It’s always best to make a fresh start and find someone new once you have blown your chances with someone you really like. The danger in not moving on, is that you will get hung up on a woman you can not have, which will keep you from meeting a woman you can have. As time goes by, human beings tend to forget the negative emotional impact or bad things that happened in their relationships previously. We literally look at our past through rose colored glasses as time moves on. If a woman thinks you are a jerk or a putz who is clueless when it comes to creating attraction, and then you do the work on yourself to become a man who understands attraction, it’s possible a woman who rejected you in the past will forget the bad things and give you a second chance. I have gotten second chances before. They are extremely rare, but they do happen.
I wrote about this particular incident in my book. It should be considered the exception to the rule. I went out on a date with a woman who I really wanted for a long time. She always had a boyfriend and was therefore unavailable. However, I ran into her when she was recently single. I made a date and everything went perfect. However, when she did not call me back in the time I expected her to, I became impatient and assumed she was blowing me off. I wrote her a nasty e-mail telling her how pissed off I was at her. She was actually on vacation and therefore out of town and unavailable. She wasn’t too happy with me when she got back and found my e-mail. I felt like a jackass. I completely blew my chances unnecessarily all because I was needy, insecure and impatient. She blew me off.
Almost 4 years went by. In that four years, I had gotten my shit together and finally learned to understand what women wanted and how to handle my interactions with them successfully. I was walking downtown with a friend of mine. There she was after four years. She was just as radiant and beautiful as ever! I only stayed to talk for a minute or so, and then I said I had to run to catch up with my buddy. We were both pretty shocked to have seen each other after all of this time. I figured if I had any chance, she would contact me. This was a Friday night. On Monday I got an e-mail from her telling me how surprised she was to see me and expressing her disappointment that I did not stick around to chat longer. She made it easy for me, and this time… I was prepared. I took full advantage of my second chance. That is why you must move on when you have blown it. Maybe someday you will run into each other again when you have your shit together. Like I said before, it’s the exception rather than the rule. The following is an e-mail from a reader. He acted needy and blew his chances with a girl he really liked. He wants to know the likelihood of his getting a second chance. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
I’ve heard some of your YouTube videos and I like what you have to say. I do have a question though. Is it possible to get back a woman you like, AFTER you’ve been “needy”? (Yes, but it is slim to none. If she has blown you off, then you need to move on and start meeting and dating other women. Maybe you will hear from her down the road. Maybe not. That is why you should take the time to practice what I teach on new women so you can learn how to properly apply what I teach. Then, if your girl contacts you again, you will know where you went wrong in the past so you can start doing the right things going forward.) I like a this woman, we’ve hung out a bit for about 4 months, and the texts and conversation has stopped. (That is a sign you have done and said things that turned her off.) I’ve been examining my life and my life with her, and she’s drifted. That’s my only question. I like to hear your input. (You need to read my book ASAP! You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)
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