Date Outside Of Your Comfort Zone

Why you should date people who are outside of your comfort zone and confidence level, and how this causes you to up your game, maintain your respect for them and remain attracted to them long term.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a woman. She details the many dating and sex opportunities she has with men, how they over-pursue, act weak, contact her incessantly, try to lock her down to a commitment and generally turn her off. She also talks about how she has three or four men she gives maybe dates to for the same evening, telling them to confirm the day before, so she can wait to accept their dates at the last minute if she does not find anyone better; and the guys predictably fall for this.

She is not satisfied with the quality of men she is attracting and is frustrated with her dating situation. The email gives good insight into what a woman has to deal with, and how hard it is for her to find a quality man who knows how to act and treat her like a lady.

“When we date people who are “safe” or below our level of confidence and success, over time we will lose respect and attraction for them, especially if they are unable to grow and step up to our level. Like attracts like. You should date in your own demographic. If you are a successful wall street executive, CEO or entrepreneur who enjoys business functions, talking about politics and world events, it’s highly unlikely you will find a suitable romantic partner in a bar or night club. You should spend your time around like minded people who have similar goals and values, and who have the same passions, hobbies and interests as you do. If you date in your demographic, your success, close ratio and romantic life will be much higher and fulfilling, than trying to hang with drunk college kids whose only goal is to get drunk and party.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne