?” given my company.
(They were thinking, “Why is she with that dude? She could do so much better with me.”)
It got to the point where I would typically be seeing 4 women at a time, with little effort. Hang out, hook up, and repeat. Whenever a woman caused drama, was not what I was looking for, etc., I would let them fall away and replace their spot in the rotation.
(You have to go out a least once a week with each of them. That becomes a full-time job, but if you schedule it properly, and you live your life on your terms, you can manage it.)
My goal was not to be a player, you understand, but let the women compete for my attention and let the cream rise to the top.
(It’s a great philosophy. You’re the prize. You’re the gift. Like Doc Love said, “When kitty cats compete, you win.”)
Nine out of ten times, women who were given the opportunity to miss my presence were always circling back for another chance.
(They don’t always come back, but most of the time they do.)
Over those years, by letting those women compete, I eventually had a several long-term relationships develop, but given the experience of the past, I understood that I always had options.
(This is the paradox of choice.)
Whenever a woman would not meet my standards, cause drama, etc., I never have hesitated to end the relationship, knowing I was a catch and should be treated as such.
(Think about the average guy who doesn’t have choice like that. They’re just happy to get somebody to go out with them. Their mindset is the complete opposite. It’s a scarcity mindset. Whereas, when you are able to get consistent results and repeatable successes, like that are in the book, why should you settle? You know you can replace somebody. You’re okay with being single for awhile.
If you don’t have choices, and you’re scared you’ll never find another person as good, then you’re going to put up with crap. You’re going to have to settle. Then you’re going to tell yourself a story that justifies that settling.)
The idea of settling or staying with a woman who did not meet my needs was never in the cards. I will add a note, I always made sure to court any long-term girlfriends like they were my new lover.
Most recently, I had to end a one and a half year relationship because of character traits that were hidden until we tried to live together.
(It’s like test driving a car. Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free?)
Out of an effort to give her a chance, I told her several times that her behavior was not acceptable to me.
(In a loving manner, you told her what your standards were and asked her to treat you the way you wanted to be treated.)
When she did not change, I hand no choice but to end the relationship.
(You gave her a chance. You either accept that they’re not going to meet your needs, or you say, “You know what, I know I can find somebody else. I know I can find somebody better.” As you become better, you attract better quality people.)
I did so quickly, because I knew there was no reason to waste time, and I had other opportunities awaiting discovery.
(I love your mindset.)
After taking a month to heal, get to the gym etc., it was back into the pool for me. Again, knowing your material backwards and forwards, it was like riding a bike, and within a month I was back to having a stable of women competing for my attention and chasing me. This is why I could stand up for myself and do what had to be done, because I KNEW there were plenty of fish in the sea, and I was a master fisherman.
(Good job dude. You’re a great student.)
This is just a reminder, that not only does this material help you find women to share in your adventures, it reinforces the lesson that if you’re not getting what you want, you can move on and see what else fate has in store for you.
(That’s pretty much how I think. I know it sometimes pisses people off, who think I should settle down, get married and be with one person. Maybe someday I will, but I’m going to keep living my truth, because it works for me. It makes me happy. And I want you to be happy. You’ve got to do what’s right for you. You’ve got to walk your path and live your truth.)
I thought you would find this story interesting.
Side note, I think I found a theme song for your material… LOL. Hear me out… “Dangerous Woman” by Ariana Grande. Why does this work? Because of the chorus that goes like this:
“Somethin’ ’bout you makes me feel like a dangerous woman. Somethin’ ’bout, somethin’ ’bout, somethin’ ’bout you makes me wanna do things that I shouldn’t.”
(Remember, women like guys that are kind of dangerous. Why do you think they date the bad boys? They’re unpredictable. They don’t know what’s going to happen next. It’s exciting and mysterious. It’s fun and passionate.)
This the true essence of being a 3% man. It is our difference from the crowd that makes women lose control and act in ways they have “never” done before. Because it is so rare for a woman to find us, they can’t help but fall for us, while the other men act like idiots and get ghosted and friend-zoned.
(The numbers are in your favor.)
I have literally lost count of the times women have said “you’re so different,” “I usually don’t do this,” “I can’t stop thinking about you,” or “you’re everything I want.” Again, these are women that people would think were way out of my league, and chose me over a mob of men.
I know this was long, but I wanted to share it with you, before I go out on the 4th date of this week, all different women, with a hot woman who adores me. This is all thanks to you. Feel free to use this material as you see fit coach!
(Great, outstanding job. And thanks for sticking around for the past five or six years. I appreciate all of you who have been with me for many, many years.)
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