Do I Still Have A Chance?

How to determine if you still have a chance to attract the girl you really want or re-attract a girl you previously drove away by screwing up, acting needy, over-pursuing, etc., or if things are totally finished and you’ve completely blown your chances and should let it go.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss five different emails from five different viewers. The first email is from a viewer who originally found my work while trying to get his ex girlfriend back. He’s moved on and started dating a new woman. Things were going great for the first month until he started going right back to his old ways of focusing on a relationship and locking her down to a commitment. She started backing away, but he had learned by now to stop moving forward and wait to hear from her. She reached out after a few days and they started hanging out, having fun and hooking up again. She told him she wanted to keep it as a friends with benefits type of relationship for now. He wonders what to do next. The second email is from a viewer who got dumped by his girlfriend after four months. They never had sex because he was being too nice. After two months she has started reaching out to him again.

The third email is from a viewer who met a woman from work and started dating. He then blew his girlfriend off for her. Afterwards, he started focusing on a relationship with the new woman and got the let’s just be friends speech. After three months on no contact she reached out to him over the holidays, he mentioned getting a drink with her to catch up, and then she stopped responding. He wonders what he should do next. The fourth email is from a viewer who got dumped by his girlfriend, but he has continued to chase her even though he bullshits himself into believing that he’s not chasing. The fifth email is from a viewer who started dating a woman who had just broke up with her boyfriend two weeks prior to their meeting for the first time. Things were great for about a month, but because he kept acting like a needy woman, she told him that she needed space over the holidays and she got back together with her ex.

“Fear is the greatest robber of peoples dreams and also what holds them back from moving on from bad situations and relationships that have run their course. Most people don’t like to be single out of their fear that they will never find anyone or find anyone better. Healthy relationships with healthy people who have similar goals and values to you, are effortless and easy. Relationships full of drama, conflict, pain, rejection and disappointment, are like swimming upstream in a river or being stuck in a rip current. If you keep swimming against the current, eventually you will wear yourself out and drown metaphorically. There are 6.5 billion people on this planet, with the sexes being fairly evenly split. If you are tired of struggling with people and relationships that no longer serve you or that are full of drama, challenges and difficulty, your odds of finding someone whose goals and values are more aligned with your own are pretty good. Life is too short to settle for less than what you really want and deserve. You should choose very carefully the person who you spend your life with, because 95% of your happiness or misery will come from that one decision. That’s something to think about.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne