Some simple principles you can apply that will make the difference you need to start meeting and dating the kind of women you may presently feel are out of your league, so you can finally attract and keep the kind of woman you feel you really deserve.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who has been following my work for about a year now. He admits he only watches my videos and has only read a few pages of my book. He says he has gained enough insight from my videos to determine what he needed to tweak in his dating game, so he could attract a woman who totally knocks his socks off. She regularly tells him things such as, “Do whatever you want to me,” “I want to take your last name if we are married,” “I have never loved a man like the way I love you,” etc. He says he had plenty of romantic success with women before he found my work, but my videos have been what made the difference with spectacular women for him. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email:
Dear Coach Wayne,
Some of the things you are about to read will make you smile and chuckle, other things won’t. First, the good… your shit works! (I often say, just apply the things that I teach, and you’ll see they work for you.)
Me: I have a solid and developing career in education, and the advanced degrees that go with the profession. I have traveled, studied, and worked abroad. The fruits of the world are not unknown too me. Wink, wink, nudge, nudge. I have had plenty of romantic success before and after a much-needed divorce about eight years ago.
Her: She is a double Ivy Leaguer from schools in Providence, RI and New Haven, CT with a medical degree from a certain renowned university in Baltimore, MD. Physically, she’s 5’9,” incidentally 1.5 inches taller than I am, non-synthetic DD’s, in great shape, and a natural blonde. In short, she’s an alpha female — smart and hot with plenty of men chasing her online and on the street.
You: My game was good, but your advice tightened it up greatly. Specifically you said:
* Let the woman come to you. (I did a article and video called, “Why Women Prefer To Chase Men,” where I explain why women naturally, instinctively and innately will do this if you set it up properly like I talk about in my book.)
* Keep off the technology – phones, PDAs, PCs. Use them to set dates only. (You don’t want to become her gay, male girlfriend. If you spend too much time on the phone, you don’t have much to talk about on your date, and there’s no mystery.)
* Keep 80/20 contact. If things are going well, let her contact you most of the time.
* If things are going sideways, let her come to you. Forget the Hollywood drivel. (Like I talk about in the book, women are like cats. Cats leave when they get bored. When they miss you, they’ll come back. Don’t force things and pursue when she backs off.)
Of course, all of the above are closely related, but they all ring stunningly true. Almost every day or night, she says things to me, like “Do whatever you want to me,” “I want to take your last name if we are married,” a big deal for a progressive feminist wavering and native New Yorker, and “I have never loved a man like the way I love you.” (That’s because you give her the freedom to come and go as she pleases. The relationship becomes her idea because, at the end of the day, women are the ones who do the choosing anyway.)
Secondly, the bad: I have never read your book. (You don’t need the information in the book until you actually do need it, and then at that point, it’s usually too late. My job as a coach is to teach fundamentals and to point out where your thinking may be flawed. There’s a 99.99% chance that you’re going to need the information that you don’t think you need right now.) I tried to download the free online version, started to read it, but could not re-open the book in my browser. My solace is that I have been able to tweak my game sufficiently to land a spectacular woman just from a year of watching your videos… and a couple pages of the book. Ha!
To you, I say thank you, and to your more experienced readers I say, Coach Wayne’s advice is great for neophytes and old hands too. (If you think you’re taking a shortcut by not reading my book, you’re really short cutting your success.)
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