Dating A Lot Leads To Relationships That Feel Meant To Be

Why dating a lot leads to relationships that feel like they were meant to be.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email success story from a 28-year-old guy in the UK who started following my work back in March. He read 3% Man twice and dated 20 different women he met online. However, the girl who would become his girlfriend he met at an event.

They’re now exclusive and she’s his first girlfriend ever. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

This particular email is a short little success story from a guy over in the UK. He’s 28 and started following my work back in March. He’s only been following me for six or seven months now. So like a maniac, he started applying what he learned in the book and was mostly doing online dating. He said he went out with 27 different women that he met online, hooked up with several of them. However, the girl that became his girlfriend, that was easy and effortless. They met at an event he was at.

That’s some of the things I noticed, like back in the day when I used to be in real estate, we had a marketing program where we stayed in touch with our existing clients, because a small percentage of your existing clients are like what you would call a giver. Meaning if you stay in contact, you provide great customer service. They’re always thinking about you and thinking about who they can send to you, who they can refer to you, that kind of thing.

So it’s usually like 3% to 5% of your customers are going to be people that are going to refer. The thing I always thought was interesting about that is more often than not, if you weren’t following the program and you weren’t staying in contact, you weren’t doing like client appreciation properties and things of that nature, maybe you got a little lazy and you just weren’t really managing your contacts very well, the referrals would drop and then you would start doing the program again.

What was interesting is oftentimes I would get referrals from people that I didn’t expect, and that was just the unique way you can kind of look at things and see that there’s something invisible going on here. I’m putting the intention out there. I’m doing everything I’m supposed to do with my existing clients. Yet I’m still getting people that show up that I had no connection to that I would have never expected a referral to come from. It was the same thing with women you may like. In this case, this guy is like really focused on online dating. Then all of a sudden, what happens? He doesn’t become exclusive with any of those women. He becomes exclusive with somebody that he didn’t even meet through online dating, but at the end of the day, he’s putting his intention out of the universe. He’s taking action and more things are happening.

It’s kind of a neat little success story that shows that all of your efforts, even efforts that go nowhere, still eventually lead to success.

Viewer Email:

Dear Coach,

I hope you are well.

I started dating in March 2025 after taking some time away to get my life in order. I’m 28, from the UK and had little success dating before I came across your work.

I read your book twice and started online dating. I dated a lot of women and got more confident as I dated more women and kept reading your book and watching online newsletters. I even downloaded your audio-book and incorporated it into my running and walking routines. 

Over the course of the year, I have dated nearly 20 women, which is a lot more than I managed in the previous 27 years combined and slept with several of them. It was a big achievement for me and I saw the change in my life having more confidence as women started noticing me more in public.

It just completely changes the vibe and to me, it’s just further evidence that there’s an invisible world going on here. You will see that if you take action in faith and trusting that things are going to work out for you.

After some success, I began figuring out what I wanted and in August I met someone through a work event and I felt her attraction to me as she kept looking my way. I remembered your advice and I went over and chatted for a minute, exchanged business cards before I had to leave for another meeting.

Well, I would have gotten the phone number on the phone and not exchange business cards, but same difference. If the girl really likes you, it’s not going to really matter.

I emailed her a few days later and set up a work meeting with her during the day.

OK, so now he’s taken the professional route, which I would not do that. If her interest is super high, it doesn’t matter. If her interest is low and you try to do this, you try to act like, “Oh, this is all a business thing,” then you try to get her out on a date, usually it’s going to blow up in your face, but this woman clearly had really high interest.

I was skeptical about doing this at first, but when I held the meeting we didn’t talk about work but flirted the whole time. 

So that just shows me he was kind of hiding his interest. Most of the time that’s going to blow up in your face, but this particular time was the exception to the rule, and it didn’t. That’s obviously because she had really high interest.

I asked her on an official date a week later, but she cancelled due to a family emergency. She suggested we reschedule for another day and I agreed and we had a first date.

So that’s the important thing. She cancelled but offered a reschedule. That means she’s interested. Women who don’t want to see you will come up with a really flat response with no emotion. “Oh hey, sorry I couldn’t make it,” and they’ll never mention a reschedule. It just means they weren’t interested to begin with.

We went for a drink and then to an arcade which created a lot of sexual tension. I followed your principles of hanging out, having fun and hooking up. She couldn’t wait to kiss me and we shared a passionate first kiss before the date ended.  

From that moment she was chasing me and I followed your advice by allowing her to chase and initiate seeing each other. I sensed her attraction was growing the more we dated so I knew what I was doing worked.

Well, you can see he’s not exactly following the book, but because attraction level cuts through everything, it didn’t really matter.

After six dates and countless hookups and time together, she slipped up by calling herself my girlfriend in a conversation. 

I looked at her and laughed and said, “Girlfriend? Do I get a say in this?” She laughed and said, “Let’s have a vote and I’m voting yes.” I then said yes and we made it official.

She is my first official girlfriend at 28. I’m having a cold beer tonight to celebrate as it feels like a huge moment for me, I couldn’t have done this without your book and videos. 

I will continue to read the book from time to time as I know complacency may happen. 

Thanks so much for everything. I can’t tell you how awesome I feel tonight.

Bob

Well, you got to get through your 10 to 15 reads, dude, because you’re going to need the relationship wisdom in the back of the book. A lot of guys that are in your position that got some success, they went through the book twice, they get their noodle wet and they’re like, “Oh, I’m an expert,” then they don’t ever bother learning anything about relationships. Then when things go sideways, they’re usually backpedaling and trying to learn that stuff. Usually by then, the damage is done.

So take what I say seriously and read the book 10 to 15 times, and then about every six months you should go through it again just to keep things fresh. If you’re just going to read the book twice and think you’re going to be on easy street for the rest of your life, it’s not going to happen. You’ll get some attainable success, which you have now because it’s still the early stages, but you won’t be able to sustain it because again, the relationship wisdom, communication, these are things you got to know that are really skills that don’t really apply in the beginning when you’re just starting to date, but you will need them when you become close and you’re in an actual serious long-term relationship for many months or a year or two. So congratulations on your success!

You see, even though he didn’t follow everything exactly as the book teaches, he did enough and did more things right than wrong that he still got to the Promised Land. So good job dude. Congratulations on your first girlfriend!

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