In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who shares how my work has made an impact in his success with women, and how it has helped him get clear about defining his goals. He is twenty-two and was originally going to college to become a lawyer. He now wants to get into real estate and eventually wants to work for his government in a foreign minister type of position for his country, the Netherlands. He also would like to have a leadership role in the United Nations someday. Just like I discuss in my book, the more successful a man becomes with women, the more he will focus on his mission and purpose in life. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email:
You are receiving this email because, (a) I want to thank you deeply for the information that you have shared on your website and on YouTube, (b) because I want to tell you that you are amazing. Corey, damn you rock. Please keep up the good work, (c) because I want to share my still-developing success story with you and, (d) to ask a question. Before I introduce myself I would like to thank you deeply for the information that you have shared on your website and YouTube. You are a true humanitarian. I will certainly make a donation.
My name is Bob. I’m 22 years old and I live near Maastricht, a city in the Netherlands. I was born in Somalia, and my parents came to the Netherlands as refugees when I was 2 years old. I am raised with an Islamic background. Since I was 10 years old, I wanted to become a lawyer. I did the highest educational forms in high school, and eventually started with law school at Maastricht University in 2011 when I was 18. I thought I was doing what I liked, and that being a lawyer was what I wanted. (I notice how you said it was what you liked. However, you want to focus on what you love, what you have a passion for and what you have a burning desire to do. You’ll never work hard enough to become really great at something you “like” and not love. The people who make the most money absolutely love what they do.) I got very good grades. I am a high achiever, and I am doing a second masters now, but I used to smoke lots of weed as well. It’s the Netherlands man. (I’m with you there dude. It’s great, but when you do it all the time, then you’re escaping from life, and that’s not healthy. The idea is, you want to try to be healthy about 80% of the time.) I am very intellectual, introverted at some times and very social, extroverted and outgoing most of the time. Most of my teenage years, I was chilling on street corners with dealers. It was all about hip-hop and idolizing gangster culture. I was hanging around with people far below my intellectual level, but I liked them for who they were, and most of them saw the best future criminal lawyer of Holland in me. I started smoking weed when I was 15 years old. When I was 18, I started to use some more funny stuff that goes along with lots of alcohol on a weekly basis – “Party like a rock star,” like you say. I tried to quit and kick the bad habits a couple of times, but it never worked out for the long run. I was always thinking, “I’m still young. I’ll make serious attempts to stop when I get a serious job,” (That’s obviously the story you were telling yourself), because using drugs didn’t affect my personal and business life. At least that’s what I was telling myself. That was my basically my life from age 15 to 22. (When it comes to people who have drug and alcohol problems, it all stems from a failure to feel. Until that person hits a wall and realizes they need to make a change, they’re not going to do anything about it. You’ve got to participate in your own rescue.)
Let me take you to the beginning of August 2015. I stumbled across some of your videos and articles on the internet, because I messed up with a certain girl, etc. (You didn’t stumble upon anything. You showed up right on time. You were ready, open and seeking a solution.) Basically, I wanted to improve my game. So here I am, watching one of your videos where you say that you have written an eBook. I love to read, and while I was reading your book, I got a feeling like, “Daaaaamnnn, this shit is real.” The truth is self-evident. I have currently read your book 8 times in a period of 2-3 months. (That’s a pretty good effort dude.) I got kind of complacent with reading when I read your book 6 times, because I think of myself as a very good student and a quick learner, which I proved to myself when I started with studying 24 hours before exams and still got good results. I motivated myself to repeat, because we all know who’s the mother of skill now, yep, and I’m on my 9th reading now. (Repetition is the mother of skill. It’s like the great Aristotle said thousands of years ago, “Excellence is not a singular act, it is a habit. You are what you do repeatedly.”)
I always thought my game was alright, but when I put your stuff into practice, oh man, I got on a whole other level. (That’s why I say all the time, even if you don’t think I know what I’m talking about, if you just apply the things I teach, you will see they work for you.) The most amazing part was finding my emotional center. I didn’t even think about the possibility that something like this could be possible. You gave me a kind of superpower, ha-ha, and in some way, you put me, intentionally or unintentionally, on a spiritual path as well. (Every spiritual tradition talks about being in the present moment and not letting your fears impact you, because when you’re not living in the present moment, you’re not accepting your presently reality for what it is, and you’re going to suffer.) This new power gave me the urge to find out more about kundalini energy, chakras and meditation, but it affected, like you say in your book, other areas of my life as well, and that’s the most amazing part. I can tell you a whole lot more about what happened in my life, but I know you like your messages short, so I’ll end this message with telling you the life goals I have set for myself now.
I don’t want to become a lawyer anymore. In five years I want, (a) to have a company that makes millions, I have already made the first steps towards my own company, but currently I’m still a university student who’s broke as a joke, (It’s like what Maya Angelou said, “You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead pursue the things you love doing, and then do them so well that people can’t take their eyes off of you”), (b) make a lot of progression in jeet kune do, pangamot and eskrima martial arts, and bodybuilding, (I’m not familiar with those martial arts, but I think that’s awesome), (c) to be worth at least € 5.000.000, and (d) to have top health and live a long-term, healthy lifestyle. In ten years, I want to (a) have a business in real estate, (b) be minister of foreign affairs in the Netherlands, I think that’s a similar to Secretary of State in the US, you know John Kerry things, (c) be worth at least € 500.000.000, (d) be extremely advanced in jeet kune do and bodybuilding, and (e) speak fluently in Dutch, English, Somali, Russian, French, Chinese, Spanish, Arabic and German. (Keep in mind, the only way you’ll achieve those things is if you have an emotionally compelling reason. The idea is not to focus on making money for the sole purpose of making money.) In 15 years, I want to, (a) be worth € 2.000.000.000, (b) be Secretary-General of the United Nations or start a similar international organization, and (c) be a jedi in jeet kune do and bodybuilding.
The funny thing is, having a great relationship with a woman, or having children is not something that popped up in my mind as a life goal, while nevertheless, I find these things very important as well. Defining my goals made things clear. (You have to have an emotionally compelling vision for your life.) Thank you coach. I owe you big time, and in the future, I will make generous donations on your account. You’ve got my word on that. You are a life changer. Thanks for being alive and may the force be with you! Namasté!
With love from the Netherlands,
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“The more successful a man becomes with women, the more he will become productive and focused on his goals, mission and purpose in life. The more successful a man becomes in his career or business, the more he will embody masculine energy and the more attractive and desirable women will find him. Focusing on your goals will give your life purpose and meaning.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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