For men who don’t understand women, how they communicate and the place they are coming from, they usually will incorrectly label them as liars.
There are two things that are important to understand about how women communicate with men: 1) women are emotional beings who say and do things based upon how their man is making them feel in the moment 2) women will push and prod their men to say what they really feel and to be congruent with what they say, and who they are. It’s all about helping their men grow into the fullness of who God created them to be. When a man says things that he really does not mean, a woman can tell. Women don’t like this weak behavior in men. It makes them feel uncomfortable, and like they cannot trust their masculine core’s.
When a feminine woman is around a masculine man who is acting weak and not congruent with his words, it forces her to move into her masculine to get things done. It forces her to act like a man. Women resent this. Feminine energy is all about opening up and receiving the strength of a man’s love and presence. Women are going to be the most sexually enticing and attractive to men when they are in their natural feminine essence. Anytime a weak man forces his woman to become more masculine to make up for his shortcomings, she will resent it, become angry and bitchy, etc.
Women like men who are able to be decisive. To make decisions, and then take action upon them. Women don’t want to decide where you should take them to dinner. They want you to invite them to a fun filled evening that you have planned out. Making plans and arrangements is a masculine quality. Being playful, fun and non-serious are the best ways to interact with women that will keep them in their natural feminine essence. You can’t talk a woman into the bedroom. However, being playful, having fun and keeping each other laughing is the right environment to create that will make sex possible. It’s in the process of having fun, smiling and feeling good that causes a woman’s emotions to become engaged that leads to things “just happening” in the bedroom.
Women want and demand the best from their men. A woman is designed with qualities that will naturally force the men she loves, and who love her, to grow into the fullness of who God created them to be. Women are designed to help you get the best out of yourself. It’s in those times that we have disagreements and moments where things feel very uncomfortable, that we are called to a higher standard. Why? Because in order to stay together, two people must grow together. They must expand and become more. The more successful you become as a man, and as long as you have chosen a good woman, the more she will be proud of you. It’s really all about helping you become you, so she can be who she really is. Any kind of BS or saying things you do not mean, will not be tolerated or overlooked by women. They can’t help it. When they sense weakness in their man, they want the weakness to go away so they can feel safe and comfortable again.
The following is an e-mail from a reader. He is convinced that women lie to men. However, it’s obvious he does not understand women, how they communicate or what they want from a man. I don’t think he has read my book yet. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn the basics of approaching, dating & understanding what women really want in a man. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
When women flat out lie, do they know that it is a lie, or is it something that is in nowhere land in their brain? (You must understand something about women. When they say something to you, its based upon how you are making them feel in the moment. It’s not about being logical or sticking to something they said. Women say things based upon how they are feeling in the moment. So from that perspective, what they are saying is true. You can’t take it personally. That is why a woman can tell you she loves you one minute, and then tell you the next, how she hates your guts because you don’t clean out the garage, etc. Women are driven by emotions. Their emotions are constantly in flux. As a man, you simply need to understand this, and respond to them based upon how they are showing up in the moment.)
They seem to stick with the lie forever… so even 10 plus years later they remember it… and stick with it. (Women bring up the same situations over and over from the past during disagreements because they want you to understand that what your are doing/or have done is hurting them in the same way you did before. That is why they bring up things and complain about what you did in the past when you thought that particular incident was resolved. Women are making emotional connections to stories and events from the past and present when they talk with you. They are better at giving you context in hopes that you figure out how and why you hurt them; so you stop it immediately and resolve the situation. But you must realize that if you hurt them again down the road the same way emotionally, they will bring up every other incident from your past that caused them to feel the same emotional pain. It’s incredibly frustrating for men who do not understand this dynamic. Men want to resolve things and move forward from it. However, women will constantly bring the same things up over and over again. This makes men angry because we are achievers and like to put things behind us. Women who constantly bring up the past to men who do not understand, feel like they can’t be successful resolving disagreements, or making them happy. Eventually, he just agrees to everything she wants in hopes of not upsetting her. That is how most men deal with the situation… to avoid it altogether.)
Also for example: you tell a woman yes, and 1 second later see tells you that you said no. Whats up with this???? (Women are smart. They look at your actions. If your words and actions are not congruent, they will call you out on it. Even though you said, “yes”, your body language and tone communicated you really meant “no.” Women will always try to get a man to be congruent with who he says he is. Even when he says yes, she can tell what his real answer is. That’s what women want from you. They want you to be real and honest. Not just try to placate them. They want you to stand up and be a man. To say what you mean, and mean what you say. They will needle you until you do, or until you get so pissed off that you leave. It’s all meant to help you grow and become all that you are capable of becoming. The more successful and happy you become, the more you will fill her up with your love and your presence. Women are designed to help you expand, so don’t get all butt-hurt when they challenge you. Just love and accept women for who God created them to be. To stimulate us guys to be our best. If we can be our best, our women can dance, play and enjoy being women. Why? Because the men have everything handled.)
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