Why acting jealous is a quick way to cause your lover to lose attraction for you and give you the “let’s just be friends speech.” Why acting jealous communicates insecurity and that you don’t feel like you deserve to be with the one you are with.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss three different emails from three different viewers. The first email is from a guy whose needy paranoid jealous weak behavior completely drove his fiancee to break up with him. He’s now trying to modify his behavior to get her back. The second email is from a guy who has successfully re-attracted his ex after dumping her and breaking her heart. However, after he broached the topic of where he stood with her she has been ignoring his texts. She told him afterwards it was bad timing for him to bring the subject up.
The third email is from a viewer who is about to go on the sixth date with a woman he met online. However, he has not had sex with her and after a month they are still only seeing each other once per week. She always wants to pay her half of the check and never reaches out to him after dates. They have gotten partially naked, but she said “tops only.” She sounds a little structured or a bit like a control freak.
“One of the biggest turnoffs in relationships is when the person who you are dating, in relationship with or married to is constantly getting insecure, paranoid and butt-hurt about someone else stealing you away from them or causing you to fall out of love with them, and in love with someone else. Jealousy is an insecure weak feeling of not being worthy or good enough to have someone else love you of their own free will. It is a feeling that you are somehow inadequate, inferior and that you fear losing your lover to someone better. The proper and healthy attitude to have is to see yourself as a catch and as a gift who has no equal. If your lover chooses someone else over you then it’s their loss and you should really feel that way. All you can do is put your best foot forward with the knowledge that it still might not be enough. The right person will stick around if you love them without fear or attachment, but everyone one will eventually leave you or cheat on you if you constantly act like a needy insecure jackass.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne