Why you should always wait for a woman to respond to you texts, emails or phone messages before sending more, or you risk turning her off by making yourself look insecure, needy, desperate, weak and therefore, unworthy.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who had one date with a woman he really liked. He met her through an online dating site and the date seemed to go well. He says he went for the kiss at the end of their date but did not get to finish it because there were too many people around. A few days later he contacted her to invite her out for a second date. Nothing, she did not respond.
In total he sent five texts and/or phone messages. She responded to none of them. She is no longer active on the dating site for over three weeks. He writes in asking if he should send another long gushy message professing his desire for her in hopes that she responds this time since she is a nine on a scale of one to ten in his eyes. He also provides his text exchange between the two of them before she started ignoring him.
“We tend to find potential lovers more attractive when they also find us attractive. However, attraction will be ruined when we think that by liking someone excessively or talking about our feelings at length when we barely know them, will make them like us more. It creeps women out when they talk to a guy once or go out on one date with him, and he proceeds to start acting like they are in a relationship, or he blows her phone or email up with excessive texting and messages while ignoring the fact that her responses are getting shorter, less frequent and less interested. Courtship and dating is much like a game of tennis. You must wait for the other person to hit the ball back over the net by patiently waiting for them to return your message or phone call. Not waiting and continuing to contact her to try and force a response, is like turning the automatic tennis ball machine on high, and machine gun firing countless balls rapid fire at her. If you do that, she will run off the court and run away from you for good.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne