How to determine if you have a chance to get an ex-girlfriend back if you recently got dumped, she pushed you away, is now dating someone else and said that she needs to deal with her own problems right now.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who got dumped by the woman he was in love with for a long time recently. When they were much younger, they dated and then broke up. They did not see or speak to each other for twenty years. Then he found out he had a son with her. They got back together. He says their relationship was great. Then her father moved in with them. Her father started to take over the house. One day they had a heated exchange, and her father pushed him too far. This led to a loud argument. Her father then sucker punched him. Even though he never laid a hand on her father, she kicked him out and dumped him. He tried chasing for a while, but lately she has been ignoring him. He has since told her that he will let her go, but to get in touch if she changes her mind. He asks my opinion and if I think he has a chance to get her back. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email:
Hi Coach Corey,
I love your videos. You speak in a straightforward way, and it’s so refreshing to NOT hear the usual BS. I am in a pickle. The woman I’m in love with is a long time love. We met when we were very young and fell in love. We had a fight and broke up, and we didn’t see each other for 20 years. After we reconnected, I found out I had a son. WOW. We started dating and moved in together.
Things were strange at first, as she was divorcing her husband. I stayed in it and fell deeper in love. We had rocky times and broke up two more times, but we quickly got back together. We loved each other, and things were good. We did have fights. Who doesn’t? (Only men who don’t understand women and men who date women who are terrible communicators.) But the kicker was this… her father moved in. We got along fine for a few months, then he started taking over the house and pushing my buttons until one day, on July 19, 2015, THE DAY THE EARTH STOOD STILL, he and I both reached our limit. We had a very loud and angry argument that resulted in him sucker punching me, and she kicked me out. I never laid a hand on her father, but it ended us. I tried emailing and talking to her. She responded for a week, and then she stopped and asked me not to call her, saying she was emotionally fucked, needed to deal with it, wished the best for me, etc. However, I found excuses to call and get her to talk to me. I went over to her house a couple of times with her permission to get my things, and in the process, we hugged and kissed each time I saw her. Now, she is completely ignoring me. (You shouldn’t be chasing after someone who is ignoring you. You should review my article and video, “7 Principles To Get An Ex Back.” You can only make things work if the other person wants to make the effort, but she’s trying to push you out of her life.) I found out she met an attractive younger man. We are older. I am 50, and she is 43. She is very smart, independent and quick witted as hell.
After I regained what was left of my senses, I sent her a voice message saying that I was going to do the admirable thing and leave her alone. (That doesn’t make you look strong. When someone pushes you away, you shouldn’t call them anymore. You should walk away and never look back. If they miss you, they’ll get in touch with you.) I told her I want to work things out, but if that’s not what she wants, we have nothing more to talk about. I also told her the door was open if she changed her mind, and that I loved her. There has been no contact between us ever since, five days. I’m biting nails. Do I have a chance in hell of getting her back? (That’s approval seeking behavior. Flip the script and think about it this way… does she have a chance in hell of getting you back? She ditched you for a younger guy. Where’s the self respect and self love in chasing after that? Assume it’s over and you’ll never hear from her again. Read my book 10-15 times, and get out there and ask out 100 women in the next month. Watch my video, “Improving Your Social Skills,” and it will help you meet some women and develop a state of abundance.)
P.S. She is the one who stole my heart, and I can’t imagine being without her.
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“You need to pay attention to the way people treat you. A person’s actions are true reflections of their intentions. People who say they care will treat you like they care. They will respect you and your boundaries. They will never violate your self or your dignity. They will be sincerely interested in who you are, your success and your well-being. They rejoice in your success and always offer words of encouragement during difficult times. They will make the effort to be in your life without any prodding, asking or begging on your part. They will sincerely want to be there. Never try to force people to want to be in your life or to want to stay in your life. The right people will choose to make the effort. Let them choose to be in your life instead of chasing the wind.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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