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In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss two different emails from two different viewers. The first email is from a viewer who shares a recent success story he had employing what he learned in my book to successfully seduce a woman he met. She was the first woman he was able to seduce solely by the merits of his actions, who was not a hooker he was paying for sex. He shares a long list of emotional and mental limiting beliefs he overcame during the past year which enabled him to seduce her successfully.
The second email is from a viewer who was able to successfully seduce a woman who blew him off after they first met. He shares what he did and said to get a second chance with her, and how he overcame several mistakes he made, which enabled him to create a great memory with her. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the bodies of their emails.
First Viewer’s Email:
Big fucking Thank You! You changed my life. Step by step, I changed myself. I am 29, I come from a fucked up family, and have big self-esteem problems. I was very needy and insecure, but with the help of your book, the audio one is a nice addition, I started to eliminate things that caused me fear of not being good enough, i.e: dental problems, weight, not knowing what to say, like ask questions, etc. (Human beings have two primary fears, 1) Fear that we’re not enough, in other words, fear we don’t have what it takes to succeed, and 2) Fear that we won’t be loved and accepted by our friends, family and peer group. If you are one of those people who is stepping out of that 87% into doing things you want and that please you, you’re going to hear noise from everybody in the 87%, because they’re going to want to keep you feeling, thinking and being just like them. We’re all surrounded by people who are trying to get us to conform to their way of thinking.) To gain some confidence, I did some practicing with random people, like talking to taxi drivers and similar situations. Then in my travels on a plane, I sat next to a nice girl and managed to keep the conversation by asking questions and so on. (Asking questions creates rapport. That’s why, if you take a sincere interest in a stranger by asking them questions, it creates the same vibe and energy as if you’re already friends. If you can get someone to talk about themselves for awhile, it makes them feel like you really care about them, and they will want to ask questions about you.)
I have had some up and downs, but today I went on my first date with this women from Tinder. I laid back, asked questions, sometimes talking too much, but then realized it, (If you notice you’re talking a lot, you should turn the conversation back to the person you’re talking to, to re-engage them and get them to talk), and asked another question. After coffee, we went to a park nearby, which was planned if things went well. (It’s important to think about the logistics of sex if you want to seduce somebody you’re on a date with.) Walking there, she bumped heavily against me. (If she’s attracted to you, she’s going to bump into you. It’s a good sign to look for, instead of putting your hands all over the woman. If she’s pursuing and touching you, you don’t have to worry about getting rejected.) There was an amusement park, one ride there. Then we sat down by a pond and sometime later started making out. (If she looks at your lips, you know you can go for the kiss.) After some time, I suggested going to my place less than 1 km away. There was no immediate yes, so I took one step back, then heavy kissing again. (If it’s too soon, you have to work on creating rapport for a while longer.) Then soon, we started walking. Then some smooth seduction, again by the book, two steps forward, one back, no sweet spots at the start. (The idea is to slowly get there. That should be the last place you get.) And in the end, it looked like the Rio 2016 indoor Olympics started a month earlier. It was actually my first sexual experience, if not counting Thai hookers. Yes, I was in quite a dark place with my life. If someone would have asked me a year ago if i could pull it off, I would have answered yes, but only with a hooker. (That is fucking great, to go from feeling like you have to pay for it, to having it happen naturally, easily and effortlessly.)King regards!
A Happy Man
Second Viewer’s Email:
I’m writing to you this evening with a letter of success, as I think you should know how much your work has changed my life. Back in June 2015, I left my ex-girlfriend of one year, as I felt I wasn’t being treated correctly. It was hard walking away from someone I still loved, but I had to do it. (Most people stay in relationships way longer than they know they should. It’s all about creating great memories, and if you arrive at that place where you realize your goals and values are not aligned, or the relationship just runs its course, it takes a lot of inner strength to end it with love and walk away.) I felt she was the love of my life at one point. Anyway, the break up was hard, and after reading your book, I realized I’d made some very needy mistakes that made me look weak in my ex’s eyes.
In September of last year, I moved to Manchester for University in England. I’m a 23-year old male and a Music Production student who is a DJ that plays around the country and on the party island of Ibiza. For the past 4 years, I have been surrounded by some of the most beautiful girls in Ibiza, and I’ve never had a problem taking them out on dates and ending things back at my place for a round of the indoor Olympics, or on a beach, ha-ha. The first night I got to Manchester, I walked through the City Centre and spotted this blonde who sat down on a bench and just blew me away. I thought to myself, “Wow, I cannot let this girl pass me by. I want her.” She had long blonde hair, which was nearly white, blue eyes, an amazing fashion sense and a body to die for. I approached her, got her contact info and rang her a week later to set a date. We didn’t end up going on the date, but a week later she called me on a night out drunk. (The idea is to extend an invitation, and if she really likes you, she’ll accept the date. What you’re looking for is enthusiasm.) I assumed she wanted me to meet her as you say in your book, “when a woman contacts you, assume she wants to see you.” So I went and met her, but she led me on a wild goose chase around town, she was rude on the phone to me, and she asked me numerous times what my name was. (You can tell, from Chapter 5 in my book called “It’s All In The Numbers,” this girl’s attraction level, on a scale of 1-10, is around a 5.) She didn’t show at the two bars she said she was in, but I thought to myself, “No this isn’t cool. I’m not chasing a girl around the City Centre at 4:30 in the morning.”
I deleted her number and didn’t contact her again until weeks later when she texted me with a new number. Yeah right. She was just hoping I’d get it and ask her out, ha-ha. (The average guy who gets jerked around like that is going to keep calling and texting her, asking where she is, but you let it go.) I made the decision to ask her out for drinks, where I swallowed some of my own pride, and she said yes. The day of the date came, and she didn’t show up, so I called her to say, “I’m here at the bench where I met you.” She gave me some BS excuse on the phone and said her mum turned up randomly to see her at University, so I used the takeaway on her, and we arranged a date for her to come over my place for drinks the following Saturday. I met her that Saturday, and we went to mine for a bottle of wine. I couldn’t get a word in, (Notice how her attitude changed when you withdrew your offer after she started jerking you around), because she was asking me so much about myself. She asked me what’s my favorite song, as I was showing her the music I created with my own vocals. I said, “It’s Paulo Nutini, Last Request.” She said, “Oh my god, I love that song,” as I turned it on on YouTube. I sang it to her, and she sang it to me at the same time, the connection between us was so strong, I could see it in her eyes. As I sang it to her, I moved in closer and kissed her passionately, we ripped each others clothes off and had amazing sex. (It changed the dynamic when you were willing to withdraw your offer.) I tried to set a date with her when she arrived back home from staying at her parent’s house, and she said, “Yes, definitely.” I told her to get in touch with me when she’s back, and she hasn’t. I texted her a week later to try to plan something, but I didn’t get a response, so I’ve just left it. (When you tell a woman to get in touch with you when you get back in town, but you don’t wait for her to get in touch, you come off as needy and desperate.) I guess maybe she just wanted to get laid, which is totally fine, ha-ha. (The problem is, you told her one thing and then did the opposite. You have to be congruent with your words.) Like you say in one of your videos, “Some women just want to get laid. Don’t take that shit personally.” (With this particular woman, I would let her do 100% of the calling, texting and pursuing from now on. She’s shown you she’s willing to reach out. The men should just start the courtship, so you only have to pursue for the first two or three weeks.)
Anyway, at least I have an amazing memory of us together and what a night it was. Maybe she’ll get back in touch one day. (It’s possible, but if you continue to pursue, it’s not happening.) Since then, I have been applying your techniques with every woman that catches my eye. I am on a second date with a girl this Wednesday I kissed on the first date. I took her for dinner and then to a cocktail bar. In the cocktail bar, she was looking at my lips, so I said to her, “I think you should bring those lips over here and kiss me. They look a little damp.” I gave her a James Bond smirk, she smiled at me and we made out.I’m applying all of your techniques since my break up last year, and my love life is amazing. I have no fear, I go for what I want, and I treat all woman the same. I did get rejected last week by a girl who was a customer in my workplace, but rejection doesn’t bother me. (You’ve got to get through the no’s in order to get to the yes’s, and all you need is one good one.) I just went and spoke to another girl. I apologize for the length of this email, but I will keep working on finding the perfect woman for me, and the woman every man knows they deserve. Thank you for your work, you are an absolute genius, and I’ve recommended your book to my brother, whose girlfriend dumped him, and he has now gotten back, thanks to you. (High-five your brother for me.) I’ve read your book 4 times, 11 to go my friend. (You’ve done well, but if you really want to become proficient and you want it to become instinctual, you’ve got to read it 10-15 times. There are no shortcuts to success.)
All the best,
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“The purpose of your life is to enjoy it. To create great memories during the course of your journey, so you can look back upon your life with elation and gratitude, instead of regret and remorse, as you get older and become satisfied with a life well lived.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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