How to casually date, hook up & have no-strings attached sex with multiple women, while you figure out what you really want in a woman or relationship so nobody gets hurt, by being your authentic true self. It’s counterintuitive that in order to attract the kind of women you’ve always wanted into your life, that you actually don’t focus on meeting women, or trying to cause them to like you. As you focus on your purpose and go about your daily life, women will naturally be drawn to you because of the energy and friendly presence that you have.
It’s important until you get to a place where you are 100% clear about exactly the kind of woman that is right for you, that you continue to date and practice your skills of seduction. Why? So you can build your emotional strength and self-control in order to grow into the man you need to be to attract the ultimate woman for you. The following is an e-mail from a reader who is having a hard time wrapping his head around the fact that he is dating five different women! Not only that, but things are starting to become effortless for him. He writes in asking how to be authentic and honest about the fact he’s not looking for a relationship because he’s not sure exactly what he wants in a woman yet, so nobody’s feelings get hurt. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
What’s up man? I sent in several questions about a month ago and your advice really helped me! I’ve read over your book countless times now and really feel like I’m internalizing it! It’s amazing how easy all this stuff is when it all just kind of clicks and “I get it.” It’s just getting the mindset that was the hard thing! In the past, I had this mindset at one point but lost it. I had a very successful streak lately which helped me to understand many of the things you talk about.
One thing I gotta say that works so well is the making a date for a specific place and time, and then leaving it at that. (The difference that makes the difference with women who have borderline low interest is setting definite dates. It’s also helps you to be direct and get to the point with women so you can pass their tests, and so they find you even more attractive than before.) I’ll usually make the dates about a week out and then will not contact them at any point before the date. (Most men don’t do this. It causes women to wonder about you. This causes their curiosity and interest to go up before you have even gone out with them yet.)
If she reaches out first, of course I’ll talk. I’ll show up at her door or at the venue at the specified time. (Nice job! Practice makes perfect and helps you master all three methods of seduction.) I was always used to dating 1 woman at a time. Now it seems like I’ve almost bit off more than I can chew! Right now I’ve got 5 women in my life, which is kind of ridiculous! I don’t know if superman could do that! (If I was coaching him… piece of cake.) One of these girls was one that I thought I blew it with, or she just was not into me on the first date. She seemed a little into me, but she really kept her distance the whole time.
Walking down the street, I would look up and she’d be like 10 feet in front of me! Even though she’s gorgeous and has a great personality, I just did not feel like a man when I was out with her. You talk about being in my masculine and her being in her feminine, well I got a first hand glimpse at that! I never contacted her and about a week and a half later, she called me all nervous sounding, saying that she was returning my call. I never called her. I did not call her back.
A few days afterwards, she showed up at a venue she knew I would be at, and I treated her just as I would a friend. (You were indifferent. Why? This kind of shit happens to you all the time. Plus, she was a lame date. Most guys have never had the experience of rejecting a woman before.) When I was leaving, she followed me out the door and proceeded to ask me out. She was really nervous.
I guess she’s really shy or guarded, cause I really thought she did not like me. I figure, why not? (She’s chasing you… resistance is futile, lol.) I do really like some things about her, and hopefully she’ll be in her feminine on this next date. Do you have any advice along the lines of dating multiple women? The last thing I would ever do is string along any woman, but as of now I have no idea which one I want to be with. (Live your truth.
Be authentic and speak from your heart. NEVER agree to relationship terms that do not resonate with your heart, no matter how good the pussy is. Why? It means better will come, so be patient until you do feel it in your heart. Also read my article on dating multiple women & how to keep a relationship casual when she wants to be serious.) I mainly wanted to let you know in this email that I’ve studied many different “pickup” techniques in the past, and yours are the best. No gimmicks. No stupid PUA crap. Just being 100% genuine! (Thanks man, I appreciate the kind words.
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